Looking for friends

Welcome to the forum
i'm pretty sure you'll soon make nice encounters as Mauritius forum is one of the lively one of Expat bog

Check out the discussions already on the forum (networking) regarding forthcoming meetings.

Have a nice day further

Arlette

By the way, it would be nice if you could tell us a bit more about you such as what are your interests in life, your hobbies etc .

Hey,
I am from flic en flac too, can i know more about u.
Do you like to go walking or fitness club?
What are you doing as job in mauritius?
Your age ?
I am 40 F - married and will be happy to make friends as well,
write me if u want
regards

well, i studied english at york and worked for a while in london.

i have many beautiful gay friends and i would like to continue to be friends with gays as i am in mauritus for another 9 months working on a cyber architecture project.

please contact me again if you are interested to go out with me for coffee and dinner.

Hi Rabina, and welcome to Expat.com:)

I hope that you will get many friends on Mauritius Forum.

Good luck,
Harmonie.

please don't send me any more personal messages to my inbox. I have received more than 100 (yes, >one hundred) replies, mainly from MEN.

THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR FRIENDLY INTEREST, BUT STOP SENDING MORE MESSAGES.

Rabina,

Please dont flatter yourself. If you read your post, you are infact inviting people to get in touch with you and your gay friends. Mauritius is a very frendly place but people not that desperte to get in touch with you unless you invite them.

Take it easy!!!

Arif

Rabina wrote:

please don't send me any more personal messages to my inbox. I have received more than 100 (yes, >one hundred) replies, mainly from MEN.

THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR FRIENDLY INTEREST, BUT STOP SENDING MORE MESSAGES.

Rabina wrote:

please don't send me any more personal messages to my inbox. I have received more than 100 (yes, >one hundred) replies, mainly from MEN.

THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR FRIENDLY INTEREST, BUT STOP SENDING MORE MESSAGES.

With all due respect, looks like you got what you asked for, so to speak.

Any sensible person would know the consequence of such posts even a newcomer to the island or expatblog. There are "idiots" in every culture and/or society and caution should prevail when one is outside his/her own surrounding even in an "open" forum.

Had you been a lurker or a frequent poster, you would have realised that expats and locals do meet and intermingle through planned events or ad hoc outings as 'advertised' on this forum.

please contact me in private and report me any perv' (I'll intervene)

arif wrote:

Rabina,

Please dont flatter yourself. If you read your post, you are infact inviting people to get in touch with you and your gay friends. Mauritius is a very frendly place but people not that desperte to get in touch with you unless you invite them.

Take it easy!!!

Arif

Rabina wrote:

please don't send me any more personal messages to my inbox. I have received more than 100 (yes, >one hundred) replies, mainly from MEN.

THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR FRIENDLY INTEREST, BUT STOP SENDING MORE MESSAGES.

Please, please, it's not civilised AND I MUST SAY IT'S QUITE OFFENSIVE, what you have said ABOUT FLATTERING MYSELF. WHO ARE YOU FOR TAKING SUCH AN insulting ATTITUDE?? I NEVER ASKED YOU TO REPLY TO my MESSAGE WHICH WAS SIMPLY INTENDED TO MAKE sure THAT NO MORE MALE MESSAGES ARE SENT TO MY INBOX. YOU JUST INVITED YOURSELF WITHOUT ANY MANNERS.

THANK YOU, DON'T BOTHER TO REPLY AS JULIEN THE ADMINISTRATOR / FOUNDER WILL ENSURE THAT SOMEBODY LIKE YOU IS NOT ALLOWED TO PARTICIPATE IN THIS FORUM.

Julien wrote:

please contact me in private and report me any perv' (I'll intervene)

thank you, julien. i thought this forum is only for ex-pats or am i mistaken????

External wrote:

Rabina wrote:

please don't send me any more personal messages to my inbox. I have received more than 100 (yes, >one hundred) replies, mainly from MEN.

THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR FRIENDLY INTEREST, BUT STOP SENDING MORE MESSAGES.

With all due respect, looks like you got what you asked for, so to speak.

Any sensible person would know the consequence of such posts even a newcomer to the island or expatblog. There are "idiots" in every culture and/or society and caution should prevail when one is outside his/her own surrounding even in an "open" forum.

