Trying to trust Dutch doctors but not liking their recommendations?

Hi,

I know Dutch medicine is rated high in the world. I'm overall happy with my care. However I've seen a new gp that is shattering my trust in the system. She doesn't seem to listen to my complaints.

Recently, my ear was infected. Another gp who works in the same office diagnosed this and prescribed ear drops and said to call in a couple of weeks if the problem didn't go away. It still feels full, is draining, next to my cheek and behind the ear were painful, it's popping a lot, etc.  I called to make an appointment, at this point 2 weeks after I saw first doctor and got the gp that doesn't listen to me. She looked in my ear and said it was completely fine (the symptoms haven't changed.) She decides I have TMJ due to the ADHD meds a psychiatrist prescribed and asked if I actually needed those. (yes, obviously or they wouldn't be prescribed?) She says it won't go away unless I stop those meds. I can close my mouth, move it around, I have no pain in my jaw or anything, but my ear is still draining and popping. My ear recently had blood drain from it. I really don't trust the "it's just TMJ, stop ADHD meds" thing.

Then my daughter had an allergic reaction so I took her and saw the same doctor. She referred me to a nutritionist after two visits about that (I think rightfully assuming I wouldn't just let her "sleep off" whole body hives without figuring out why that happened.) Anyway, entire family has severe allergies. I ask for an allergist. I'm met with "this is the only thing she's reacted to (it isn't) and if she reacts later we can deal with it, but there is no reason to test for horses or other things when she hasn't been near one."

I'm not really sure what I can do.