How to approach people

27POSTS

14 years ago

Hi everybody

I was thinking about this topic for quite some time now, and the best practices i found is to:

- show genuine interest in what they say or do. sharing the work or the ideas gets you close to people.
- be yourself, speak your beliefes, accept others differences and never let them hinder you from reaching out to them.
- whenever you find someone good enough to be your friend, never let go. always keep in mind that you are TWO persons, not one. the other party has own ideas, beliefes and approaches. let it be, dont try to copy-paste your ideas into them to find a copy of yourself.

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Suzie Que Contributor

119POSTS

14 years ago

very well said

respecting and honouring our similarities and differences goes a long way.

friendship is a gift and extending kindness is a way of giving thanks.

cheers,

Fred Indonesia Expert

30549POSTS

14 years ago

I just give a big smile and go from there.
Seems to work.

hebbatollah Active member

27POSTS

14 years ago

Suzie Que
yes, extending kindnessis a beautiful way of giving thanks, to the world, to God, to others.
Friendship when true one is a huge gift, that we often underestimate and sometimes abuse until it is gone, then we start realizing how much we lost.

I love your words :-)))))

hebbatollah Active member

27POSTS

14 years ago

Mas Fred

a smile works miracles. it is the shortest way between 2 persons. actually, i love it :-)

Suzie Que Contributor

119POSTS

14 years ago

when i look at a stranger i wonder what their life is about; what hurt they're carrying; what disappointment they've suffered; what loss they've felt...each and every one of us bleeds. it's that simple. a smile can capture a moment of understanding and lighten a burden.

Fred Indonesia Expert

30549POSTS

14 years ago

Suzie Que wrote:
when i look at a stranger i wonder what their life is about; what hurt they're carrying; what disappointment they've suffered; what loss they've felt...each and every one of us bleeds. it's that simple. a smile can capture a moment of understanding and lighten a burden.

I wonder if they're a friend I haven't met yet.

hebbatollah Active member

27POSTS

14 years ago

Suzie,
your words express a rear gentleness and understanding for our fellow human brothers and sisters, which i so much appreciate. you have a lovely soul, dear. i am positive that u make a great friend to anyone.
i am honoured to have you read my post.
have a lovely day
Hebba

Suzie Que Contributor

119POSTS

14 years ago

mas fred wrote:
I wonder if they're a friend I haven't met yet.

mas fred, i do the same...

Suzie Que Contributor

119POSTS

14 years ago

#10

hebbatollah wrote:
i am honoured to have you read my post.
have a lovely day
Hebba

shukran hebba,

pls keep up with the insightful posts/questions...

hope you're having a great day too

cheers,

HaileyinHongKong ViP

4723POSTS

14 years ago

#11

How to approach people? Silently and from behind.

Cenlin Contributor

194POSTS

14 years ago

#12

just wanted to show appreciation

Armand ViP

24785POSTS

14 years ago

#13

cenlin wrote:
just wanted to show appreciation

Cenlin Contributor

194POSTS

14 years ago

#14

Armand wrote:
cenlin wrote:
just wanted to show appreciation

lol Armand, i only liked the subject, and i have no comment lol, so i wanted to say, i appreciate that

ben hammouda Member

3POSTS

14 years ago

#15

HELLO
Nice to be among Expat.comgers.

Sunbeach Member

10POSTS

13 years ago

#16

Really being Compassinate and a good listener is key in approaching people for the first time.Sharing a meal form bonds of friendship and no matter what culture food always plays an important role.