Maintaining a long distance relationship as an expat in Mexico

It's not something I would consider . It is complicated and complex everywhere adding a new country to the mix just makes it worse.

The couple has to really have a solid adult relationship. The period of separation would need to be short months not years. It's hard enough to stay in communication with family and friends.
How would I know? I had a number of clients with that problem and for most under the tress of moving to a new state was not workable. social connection tends to make it harder because it has the potential of being like dating.

I'm not saying it can't work, I'm just saying it rarely does.

Out of sight out of mind.

Hi,

My partner in life (wife) and I have been married for 40 years this August ( thanks for the applause ) and  in the last year and a half decided to start living our dream albeit somewhat apart.

We bought a fairly new home in San Miguel de Allende and decided to start prepping our home and  wanted to add our personal touch to it and re-do or remodel it.  We thought that whatever we added or any surprise costs that came up would be good to do before we retired.

I am not quite ready for retirement and don't know that I will wait until full retirement age but, we did think a couple more years of adding to the savings kitty wouldn't hurt till I/we retired together.

We maintain a residence in California and of course now our home in San Miguel and we decided that my wife would spend most of her time in Mexico while I continued to work and live in California. Difficult decision? Yep. but, we thought that in the long term it would be cost efficient and practical for the aforementioned reasons. It is practical for sure and we are very fortunate to be able to do this but for sure it does make for a little (ok, a lot) of heartache and we miss each other tremendously.

So how do we do it? Yeah I know a long intro for this.

A. We talk EVERY DAY even if for five minutes and at least once or twice a day. What's App is great!

B. Every three or four months She comes here or I go there.

C. We send each other texts and e-mails constantly throughout the day and always say good morning and goodnight regardless.

D. Sending each other pictures and such is also helpful

Presto! Problem solved right? No! But, it makes what could be hard or seem insurmountable, doable. We have the same goals and of course communicate and trust one another. Time flies by so quickly that before we know it, we will live our dream together again in San Miguel de Allende. One little tiny thing I forgot to mention. I travel quite a bit and most of the time overseas so, I am out half the time anyway and that helped us make the decision we made. We have no kids or pets and our families are used to us tromping the globe.

Good Luck to you and your loved ones.

I'm gay and single....I was wondering what the climate might be in meeting folks, besides Mexico City, any suggestions on where would be the best place to retire?

Gracia's

Randy

Cenote wrote:

I'm gay and single....I was wondering what the climate might be in meeting folks, besides Mexico City, any suggestions on where would be the best place to retire?

Gracia's

Randy

Hi Randy,

Some LBGT people are pretty open where I live. I think there are small communities here and there, but I suspect you would have to travel around looking for them because although many don't hide they also don't make it really obvious. 

There isn't open hostility, but some natives are uncomfortable and assume a less accepting attitude.
In traveling around Mexico I have seen people who are obviously gay in many places and Mexico is a country of hugs and pats on the back so you should be able to find an accepting community and they should be willing to help you.

We know 4 male gay couples who enjoy life in SMA. From my hetero position and knowing them as friends I see much happiness and acceptance.
Debby