Had you been a lurker or a frequent poster, you would have realised that expats and locals do meet and intermingle through planned events or ad hoc outings as 'advertised' on this forum.

so, if i am dressed nicely and go out to night clubs and then get sexually molested, then "i asked for it" according to you.

in my case, because i have put out a message for friendhip, then i am to be blamed if so many men writing to me.

without being disrespectful in any way, i think your posting lacks sensitivity and seems to be always pointing the finger to women. WE ARE TO BE BLAMED BECAUSE, AS YOU PUT IT, WE ASKED FOR IT.

THIS FORUM IS FOR EX-PATS ONLY ACCORDING TO MY UNDERSTANDING.

isn't it for potential ex pats too?

My Post was not to offend you but to stop you from giving  a bad image of the men on this froum. If you read all the posts , you will realize that all the men as well as women on this forum are very helpful and decent. I still dont belive that more than 100 men have written to you in the first place. Julian is the right person to investigate and be judge of that.
I apologize if your complaint about the men in this froum which I still think is not ture is genuine.
Arif

"thank you. want only ex-pat white people to be friends. dont write again, ok." That the message i got grom Rabina. It is very offensive to reply to me like that. All you had to say is that you are not interested. Enjoy your stay in my country.

nuvinplay wrote:

"thank you. want only ex-pat white people to be friends. dont write again, ok." That the message i got grom Rabina. It is very offensive to reply to me like that. All you had to say is that you are not interested. Enjoy your stay in my country.

SOUR GRAPE.

as a liberated woman, i am free to choose. maybe, you find it too difficult to accept in your culture.

arif wrote:

My Post was not to offend you but to stop you from giving  a bad image of the men on this froum. If you read all the posts , you will realize that all the men as well as women on this forum are very helpful and decent. I still dont belive that more than 100 men have written to you in the first place. Julian is the right person to investigate and be judge of that.
I apologize if your complaint about the men in this froum which I still think is not ture is genuine.
Arif

have got any problems with my sexuality?? what are you trying to do ? men against us mentality is long gone. wake up. this is the 21st century.

any way, where did i complain about MEN???

Peace guys, peace, or I will have to close this discussion.

Now, if there is any issue, please send me PMs and reports. And I will do what I think is right.

Thanks

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Basic rule. Worldwide.

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Hi Rabina,

We will very happy to welcome you and your friends for our next expat meet up. Don't worry about what happened .Just forget about it. We are one big family in Expat.com.

Cheers!!!
Terence

Rabina wrote:

hello

i am an ex-pat. working in mauritius.

would like to meet friends for social gatherings and enjoyment.

hope to hear from you.

Rabina wrote:

nuvinplay wrote:

"thank you. want only ex-pat white people to be friends. dont write again, ok." That the message i got grom Rabina. It is very offensive to reply to me like that. All you had to say is that you are not interested. Enjoy your stay in my country.

SOUR GRAPE.

as a liberated woman, i am free to choose. maybe, you find it too difficult to accept in your culture.

I guess I am dipping into this conversation because i am a lil confused..

Your profile is a blue pic, i.e., male. Then you mention that you would like to have "beautiful" gay friends. Now you have said you are a woman. Thiw is sure to confuse more people.

Guess, a little clarity on whether you are male or female, then secondly did you mean Gay or Guy, will help your situation on the forum.

This Forum is, as mentioned by Julien, intended to help and develop Expat communities. Locals are an integral part of this Blog. All of us try to help each other out via the forums, and with regards having friends, make our own choices.

I hope that your stay is pleasant here and yo find the type of friends you want. It would save you the trouble if you are more discreet on the forum, for your own good to avoid spamming and harassment.


All the best!

Rabina wrote:

External wrote:

Rabina wrote:

please don't send me any more personal messages to my inbox. I have received more than 100 (yes, >one hundred) replies, mainly from MEN.

THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR FRIENDLY INTEREST, BUT STOP SENDING MORE MESSAGES.

With all due respect, looks like you got what you asked for, so to speak.

Any sensible person would know the consequence of such posts even a newcomer to the island or expatblog. There are "idiots" in every culture and/or society and caution should prevail when one is outside his/her own surrounding even in an "open" forum.

