Does your Vietnamese wife do this?

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My Vietnamese wife picked her first homegrown tomatoes from our veggie garden on March 12th:

Does yours do that?

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Oh my Jazzus, yes!

We just had our first pick of homegrown tomatoes a couple of days ago. First time she'd tried growing them. Delicious!

@Travelfar I realized how blessed I am of not getting married (Vietnamese, Linda Evangelist or insert your favorite type ornatiknality ) or having kids with them.

@gobot hHi, been married 14 years to VN lady. It doesn't get any easier. Yes, when she is with other VN speaking people & in particular her family, I don't exist, she completely ignores me. Sorry to say, I am feeling very alone and ready to pull the plug and move on.
-@kimey2261

Did you moved on?

@saigondave2 Food is mostly crap here, gives me depression

The "door thing" is made in America. I'm talking as a Swiss, don't know if it's same all over Europe. Yes, the husband always let his wife go first. WITH ONE EXCEPTION: entering a restaurant. Are you really so rude and let your wife talk to the restaurant receptionist?
The "family thing": absolutely. I'm inexistent.
-@tluesche

When I see woman competing with me to enter first, its red flag and I pay very close attention to her subsequent behavior since it smells to me of mental disorder, IMHO it's red flag no matter what culture (you don't compete with your partner, you help and support each other) especially here in Vietnam since in their culture man enters first (ME,ME,ME woman nothing good will ever come out of that behaviour). Many woman are good to wear "mask" , here in Asia they are experts, learn how to spot these microexpressions in their faces. (Cold fury, emptyness etc) and of course trust your gut about her. Nature gave it to you, use it to avoid troublesome personalities.

@saigondave2 Food is mostly crap here, gives me depression
-@narcrepellant2525

& I thought I was the only one! & that's why I mostly do all my own cooking. I do like some Vietnamese food like Bun Cha Ha Noi & Pho once in a while (the one with the big lump of pork fat in it) but never ever did get the expat posts raving on about Vietnamese cuisine. Give me beans on toast for breakfast & a plate of mince, tatties & neeps, or fish n chips with mushy peas any day.

Ms My does make a really good Banh xeo though.

@OceanBeach92107 Provide your address and I'm sure that my Mrs will be around to pick some

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My Vietnamese wife picked her first homegrown tomatoes from our veggie garden on March 12th:



Does yours do that?

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-@OceanBeach92107

under-ripe to me

@OceanBeach92107 Provide your address and I'm sure that my Mrs will be around to pick some
-@QPR_FC

Would that be the wife you had in this post, or the girlfriend you had in this post?

@gobot i had a vietnamese wife and yess their common behavior is interruption. I drew the fine line n clear boundary that i dislike interruption when we are having conversation. We need to show how we "excuse" ourself if there is an allowed important interruption. Or how we put others on hold. At first its very nerve wrecking that i even screw their peers and family members.. somehow we manage to iron this out. Show them how rude this practices are

@gobot i draw my boundaries. I showed how I "excuse" myself if there is an expected interuption which have importancy. And also how i hold the other interruption during our own conversation. While i expect the same and explain how rude it is to allow interruption. Its easier to say but it does involve some nerve wrecking situation at times but soon they will know our boundaries and act accordingly

Welcome to the Vietnamese culture my friend!  Most Asian cultures focus on the man instead of the woman.  Whenever we were in a restaurant or coffee shop, I always redirect the server to serve the woman/women who I am with first.  My Vietnamese friends found that unusual at the beginning.  Then after I explained to them the expression of “lady first” in the American/Western culture, they, especially the women, tend to agree with me and accept it.  It now becomes second nature to them.

Please note that cultures are not static.  There are many local variances within a country.  Diversity is the rainbow on this earth; this is what makes traveling fun.  We need to accommodate to the situation that we are in in order to create harmony.  Anyhow, my American culture has served me well in Asia and the world.

Welcome to the Vietnamese culture my friend! Most Asian cultures focus on the man instead of the woman. Whenever we were in a restaurant or coffee shop, I always redirect the server to serve the woman/women who I am with first. My Vietnamese friends found that unusual at the beginning. Then after I explained to them the expression of “lady first” in the American/Western culture, they, especially the women, tend to agree with me and accept it. It now becomes second nature to them.
Please note that cultures are not static. There are many local variances within a country. Diversity is the rainbow on this earth; this is what makes traveling fun. We need to accommodate to the situation that we are in in order to create harmony. Anyhow, my American culture has served me well in Asia and the world.
-@Rota 28

So you felt uncomfortable being served first and decided that your cultural ways are superior?

Sounds like a passage out of a Burdick/Lederer novel.

Let's morn the passing of the water buffalo and the life of poverty with which it is associated, but celebrate the influence of western culture on the relationships between men and women here?

I've personally had to put aside my need to control social situations and allow my wife to take the lead as she's been raised to do since birth.

It's well known how much I honor my wife and her/her family's culture, and I experience those moments of deference to me as expressions of sincere respect and appreciation for my commitment to her and them.

It's good that you've found a way that works for you and the Vietnamese people in your life.

Một, Hai, Ba, Dzô!!!

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Sounds like a passage out of a Burdick/Lederer novel.

Một, Hai, Ba, Dzô!!!

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-@OceanBeach92107

LOL!~

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