Order of Wali are Father > Grandfather (from paternal side) > Brother (doesn't matter if older or younger, but must be adult age). If brothers are not of adult age, Uncle from Father's side > Sons of Uncle (her cousin) of adult age. If all of those individuals are not available or not near her, such as in another country, you can always rely on the local Imam of adult age. Closeness between a niece and uncle or brother and sister may not be the same as father and daughter, so she should just inform said person of her intentions. It is not required for her to share personal details about the man, but from a general safety reasons, most paternal adults would want to know if such a person is capable taking care of the woman (not just financially, but physically and mentally) and understands the rights and responsibilities.
Nikkah means marriage contract/signing, There is no 'wedding' in Islam. That is a concept created by western culture, including the ring exchange at the weddings. But you can always give a ring to her during the proposal (how you choose to give that is up to you, your personal beliefs and her desires).
Also, some Moroccan woman prefer wearing after wedding and some don't, but that doesn't mean you have to. So you should discuss if she wants you to or doesn't matter. I'm saying this because I went through weeks trying to find something my fiancee would like (prior to me asking what she really wants), so I'm just trying to help you save money and the headache. Woman are very picky regarding this. Side note, most young Moroccan woman prefer to wear a wedding right because it is a sign that keeps creeps or stalkers away from them (or most of the time).
Again, some Moroccan woman are materialistic and others are not, so if your potential spouse is not, whatever picture she shows you, find that exact or replica ring through the right channels. Your 'ring' budget and wallet would be very happy. As a piece of advice, you can find replicas of almost all 'premium' jewellery; paying high costs on expensive jewellery is worthless because they depreciate really fast and will be worthless in less time that your car. And you can save a lot of money towards marriage overseas which is a lot more than you think (Airbnb/hotel costs, time you stay overseas, translation fees, notary fees, embassy fees, travel costs and transportation to Rabat).
However, what you can do is a nikkah and a small party (of course it cannot be mixed, though most modern families in Morocco have mixed). And usually, the party is strictly females only (little kids are accepted) and men could have their own in another section or day. Don't confuse this party with the Walimah. Walimah is mandatory after the Nikkah arranged by the man's/groom's family and is simply a feast. Generally, it is a partitioned, and families of both appear and three-course dinner, but not uncommon to see mixed Walimah's either.
In the Western world, Islamic marriages are now incorporating the Walimah on the same day as the Nikkah, maybe even right after. Renting banquet halls and catering costs are always rising while the men or their families are having to almost always pay for it. And if there is no discussion about budget or splitting the bill, many men tend to go in debt trying to fulfil the desires of their spouse. And don't forget, this excludes the Mahr which you agree to give to your spouse prior to the Nikkah.
P.S. Islamic Marriage in the UK is not as simple as a traditional marriage, so make sure you read this document. It's legal if done through an approved process:
https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/re … /cbp-8747/ Though remember, your partner must have a witness (preferably her wali) during the Nikkah. And if you cannot bring her whole family, you can always have a party in Morocco.
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