In a same sex relationship

puerto Plata would be good for you..medium size city..i have never heard of harassment or hostility towards gays..especially if low key and not extremely camp..what lacks here is good transportation ..i find it boring but you being a couple and planning to retire would be good for u..the capital is a nightmare for transportation and crime rate is soaring

Welcome to the forums!   This country has made some progress in  tolerance but has a long long way to go.

That said,  being conservative and  under the radar you can live in many places.  Your budget will restrict you.

The capital is likely out due to cost of living in many areas.   As is the east coast.  I too will suggest the north coast, Puerto Plata,  Cabarete.  I won't suggest  Sosua specifically. 

Puerto Plata is a typical Dominican town,  we have most of what you will need right at hand.  Cabarete is much more expat and touristy and thus somewhat more costly.   

Your lifestyle will dictate how much your budget will stretch. If you eat based on locally available (non imported food)  then it will help.  If you need or want air conditioning that will cost you. Electricity is expensive.   HEalth insurance at your age (sorry)  will not be easy or cheap.  There is one plan available I know of and it is not a good one.  See what you can get from home or internationally. 

Transportation is not overly expensive,  make friends with a couple of good taxi drivers.... we all can make recommendations here.....

Lastly  read read read..... there is a lot of info on the forums. Then let us know your questions and we will do what we can to help!

Thank you both for the good information. It's wonderful to have the benefit of the internet and forums such as this so can get as much info as possible in helping to shape the move. Very much appreciated!
Jeff