Hello everyone. I know this subject has been beaten into the ground but I thought I would raise it again. For conversations sake, let's say the girls name is Bibi and she lives near the Mekong delta and is 14 years younger the me (I am in my 40s). Bibi doesn't speak much English and doesn't have a job, and lives with her family.
I met Bibi's family on a dating app while working, who I only met through a dating app while living in Los Angeles. They told me that they are trying to marry Bibi, who lives in Vietnam and introduced me to her. I connected with Bibi through a messaging app and we chatted for about 6 months. I finally met her and spent about 2 weeks with her in Vietnam and met her family there as well. It seemed like we had a great time although Bibi spent a lot of time sleeping (was she avoiding me?). When I had to return home, I was sad and she said she was said too.
It's been about 2 months now that I've been home. We have spoken like normal in the first month but suddenly, out of nowhere, age said she needes mo ey for school in Vietnam - she never expressed in interest in going to school the entire time we chatted. Initially she said the cost of school was $200 but then said it would be a few thousand dollars because she needs to stay in Saigon so she needs a place to stay food, books, a laptop and school. Remember she doesn't work. I asked her to learn English first (as I've offered the entire time I've known her) but she wants to focus on this other area and says she wants to find a job there. I told her that this was more expensive than I was expecting, having spent 1000s already on this travel to meet her.
The next week, she dramatically cuts back on talking to me. She stopped looking at my messages, snaps and emails. I asked her what's wrong and she says she sad... Then she said she doesn't want to come to USA anymore and says she doesn't trust me, all the while saying I'm too good for her. I told her I was upset at what she had said and now all she messages me sparingly is a hi and a hope you're okay. That's it.
I've asked her to talk to me be she hasn't responded to that request.
So here's my question. Is this a cultural thing in Vietnam? Or is this a scam? I know of many men I've read horror stories about in Asia (and other countries) where men are taken to the dryers with fake interests, financial requests and running away after getting their US visa. I care a lot about this girl - I traveled to meet her - and I think she cares about me since she waited 6 months to meet me. Marriage is potentially on the table... I just don't understand how to move forward from this and if this is a scam (my spidey sense tells me it is, and her family both in Vietnam and in the USA are in on it).
Kindly
Cali