Hello,
I am an American and I am not yet a convert to islam.
Lately my husband (of 7 years) and I have hit a rather large rough patch in our marriage.
I had to return to USA in March 1, 2018 (3 months) to have a surgery on my broken knee. There have been several serious other health complications from an old injury to my kidney. My health has caused delays to my return all along the way. While I am in USA I have to handle some finacial problems for my mother and help her attend to her own health concerns. This has also caused a delay as she has to do a surgery too, but is required to engage in a phyical therapy program. It has also made everything finacially tight for us in the USA and in Morocco.
My husband had to remain in Morocco due to the horrible immigration process making it impossible to have him accompany my mother and me to USA. This has added to an already strained situation. Now my husband is suggesting our marriage is over. I believe his business partner (also an American woman) has been encouraginghim into this action.
I disagree with a divorce under these circumstances. I refuse to agree to him having a second wife as it is not legal under American law.
He has a history of alcoholism and addiction. His business partner encourages him to engage in his addictions too. I believe that he has returned to using heavy drugs due to the lack of alcohol during Ramadan. I believe being alone with his addictions is driving him to feel this way. It also makes him violent with strangers (yes, under the influence of the drugs has been violent with me too). I fear for his safety far more than I am concerned of mine.
He tells me he is unsatisfied with our not being able to have any children of our own. We had discussed kafala, but he was not in cooperation to pay to do it legally. A few months ago I discovered that he was using Tinder. And I believe he has been socializing with women fron the site.
Now he is not talking to me on the phone, and I was informed in a text message he is taking the rent money so he can move from our apartment in Marrakech. He will move everything into a different house that is in a village outside Marrakech. I suspect he may have found a younger girlfriend, and she may have a connections in the village where he plans to go. I believe he has lied about our mariage and presented himself as single. His face book page says he is now single.
His moving will disolve our home of residence as I am not there to maintain it. I know aproximately the area, but am unsure where exactly he will be living when I return. And as he is not going to pay the rent and I don't have a way to contact the owners of the apartment, I will in effect be homeless.
I seriously wish to avoid any type of divorce under these circumstances. And, I am hoping to avoid it all together. I am an old woman with very few financial options. He has possession of everything I have in the world.
How do I ensure my husband cannot divorce me in while I am in USA and away from Morocco?