what is the best age difference for marriage?

No I don't think age matters if your in love, unless the other one has no life experience yet and has not discovered much of the world. I am a female and 9 years older than my husband and we are going strong, so good luck to you both

I agree with Tinytina but think about this, when he is getting older and you ofcourse also.
Then it can be a problem because he can have other needs then you.

there is no ideal difference of age i think..the miracle is to be with someone who understand and accept u as u are.

10-12 years difference is ok, anything more may turn problematic in the long run.
but hey, if u see it working in the long run than its your life not theirs.. i can only wish u all the best!

There is no defined difference in age.
My wife is 25 years younger than me and we get along just fine.

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.” - Mark Twain

when it comes to love I think age doesn't matter, so age will be the last thing when your in love. Look at Sir james Woodward. Happily married with his young wife with baby boy.

Petitmicky wrote:

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.” - Mark Twain

This is a nice way to put it. I guess the difference disturbs me sometimes coz when I think about the future but age rily isn't so much a big deal.

nobody cares about age difference anymore. What's important is are you both at the same point in life right now where it would be smart to pursue a relationship. Try to think about what goals you have in the future with each other and what else each of you still would like to accomplish in life and try to weigh in and whether you think it would work out being married or not.

I believe there there is no rule, however, a very big gap means a bit of compromise, specially when it comes to understanding the different biological and other needs of your spouse..my Mom is 17 years younger than My dad, they were fine, until he hit his 60's , once he'd been operated and looked really weak, my Mom was 43, kicking and so young-looking, everyone at the hospital thought he was her Father..

sexually, it can be unfair for the younger partner to be deprived in case the an aging husband wasn't at his best, in case of heart diseases etc...or vice versa

As long as you understand these things, it's fine..
that said, age is not the only difference that leads to a compromising situation...
My sister is married to someone who is just two yrs older, yet she knows she can't discuss complex subjects with him because he is not highly-educated/cultured..

i've noticed younger girls (under 25) do get impressed with older men, but it's always wise to think of what it would be like 15 years down the line when you realize you did not live your youth to the max..and with a way older partner.. it may be a bit too late to do something about it.

Age is just a number, however I agree with other posts that 10-12 years is ideal. That being said, like other posts, if you're both in love, you're happy then what's the problem. Certainly issues are likely to arise at some point, just deal with them on case by case basis. I have a number of friends who are in marriages where age differences average at around 10 or so years and one where his age is around 17 years her senior, they've been married some years now and going really strong.
If you're happy, then I wouldn't worry about it.

as long as you ready inside both outside, just do it, no limits for get married !!

Carl7247 wrote:

I believe there there is no rule, however, a very big gap means a bit of compromise, specially when it comes to understanding the different biological and other needs of your spouse..my Mom is 17 years younger than My dad, they were fine, until he hit his 60's , once he'd been operated and looked really weak, my Mom was 43, kicking and so young-looking, everyone at the hospital thought he was her Father..

sexually, it can be unfair for the younger partner to be deprived in case the an aging husband wasn't at his best, in case of heart diseases etc...or vice versa

As long as you understand these things, it's fine..
that said, age is not the only difference that leads to a compromising situation...
My sister is married to someone who is just two yrs older, yet she knows she can't discuss complex subjects with him because he is not highly-educated/cultured..

i've noticed younger girls (under 25) do get impressed with older men, but it's always wise to think of what it would be like 15 years down the line when you realize you did not live your youth to the max..and with a way older partner.. it may be a bit too late to do something about it.

This is very well said

@ Carl7247L that is what I meant to, but in a very short way....

Hi all,

I can only speak from my own experience and I believe that if there is real love, trust and respect in the relationship then age has absolutely nothing to do with it.

I am married to a wonderful Brazilian woman who is 37 years younger than I am. That's right folks THIRTY-SEVEN!!! Both of us love one another more than life itself. Our relationship is built on mutual respect and if you have love and respect then the trusting part is simple, it just follows along with the other two. Anyway we have never been happier in our lives. We have a beautiful 5 year old son how is happy, loving and intelligent because he has the BEST we have within ourselves to offer him.

As Carl7247 states yes one day I will be old, but that's a long way off still - I'm a very active and healthy 63 year old. I'm probably more physically fit than my wife and I find the two of them keep me young too. Fortunately here in Brazil there aren't too many hang-ups about age, so we're just fine.

Cheers,
William James Woodward - Brazil Animator, Expat-blog

If the age difference bothers you then it's a problem.  If it bothers other people then it's their problem.

Then I think moving to brazil would be the best idea for me, my mom doesn't approve and obviously many people tell me am wasting my youth but in my opinion I have already found love which is all I wanted. If I could have found love with someone my own age that would be awesome but as God wanted it that isn't the case.

Spite each one personal perception and values on this subject, peer presure and social clima may cause some hassle.

I can easily imagine mister William James Woodward in a situation ( like shoping ) where people adress your wide as your daugther. Am i right ?
Some "local" culture tends to label the wife as "gold digger", and spite of the real love, thay may cause some issues on the long term.
Just me 2 cents.

