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Take Care of Ourselves", yet Not be "High Maintenance

Queen Cleopatra

All of my life I've heard men talk admiringly about a woman "who takes care of herself". What does that mean? She looks good? Wears nice cologne and clothes, shoes. Gets her hair and nails done, goes to the spa and exercises, keeps her figure, maybe even a little surgery...? If she has the time and money for all this, she's probably being kept by a sugar daddy or husband. So just what does it mean -"Takes care of herself"?
Then you hear men speaking very angrily about women who are "high maintenance". So what does That mean? She does all the above and it costs money? Of course it does. And the older we get, the more 'maintenance' we need. Take a good look - maybe you need some maintenance yourself? But just because we look good doesn't mean we're to asking you to pay for it. It just might mean we have our own money to spend on ourselves, and why not? Don't you guys waste a lot of money on junk you don't need, like more than one car, or more of a car than you need? Or how about the other "vehicles" like boats, motorcycles, etc. ?
Men and Women - what do you think about the conflicting statements of men wanting us to "Take Care of Ourselves", yet Not be "High Maintenance"? Can it be done? Please Tell Us How????

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don moe

complicated :D

Queen Cleopatra

don moe wrote:

complicated :D


Hey, is it complicated to tell me how :D? Or is it complicated ( a difficult equation ) to take care of yourself and saving money at the same time ??!:D

don moe

honestly all :D:P

Queen Cleopatra

don moe wrote:

honestly all :D:P


You know what, I really expected this answer ;)

layla1313

a woman who takes care of herself so that if they want a another wife shes not needy LOL im sorry that was a joke.

but many men that want a perfect women need to look in the mirror because mostly they are sorely lacking in many areas heehehehe

sema.sh

seems legit :)

Queen Cleopatra

layla1313 wrote:

a woman who takes care of herself so that if they want a another wife shes not needy LOL im sorry that was a joke.

but many men that want a perfect women need to look in the mirror because mostly they are sorely lacking in many areas heehehehe


Mirrors may be expensive so they do not use them - they just criticize us all the time - they do not think they're in the field of criticism also :D

Queen Cleopatra

sema.sh wrote:

seems legit :)


true

layla1313

lmao... i love it





Queen Cleopatra wrote:
layla1313 wrote:

a woman who takes care of herself so that if they want a another wife shes not needy LOL im sorry that was a joke.

but many men that want a perfect women need to look in the mirror because mostly they are sorely lacking in many areas heehehehe


Mirrors may be expensive so they do not use them - they just criticize us all the time - they do not think they're in the field of criticism also :D

layla1313

im not being offensive lol but what i say has some truth ok. dont deny it. LOL






SSSpeedy wrote:
Queen Cleopatra wrote:
layla1313 wrote:

a woman who takes care of herself so that if they want a another wife shes not needy LOL im sorry that was a joke.

but many men that want a perfect women need to look in the mirror because mostly they are sorely lacking in many areas heehehehe


Mirrors may be expensive so they do not use them - they just criticize us all the time - they do not think they're in the field of criticism also :D


You always look for a man caring, responsible, sensitive, honest etc. Now what :) Just looking for the physical appearance...?

Don't be so offensive. As you always say you take care about yourselves just you want it. Not for any men :)

layla1313

ok, fine I dont deny it too :-D




SSSpeedy wrote:
layla1313 wrote:

im not being offensive lol but what i say has some truth ok. dont deny it. LOL






SSSpeedy wrote:


You always look for a man caring, responsible, sensitive, honest etc. Now what :) Just looking for the physical appearance...?

Don't be so offensive. As you always say you take care about yourselves just you want it. Not for any men :)



You are abolutely right.

But what I say has some truth, you don't deny it also, ok :)

mhaikal

Well am sorry  but you're just building your opinion on some previous experiences  ..Men are not all the same   
when some one says that he like girls who take care of themselves
they doesn't have to be fake or struggling to look like a model 
be be yourself and the right guy who will accept you the way you are will find you

Queen Cleopatra

ok maybe i was so offensive , let us say not all the men that way
but yes i find a great enjoyment in pampering my self and just for my self not for anyone :)

SSSpeedy wrote:
Queen Cleopatra wrote:
layla1313 wrote:

a woman who takes care of herself so that if they want a another wife shes not needy LOL im sorry that was a joke.

but many men that want a perfect women need to look in the mirror because mostly they are sorely lacking in many areas heehehehe


Mirrors may be expensive so they do not use them - they just criticize us all the time - they do not think they're in the field of criticism also :D


You always look for a man caring, responsible, sensitive, honest etc. Now what :) Just looking for the physical appearance...?

Don't be so offensive. As you always say you take care about yourselves just you want it. Not for any men :)

meems74

you can look good without being high maintenance. Beauty is really in the eyes of the beholder. Honestly the choices that women make in order to be 'good looking' varies. You can spend 1000 LE a month or 200 LE a month and look great or horrible depending on your choice. this doesn't have anything to do with men. If a woman wants to have blemishes, fat thighs, dirty clothes, etc...then so be it. Verses a woman who takes the time to be 'beautiful' according to her own personal standards shouldn't have anything to do with a man. In the end a woman is her own package, she decorates it according to what she wishes to attract. Men do the same thing but then again men have other expenses such as their 'toys' aka cars, electronics, etc...which can be comparable to a woman's 'home decor'. we decorate the home, they decorate their egos. two different species that shouldn't be compared at all.

just my opinion.

layla1313

i dont know but the arabian men like to decorate themselves.. get shaved.. wear alot of cologne.. dress in tight clothes lol fancy ring tones lol sunglasses...

meems74

layla1313 wrote:

i dont know but the arabian men like to decorate themselves.. get shaved.. wear alot of cologne.. dress in tight clothes lol fancy ring tones lol sunglasses...


ROFL, don't forget that some have that pinky ring..lol. they do like to shower in cologne don't they? tight t-shirts or pressed shirts, cool blue jeans and I didn't notice their shoes. how are their shoes?...lol

Queen Cleopatra

I thinks you did not reach my point, takes care of herself - exercises, eats reasonably healthy, and has some respect for her body. iam not talking for being fake or struggling to look like a model  .

For me it doesn't really have anything to do with makeup maybe a little , - hair gel, perfume, nails, pedicures, clothes, shoes, or even educate herself  etc. Most of the time, if a woman is healthy from the inside out, you don't need a bunch of other stuff. Although subtle amounts can enhance



mhaikal wrote:

Well am sorry  but you're just building your opinion on some previous experiences  ..Men are not all the same   
when some one says that he like girls who take care of themselves
they doesn't have to be fake or struggling to look like a model 
be be yourself and the right guy who will accept you the way you are will find you

mhaikal

Queen Cleopatra wrote:

I  if a woman is healthy from the inside out, you don't need a bunch of other stuff. Although subtle amounts can enhance]


Yeah that's exactly what i meant
about what you were talking about earlier  i think some guys
make it hard for girls so they wont feel insecure


if that what you mean