Had you been a lurker or a frequent poster, you would have realised that expats and locals do meet and intermingle through planned events or ad hoc outings as 'advertised' on this forum.

so, if i am dressed nicely and go out to night clubs and then get sexually molested, then "i asked for it" according to you.

in my case, because i have put out a message for friendhip, then i am to be blamed if so many men writing to me.

without being disrespectful in any way, i think your posting lacks sensitivity and seems to be always pointing the finger to women. WE ARE TO BE BLAMED BECAUSE, AS YOU PUT IT, WE ASKED FOR IT.

THIS FORUM IS FOR EX-PATS ONLY ACCORDING TO MY UNDERSTANDING.

Get off your high horse and re-read what i have written.
First you asked for friends - a fair request being new , away from your country .
When a couple of locals did reply (IIRC) , you wrote that you are interested in gay friends . Another fair assessment - one is free to choose his/her friends .
Anyone moving  to a foreign land makes it his/her business to understand or read about the culture/ society of the country they are going to .
Had you done that and/or inform yourself on Mauritius by reading the threads on expatblog ( and don't kid yourself that only expats come to fora in a particular destination - that's very naive on your part)  you would have realized that GLBT is still TABOO on the island and you don't have to broadcast your sexual orientation or likings !!!!!!!!
and also that your request would invite "idiots" who prey on the uninformed posting on the Mauritius forum to start their harassment - either to have  their kicks or they are pervs.
So instead of putting the blame on others about their harsh posts or being insensitive, just think about the consequence of your "innocent" requests or posts on a public forum . May be this is the first time that you are living in a foreign country but one has to be cautious of what one asks or requests on an IBB. You are looking for friendship  and to socialise but  asking on a public forum has its + and - ( fact of life whether one is in NA or Europe or ROW and discretion is always de rigueur).
Before you start pulling those feminist rhetorics about being the  victim, I am a woman and have been going on missions solo in foreign countries  and  have learnt along the way about cultures and taboos in those foreign lands even the "democratic" ones( I would like to see you pull this in KSA or some sub-saharan nations ).
Like I said , this is a very pro-active forum with something going on every month ( more or less) and  you will be welcomed and have the opportunity to make friends

Euh....I think I will second what one of the bloggers wrote. I thought you are male (blue pic)...

We're here to help and there are gatherings as well; it would be better for you to avoid posting "open" invites in case there are people who might have a bad impression of you or bad intention.

I would like to add (and I'm echoing what another blogger said); here in Mauritius it's still a bit of a Taboo to talk about gays and lesbians,trans and bi.You might want to avoid talking about your sexual orientation(s) on a public forum.

I think that the locals are most welcome to join in from what I gather(as they themselves turn into expats when they leave Mauritius or are returning citizens) and they are helpful in most cases. Please think about what you write; otherwise you might end up making more enemies than friends.

Please let's not turn this into an ugly racist, anti-women/men/gay etc... thread. The forum will lose it's beauty if this happens!


Peace!!

Julien,

I may be putting my two cents where I shouldn't - you might want to put a sticky on what we can/cannot talk about on the forum (and a few tips about the dos and donts and the culture here!).

At this rate, we'll have a 3rd WW on the net itself.And this is not a joke!

A troll, who should not be given any further entertainment.

LOl all this is very entertaining, however on a serious note:

Rabina- your sexual orientation is yours to have and if you are a girl or guy, its equally your business. I can totally understand that some women find themselves more comfortable in certain sexual orientation companies, but the truth remain that (in my experience and what i have found so far), this forum is very friendly and helpful. So if friends are what you are after then by all means, you are very welcome.

However i find it really hard to believe that 100 men would actually msg you personally. I've not heard anyone (even those (girls) who have legit pictures on their profile, who have ever been harassed here by mails or otherwise etc.

We are all very intelligent and open minded and very sociable people here and as you have read with a very big heart, so i hope you get a better experience and always remember you always reap what you sow, however innocent your post was.

So all said and done, wish you all the best during your stay in Mauritius.

Cheers

Dear Julian

I simply put an innocent message in your forum and see what I get. Many male egos have been apparently hurt. Some males are obviously not coping very well with rejection.

As you would have known by now, males are irrelevant in my life.

Therefore, I ask those who have raised their fingers, please be open-minded and live in the 21st century.

I am not going to engage in a personal and confrontational fashion to respond to every misguided posting.

I hope this is my last say in this forum and it is very sad that there are still people who are so intolerant and misinformed or uneducated.

stephenn +1

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