Regards from a bit hot Sao paulo.

Bom dia Paulo,

Yes, that will happen from time to time with any relationship where there is a big age difference, but it is insignificant. That kind of a gaffe is always made by some thoughtless individual who doesn't know the couple and their situation. They simply speak without first thinking and in the end it becomes their problem not yours. It end up being them that are horrified because they have egg all over their face.

The people who are important, the ones closest to you and know the situation are the ones who matter mosts. If they are on side then there is no trouble. My mother-in-law (also much younger than I) was all for our marriage. In fact, if it were not for her constant support I doubt that the marriage would have taken place because despite our emotions my wife had to come to grips with her own prejudices. Which, by the way she no longer has.

In Brazil I am aware that some of the people look at us and think to themselves, 'look at the old gringo taking advantage of the young Brazilian woman' or others 'look at the young Brazilian woman taking advantage of the old gringo'. Life is like that and it's no big problem. Maybe some relationships are really like that, I don't know. Ours certainly is not, so what others may think is unimportant to me. Once again the only ones who really matter are the family and in my case I couldn't have ended up with a better family if I had one 'custom made'.

Cheers,
William James Woodward - Brazil Animator, Expat-blog

I don't think age matters

íf you are looking for approval from others then you are going to have a tough time because no one can decide what will make you happy now or ten years from now.

i guess the safest thing to do right now is to look at what you truly want for yourself in terms of having a family, travelling, career etc. if you both want the same things and have an understanding then i don´t think it matters what´s the age, race, creed or country.

Ahhhh a very interesting subject. From country to country, and different culture's opinions differ greatly. Many things to consider here. But overwhelming opinion seems to be if in love then is ok. Nevertheless there are many important factors to consider. Health, children, ex wives and families, can be very complicated. Overall most families want to see their mother, father, grandfather, relative as being happy, but without a doubt prejudice does exist in many countries. I reckon in most countries prejudice is confused with jealousy! I agree with the statement if in love then is all that matters, seems in many cases love conquers all? If two consenting adults sit down and discuss all considerations then decide to get married, is very sensible, however love can often be blind. Being in love is the most wonderful feeling in the whole world but can also be the worst. Each of us in our hearts and minds know right from wrong. So I say good luck to all who follow the path from their hearts but don't forget to use your minds also, for the sake of each other, current family and new siblings to come. Good luck to all who have a big age difference, but please never be selfish and think only of your own happiness, consider all. Allan

If you're not from the same country, the cultural differences are likely to be bigger than the age gap. It pays to focus on those rather than age!

Age doest bother to me at all...dont get worried of what other people think about what you feel... In the its about you and your partner...my husband and i have this 20 year gap...so what? We love each other thats what  matters most.... He is the greatest husband in the world...

from a biological point of view, 7 years should be the perfect, as men mature physically at 25 and women at 18. However, in reality, the most important factor is how well you connect with a person and how happy you both feel. The rest is details. All the best.

no idea...

manos_ wrote:

from a biological point of view, 7 years should be the perfect, as men mature physically at 25 and women at 18. However, in reality, the most important factor is how well you connect with a person and how happy you both feel. The rest is details. All the best.

But at 25, men are still emotionally 13.

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

But at 25, men are still emotionally 13.

i know 13 year old boys who behave like a 30 year old man  and 30 year old men who behave like a 10 year old kid. Age is just a number boys don't have to grow old to be mature but love transcends all spaces and time.

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

manos_ wrote:

from a biological point of view, 7 years should be the perfect, as men mature physically at 25 and women at 18. However, in reality, the most important factor is how well you connect with a person and how happy you both feel. The rest is details. All the best.

But at 25, men are still emotionally 13.

Let me guess Hailey ..It's ur funny side , right ? coz don't wanna miss it

And to drop my opinion abt the difference of age I do think between 1 and 5 yrs of difference is fine

in general Women prefer older men. But attraction is not a choice meaning nobody chooses someone to like. What's the last time you were attracted to a person based on all of your criteria? (rhetorical question)

great stuff here, agreed that there's many factors at play.

it no difference if gap is not big not more that 10 years if more later come problems.You would have totally different pattern of time spending and he wont fit in that,coz of physical condition, sad to say that but that is the reality... i am in relation with 20 years difference and we are already in trouble..

The best age difference is 42 years.

Never look to other people for your approval. (Family excluded). Love is an issue of compatability, character and so much more. If 2 people find common ground on base beliefs and goals in life and are truly committed to their future together, then this is all that matters. For me its all about character and a spiritual connection. This is a gift from God..... I pray your heart is at peace.

what is the best age difference for "NO" marriage?  "is it the same question"

MO2013 wrote:

what is the best age difference for "NO" marriage?  "is it the same question"

People who are not married should be at least 132 years apart.

Me I think between 2 to 6 years Old

That seems a little young.

For me age does not matter....as long as she is young and hot.

Seriously I really think it is up the the people involved.