need advise

I don't know what
Country you are in but he sounds kinda shady.......i'd be wary of ulterior motives....Use your natural feminine instincts...

Rather than using instincts i suggest u behave weird and start testing him.
Which country is he from and which country is he coming to

Hi Mary
I am more or less in the same situation. Where do you live? Where does he live? Why he doesn't go to live with you?
I am quite interested in your story because I think we can both help each other. Remember, there's always a nice man waiting out there for us, so my advice would be try not to be focused on him. But, please, do write me  back as I feel quite interested and I want to help you as I might need your help. I am Spaniard and I am going out with a British guy. We are far away but he doesn't want to move out in Spain, for an important reason I guess. I will tell you more about this if you want to listen to it.
Take care and happy new year Mary
Raquel

SWM looking for....just kidding. That one was for John C. At least this site seems populated by grown ups. Nice to meet you all (that means I've read the forums) hope to get some good info from this site. Can't wait to share with the wife, who's fast asleep right now. By the way Mary 1900, met my wife on line but  had some seriously BAD experiences before I got it right. Be careful. David

mary1900 wrote:

Hello,

I need to ask for some advice. I met a man on the net 3 years ago. we have been talking online and on the phone for 3 years now. He has his visa and is coming here soon.

sometimes i feel he is not telling the thruth about certain things. When i confront him he always has an fast answer, for instance... He called me once from a number that he said was his cousins. but when i called it backed he answered, I have a feeling he is lying about something but i am not sure. i really don't know what to do. He tells me he loves me and that i changed his life. I am worried i am being played for a fool

When i confront him on certain things he does say to me. " don't say that to me again". I can't feel if he is being honest or not. I fear there is another woman he is coming for. I am the one who sent him the invite . i know they ways follow your senses. But the thing is, i am not 100% sure i am right.

can someone shed some light on this for me, I really don't know what to do.

regards
mary

Which country are you living in? And where is he coming from? Have you flown to his country to meet him already?

better keep the distance

Have you ever met this guy in person? It's very important you know.. If he has something to hide, it's much easier for him to do it from a distance, by phone and chatting online. But if you meet him in person before you get him an invitation, it would probably be a revealing experience.
Try it. And be straight-forward with him.

Hi Mary,

All I can say is BE CAREFUL especially with the people you meet in internet!!! A lot are just playing. They can tell whatever will make them please you. They can be your bf, lover, etc. They can say they are available, single, divorced, etc. They will try to get your attention and make you in love with them.  And finally, they can have gfs as many as they want in internet!

With the way you told your story, I can sense that you haven't met the guy in person yet. Three years is soooo long enough not to meet you in person even if he is at the other country. How many times have you spoken with him over the phone? Did he give you all his contact details (addresses or telephone/mobile numbers)? Did you see him in webcam or just by his photos? How many photos you got from him? Did he send you his real passport copy? Did he tell you where and which company he works? Did you try checking his profile on net? It will help!

I will tell you something for you to reflect...if the guy is really interested of you, he will make way to meet you at the soonest possible time (either he will come where you are or he will ask you to come over to his country) and not that after 3 years, he will give you his contact details, he will call you always, you can also call to him anytime and he will appreciate.

Will you please answer me honestly to this question: Did you offer to get him a visa at your own cost? How about the air ticket fare, is he going to buy his own ticket or you will provide it? Is he not asking any single penny or help from you? I can tell from your answer if he just using you or not.

Mary, I have heard with so many ladies with same experience like yours. I don't want you to experience the same. So again I repeat, be careful.

Hope we could have more time to chat and will tell you a lot of advices based on my own experience. i don't wanna write it all here.


Ciao,

Soc