Expat-Pinay Online Dating Sites WARNING!

In my fruitless search for a hot young Filipina wife for when I move there soon

Last I heard, the ladies there were humans, not lumps of meat, but it shows where your error is.
When you dig for gold, you usually have to go through a few layers of dirt and dung,
You have to get real, if you're searching for an on line wife, you'll get online scammed.

Bob Marshall wrote:

In my fruitless search for a hot young Filipina wife for when I move there soon I joined Filipnacupid last year just to see what happens.

If you do find your hot young play thing through face-to-face meet-ups, she will likely expect that you will eventually marry her. A Filipina poster at another thread said that Filipinas never marry to improve their lives. They marry for love. Yeah, right.

Don't assume that the marriage vows would end with just "to love, honor and cherish for as long as we both shall live." The older husband's expected, though unspoken, marriage vow might sound a little something like this; "to give you luxuries which you might not have experienced, pay for the tuition of your siblings, and support your tribe." And the young hot wife's would be: "to take care of you, including wiping your behind, if in case you get a stroke (which will probably be in the near future), to promise that I and / or my tribe will lift you up (even though I'm just half your size) to get out of bed, and this great responsibility I promise I will fulfill with utmost diligence (despite it being not too ago, actually I still remember that time clearly, that I was an immature teenager.)" Hopefully she would not say those vows with her fingers crossed behind her back.

This is what I hoped when I saw an older gentleman foreigner, who was obviously overweight, holding hands with a young woman in a tank top, probably in her early 20's: That the young girl understands her end of the bargain and will keep it. Two terms Filipinos use to describe this kind of relationship: "companionship" and "MU or mutual understanding". Be aware and beware. Not everyone marries for just love. Hopefully, you find one who does, and who also fits your "hot young" qualification. (Somehow, I feel like breaking into an Aerosmith song: "Dream on, dream on, dream on")

Bob Marshall wrote:

In my fruitless search for a hot young Filipina wife for when I move there soon I joined Filipnacupid last year just to see what happens. Soon I had 100's of gorgeous young girls interested in old me. I have chatted and webcammed with many of them, however it seems to me that 90% of the really pretty ones are on the hunt for one thing sooner or later....my MONEY! Some are very direct and within a few minutes ask for help with food, or "buy me a webcam so we can chat better", or "my dad had a heartattack today, can you help me?" and on and on. Some girls wait days or weeks to ask. Some subtly hint without asking directly. I have learned that some of these girls actually make a decent living online chatting with gullable kano's and getting money from them. They'll have multiple profiles or keep popping up using same hot, usually fake,  profile pics. I've heard theres even online websites teaching girls how to do it! Then theres the cute girls who are seeking sexcam viewers also. GUYS! Don't get fooled. If you really want a wife there, go there first! Don't take the online game too seriously and DONT send money to someone you never met in person.

Bob I have to disagree with you and others about the dating sites...I truly dont think it is 90% but closer to 60 or 70%...I had been on cupid for over 1 year and found about 3 out of 4 were scammers or gold diggers with a much higher percentage being the beautiful ones...My criteria in finding my match was they must have a college degree, 5-3 or taller, attractive or very attractive, shapely, single with no children...Out of the 200 give or take I only found 3 who closely met my criteria and were mostly or totally honest in their own search...I met all three when I arrived and decided a college professor who was very attractive, 54 was somewhat of a social climber and a 24 year old who had a degree in computer science was to immature...The one who I had known the longest and the most beautiful( an 8 1/2)with an amazing body and Spanish bloodline was 30 years old, secondary education degree with the most wonderful personality and the most honest person I have ever met...Her only draw back was she is only 4-11...Well a guy cant have everything...We have been physically together now for over 3 years with 2 very beautiful and healthy children...I have never been happier...So even though the net has mostly disappointments dont be discouraged...Just be careful and make sure you test their honesty over and over again and never correspond without using Skype or YM so all conversations are archived...Never ever send money if asked for any reason...I did send my wife $100 after chatting for over 7 months because she needed dental work and she even was so self conscious about it she showed me the work on cam and the receipts and even went as far to tell me I had $15 in change coming back...LOL...Now tell me that is not a rare find...Note: she is from a small farming community in a northern Luzon province...The only good ones I had seem to find on the net were generally from the provinces and not the major cities where money is a major player in survival...

I know one thing is for sure I saved big dollars using the net instead of taking trips to this country in hopes of finding the real deal....

Good Luck in your future ventures

Bob Marshall wrote:

In my fruitless search for a hot young Filipina wife for when I move there soon I joined Filipnacupid last year just to see what happens. Soon I had 100's of gorgeous young girls interested in old me. I have chatted and webcammed with many of them, however it seems to me that 90% of the really pretty ones are on the hunt for one thing sooner or later....my MONEY! Some are very direct and within a few minutes ask for help with food, or "buy me a webcam so we can chat better", or "my dad had a heartattack today, can you help me?" and on and on. Some girls wait days or weeks to ask. Some subtly hint without asking directly. I have learned that some of these girls actually make a decent living online chatting with gullable kano's and getting money from them. They'll have multiple profiles or keep popping up using same hot, usually fake,  profile pics. I've heard theres even online websites teaching girls how to do it! Then theres the cute girls who are seeking sexcam viewers also. GUYS! Don't get fooled. If you really want a wife there, go there first! Don't take the online game too seriously and DONT send money to someone you never met in person.

