I thank you all, for your response to my post. Specially to Fred whose harsh comments made me more stronger in my commitment. No hard feelings though.
Life is hard though for expatriates, adopting to Indonesian way.
But I believe, there is an opportunity in every difficulty to turn things around in a better direction.
Let me share the Success story of some 'Nice Guys' of my family.
My motivation comes from my son Sam (Samad), who always motivated me to think out of box, explore my potential, saying Papa! 'you are a smart nice guy' do something big but I kept doing my regular job in IT industry until I retired early at the age of 60 and now thinking for that 'something big' Samad was 7 years old when we were migrated to Canada in late 90s. He always used to ask me stupid question when he was a kid. Once a dog barked on him and he asked me Papa! Do I look stranger? Does this dog bark in english? His teacher used to call him 'A nice skinny kid' that skinny kid is now a handsome muscled guy.
Samad was an academic savvy, liked to play games and doing weird stuff like jumping off the plane with parachute and staying in freezing water for long time. As an outstanding student, Samad has consistently been acquiring an average of 90% scores throughout his academic career. He made it to the College after finishing his high school, where within 3 months he became a 'one o one' tutor and earned good amount and paid off all his college fee at his own. After finishing his college diploma in accounting software, he started teaching accounting specialized in ACCPAC making $28/hour. He went to Ryerson University, Toronto, Canada, completed his bachelor degree in Business Management and paid off all the hefty fee/expenses at his own. After University, he got a job in a big accounting firm with a handsome salary of 60K/year. He left the job after 2 years and became an entrepreneur of Online Private Taxi Business, in Toronto. The bottom line of this long story is, he is a 'Nice Guy' never got into trouble or fight, never used drugs or involved with women and determined to his goals.
Danny, a nephew went to USA in early 90s when he was a Custom Inspector back home, started selling umbrellas outside Penn station in Manhattan, NY, has now become a successful entrepreneur owning couple of stores there. Relatives used to make fun of him as being stupid leaving a nice job and selling umbrellas. He proved all the speculations about him, as wrong, that he will come back and regret. He was pretty determined and a 'Nice Guy' as well.
Ehsan Khan, my first cousin used to play cricket on the streets, tried hard, back home to become professional cricketer but failed many times. Never liked to go for higher studies making Parents upset and worried about his future. But his passion made him to the world class cricketer, as now he is the top player of Hong Kong Cricket team. He is a 'Nice Guy' and determined.
Other first cousin, a skinny short guy, most of the time bullied at the school but never got into a fight or trouble with the troubled kids, rather made them as his friends. Quite tolerant and determined to his goals. He and his wife are doing their PhD in software engineering abroad on Govt. expenses for higher education. He was bullied quite often when he was a kid and people always made fun of him. His reaction would be 'smiling' and ignoring them. He is a religious guy and always teach everyone to be tolerant. Saying the end results of being nice and tolerant, are always better than the other end which make things worst.
So Be Nice and tolerant and thanks for spending your precious time, reading my story.....
Stay safe and blessed
