Vagabondone wrote:Depends on the age of the child. Under age 3 mom has total control and she even decides when you can visit at her house. After age 3 you can petition the court to take the child out for visits by yourself. But by then she may have gone into hiding. The new law allows the child to decide at age 7 who they want to live with. But by then she has poisoned the child's mind against you. My lawyer said it is very common here in VN for the mother to take the child into hiding and you will never find them again. Sick minds. My ex played the game with the court and allowed me visits and played nicey nicey until the final decree was handed down. Now she has moved, changed phone numbers and emails go unanswered. I write each month trying to arrange a vist. But I do put his child support into a separate savings account for my son and do not pay her unless I get a visit. Here in VN if you live here they have yoy by the short hair when it comes to child support non-payment. You can be deported and denied access to VN. But the process seems fair. You are notified first and given the chance to present your side and pay up back support. VN citizens who owe support rarely pay the very small amount they are required to.
If my wife warred me like that, I'd leave Vietnam and pay nothing more.
I would bet that she would contact me again to continue on my terms.
There is a small danger that you will not see your child again.
But as it is now with you, it is not better.
I would then live a modest but good life from the rest of my fortune and with my pension in another Asian country with a low cost of living.
I will NEVER let any idiots ruin my life.