Montreal do's and don'ts
Some French speakers have trouble realizing that they're not at home when they move to Montreal because of the omnipresence of the French language. Yet, some social behaviors are completely different. Here's a list of ten do's and don'ts to help you avoid faux pas.
Things to do in Montreal
Be on first-name terms with everyone
Using first names is the norm in Montreal, regardless of the situation. In fact, it's common to address your boss by their first name. While it's acceptable to be more formal with someone significantly older or someone you want to show respect to, like a teacher or a political representative, feel free to use first names with most people you meet during your stay in Montreal.
Respecting the rules
Quebecers generally follow the rules quite diligently. For instance, when taking the bus or metro, everyone forms a line and boards in the order in which they arrive. Additionally, you don't see many people crossing the street; people usually wait for the pedestrian signal. Moreover, transit fraud is rare in public transports in Montreal. In short, leaving behind any bad manners is the way to go.
Avoiding conflict
Politically correct Montrealers typically avoid confrontation. While there are exceptions, if you find yourself in disagreement or disapproval of someone's behavior, it's essential to learn how to express your displeasure tactfully and without resorting to shouting.
Respecting differences
Montreal is a vibrant, multicultural city that is open to the LGBTQ+ community. Public displays of affection, expressing your sexual orientation, and showcasing your religious beliefs are all widely accepted and uncriticized behaviors in this city. If you ever feel uneasy in a situation, feel free to move on and discuss it with someone you trust. Additionally, it's crucial to note that we don't criticize or make fun of Quebecers' French or accents!
Talking about the weather
Weather is a key conversation topic in Montreal, especially in winter. Each morning, Montrealers check the Météo Média app to get the day's weather forecast, and you'll find yourself doing the same soon! To kick off a conversation, feel free to discuss the latest storm or a recent sunny day.
Things not to do in Montreal
Speak English all the time
When spending time with French-speaking Montrealers, be careful not to overuse anglicisms or English expressions. While any criticism is likely to be in good humor, Quebecers take pride in speaking French, and the survival of the language is an ongoing challenge in a predominantly English-speaking country.
Doing your ‘maudit français'
Montreal boasts a significant French community, and the French residents know how to stand out, earning them the nickname "maudits Français". The term refers to a French person perceived as arrogant, contemptuous, and almost aggressive. So, if you're French and tempted to boast about the virtues of France over Quebec, it's advisable to rein in your enthusiasm, as you might end up being the subject of laughter among your fellow Montrealers.
Complaining about winter
Yes, winters in Montreal are long and hard, but complaining about it won't shorten the season. The best way to avoid winter blues is to take in deep breaths of fresh air and stay active, even when the temperatures are frigid, and the skies are persistently gray.
Criticizing people's dress
Generally, Quebecers don't care much about their clothing and prioritize comfort. While they may be careful of their attire at work, it's not uncommon to visit a gas station in your pajamas without raising any eyebrows. You'll find yourself adapting to this more quickly than you might expect!
Demonstrating machismo
The status of women is an important issue in Quebec, a province where strong feminist movements and associations are present. Bullying a woman due to her gender or implying limitations based on gender is disapproved of in La Belle Province. Interestingly, in the dating scene, it's not uncommon for Montreal women to take the initiative. Additionally, making dirty jokes or approaching a woman on the street might be looked down upon in Montreal.