Hi Guys,

Unfortunatelly this is an "old scam" started a few years ago in Ghana and Nigeria (but not restricted to). You will be surprised with the amount of money that is sent to these "Innocent" girls with a very "unfortunate" life...
a few years ago, (when I was targeted by a few of these "beautiful young girls") I found out (call me cautious or just that as principle I trust nobody) that this was a very common scam where american and UK citizens were bombarded with chatting lines (mostly simply copy paste from templates).
This is much more than a few girls trying to get their hands in some money but a complicated network of criminals who will try anything to get free wages.

husoi wrote:

Bob Marshall wrote:

In my fruitless search for a hot young Filipina wife for when I move there soon I joined Filipnacupid last year just to see what happens. Soon I had 100's of gorgeous young girls interested in old me. I have chatted and webcammed with many of them, however it seems to me that 90% of the really pretty ones are on the hunt for one thing sooner or later....my MONEY! Some are very direct and within a few minutes ask for help with food, or "buy me a webcam so we can chat better", or "my dad had a heartattack today, can you help me?" and on and on. Some girls wait days or weeks to ask. Some subtly hint without asking directly. I have learned that some of these girls actually make a decent living online chatting with gullable kano's and getting money from them. They'll have multiple profiles or keep popping up using same hot, usually fake,  profile pics. I've heard theres even online websites teaching girls how to do it! Then theres the cute girls who are seeking sexcam viewers also. GUYS! Don't get fooled. If you really want a wife there, go there first! Don't take the online game too seriously and DONT send money to someone you never met in person.

Hi Guys,

Unfortunatelly this is an "old scam" started a few years ago in Ghana and Nigeria (but not restricted to). You will be surprised with the amount of money that is sent to these "Innocent" girls with a very "unfortunate" life...
a few years ago, (when I was targeted by a few of these "beautiful young girls") I found out (call me cautious or just that as principle I trust nobody) that this was a very common scam where american and UK citizens were bombarded with chatting lines (mostly simply copy paste from templates).
This is much more than a few girls trying to get their hands in some money but a complicated network of criminals who will try anything to get free wages.

husoi, I hope you are not claiming Filipinocupid in itself is a scam because if you are you would be badly mistaken...I know of many expats who have found happiness through the site just as I have...

Bob Marshall wrote:

In my fruitless search for a hot young Filipina wife for when I move there.

I'm amazed your PM inbox hasn't burst to breaking point.

A wife beating man on dangerous drugs that smokes, and treats women as lumps of meat.
Every girl's dream.

Cripes - I fancy you.

boriloco wrote:

Most dating sites are full of scammers, .

And worse.
People must take extreme care when using such sites.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article … ntity.html

Jon Venables is signed up to online dating website contacting single women who do not know his real identity
Venables was jailed for the horrific murder in 1993 and was also jailed five years ago for downloading and distributing child abuse material, after posing as a mother online.
Investigative reporter and child protection expert Mark Williams-Thomas, who discovered Venables's profile in a joint probe with the Sunday Mirror, said it was worrying that a convicted child sex offender had free rein to browse the internet, potentially looking for new victims. 
He told MailOnline: 'James Bulger's murder was so horrific that Venables should remain under constant supervision and should never be allowed to freely trawl the internet - let alone with the added fact that he was also convicted of a child sex offence.
'When Venables was convicted in 2010 after using the internet to commit child sex offences, everyone was saying "how has he got access?" - but now it is happening all over again.

Bob Marshall wrote:

In my fruitless search for a hot young Filipina wife for when I move there soon I joined Filipnacupid last year just to see what happens. Soon I had 100's of gorgeous young girls interested in old me. I have chatted and webcammed with many of them, however it seems to me that 90% of the really pretty ones are on the hunt for one thing sooner or later....my MONEY! Some are very direct and within a few minutes ask for help with food, or "buy me a webcam so we can chat better", or "my dad had a heartattack today, can you help me?" and on and on. Some girls wait days or weeks to ask. Some subtly hint without asking directly. I have learned that some of these girls actually make a decent living online chatting with gullable kano's and getting money from them. They'll have multiple profiles or keep popping up using same hot, usually fake,  profile pics. I've heard theres even online websites teaching girls how to do it! Then theres the cute girls who are seeking sexcam viewers also. GUYS! Don't get fooled. If you really want a wife there, go there first! Don't take the online game too seriously and DONT send money to someone you never met in person.

crmirah wrote:

i have lived in the philippines for 16 months. i will give any future expat from  america free advice DO NOT  trust anyone here in the Philippines especially if you are a gay man the guys here are just after your money all of them are are fake. The same goes for everyone planning on coming to the Philippines 99 percent of the people percieve that forigners have a unlimitied income and will do anything they can to seperate you from your money.  In addition always trust your instincts if someone is telling  you a sad story about a sick family member or they need money for school or to pay a bill or to load thier phone run away fast.  Even if you have met  them in person do not give them money for anything.

what are you still doing there?

silverman wrote:

use flipino-cupid site then once you get reply switch to skype-video chat to get to know her. iam curious how you bought an appartment philippines. I believe you can buy condo if it is 60% owned by filipino's but you can not own house unless married to filipino. when I first went on date site I got scammed with woman from usa but was really online scamming from africa. there is sites online with pictures an names of scammers.most scammer have hard luck story which leads to needing money they also are very quick to tell you they are falling in love with you.

you can buy a condo by yourself  -dont need to be owned by any filipino