Just wanting to get some opinions from people out there. So here is my situation and please feel free to express opinions. Ok here it is and see ! A year and a half ago I married my Vietnamese girlfriend of 4 years. Our relationship and experience with her family was great. We had a lot of fun and enjoyed every minute together. Now she lives in Vietnam and I live in the US. We have been going through the immigration process for the last year. I make the trip back to Vietnam every 3 months and stay for a month. Now 4 months ago she started a job at a bar working nights. And ever since her attitude behavior has changed. This once sweet and amazing woman has become someone else. She often does not contact me for days. Does not like when i call her the same sweet names a couple uses. She rarely wears her engagement ring and wedding band. She has told me that she doesn't because of work and crime issues about the rings. She tells me that she is always tired and feels exhausted . Which is the reason she rarely contacts me. But I have to say, I feel my wife has fallen into the bar scene and become someone else. I don't feel that she has the same feelings for me and doesn't want to be married to me. We are almost finished with the immigration process. ( Waiting for the interview) I still love this woman and care for her. I have talked to others about this, with varied opinions. But there are not familiar with Vietnam and Vietnamese. I have tried to talk to her and express my feelings about what is going on. But she tells me she is to tired to discuss it and I'm over reacting. At this point I'm thinking of filing for a divorce and cancelling the immigration petition. So am I over reating or do I have real concern?