I have listened to and read, so many generalizations about Filipino People by fellow expats and they tend to fall into two camps. There are those that would tell you they are the most wonderful people in the world and those that have an opposite and very negative view.
In the life experiences of both camps they are both correct. Our minds are amazing filtering devices and will seek out evidence in the real world that supports our underlying beliefs. To put it simply if you look for good in people you will see a lot more of the good and if you look for bad you will see more of that.
People are fundamentally the same all around world. Sounds like a cliché but I have come to know this as an absolute truth. We have the same biology and basically function the same way.
The differences we observe and label as cultural are very superficial but again the mind is amazing at filtering the external world and if we are looking for differences we will see them in abundance. The reality is we humans are driven by the same fundamental motivations and share the same emotional responses.
I know of many long term expats that would disagree with the preceding statement. They are perplexed by the apparent lack of logic in the actions of many of the Filipinos they encounter but this is because they are focused on details and fail to see the bigger picture. They are viewing things from their own very limited perspective yet in their minds they truly believe that is the only possible viewpoint thus there is no logic in what they see.
Behind every action no matter how self detrimental it might seem to the observer there is a positive intention on the part of the perpetrator. Very often they are not even consciously aware of it themselves. There is a reason for everything a person does and it is only perplexing because we look at the action in isolation. In other words Filipinos have logical reasons for all their actions and if we don't understand them it's because we are ignorant of their circumstances.
By its very nature this focuses on the apparent differences between the Filipino and the rest of humanity. As already stated these differences are superficial but none the less can be challenging to the non-Filipino and cause misunderstandings and fuel misconceptions.
Those that tend to make negative generalizations about Filipinos fail to see individuals and only expect responses that confirm their established beliefs. Their minds will obey and provide filtered feedback that confirms their beliefs. Most of these people will never change their minds because all their life experience to date only supports their belief.
Don't fall into the trap of negative stereotyping the Filipino as so many expats do. They seem to enjoy complaining about the way Filipinos do things and sharing their proof to confirm their belief. If they don't like it in the Philippines then I say to them go back to your own perfect countries
anyway why did they even come to the Philippines in the first place?
Being aware of some prevalent Filipino values and beliefs (generalizations) is useful as long as you always remember to see the person as an individual. Here is the thing to remember. The Filipinos are also often working from stereotyped models of foreigners.
Break this communication cycle by reaching out to connect to them as a fellow human being. Look beyond the stereotype for an individual and you will be amazed at how suddenly they are no longer your typical Filipino and become the exception.
The same goes for Filipinos. Next time you encounter a foreigner try looking beyond the stereotyping you have learned and see them as an individual and fellow human being.
We all have much more in common than we have differences.
An article written by Chris Bennetts, an Australian expatriate.