Getting Engaged

Hi Sonic.

You just get engaged lol ! I got engaged January 2017 to my now wife. I am British she is Vietnamese and we just went out and bought a ring :-) We didn't hold an engagement party. We just started planning our wedding which we held in January of this year !

Good luck & best wishes.

Mike

For me it was like this:
1. Did you meet her family yet? If yes, you should ask them first.
2. Ask your girl
3. Invite whole family in a restaurant for dinner.

Hi

Thanks bertieboy123 and Darwin123.

Not met the family yet as they live in Hanoi whilst she works on Phu Quoc.

I forgot to mention that she IS divorced but as long as it is all signed off then there is no problem.

Will look into a ring and will report back.

I want the engagement to be an insight to how her family may behave should we finally tie the knot.

Thanks again

Sonic

If you are previously married, you should take advantage of your trip to the UK to sort out your paperwork. In particular you can certify your divorce papers at the VN Embassy in London.  If you have been single your whole life, you will need a certificate of single status.  It's all covered on separate threads and should be on he Viet Embassy London website.  Due to changes in UK Consulate policy, you can no longer certify these documents in HCMC and will need to do this legwork in the UK.

Hi THIGV

I did say that SHE is divorced and nothing regarding myself.  I am infact single and never married.

Thanks

Sonic

Hi Sonic_Jelly,

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Priscilla
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just being cruel to be kind  -nothing wrong with that.

Sonic_Jelly wrote:

I did say that SHE is divorced and nothing regarding myself.  I am infact single and never married.

I know you said you don't wan't to be told what you need to be married but there really are no legal requirements for engagement.  Still, you should get the "Affidavit of Marital Status" done while you are in Britain.  Here is a link:  http://vietnamembassy.org.uk/index.php? … s#MARRIAGE  Getting it done after you return to Vietnam could be a pain, particularly if you are on Phu Quoc.

I may be wrong but I am pretty certain that you can get the mental health certificate in Vietnam.   Your fiance will need her divorce certificate as well.  Another thing to anticipate is that unless your fiance has legally transferred her personal residence to Phu Quoc, you may need to be married in Hanoi if she is still in her parents "red book."  You may want to be married there anyway in deference to the parents, but you should be aware that it may be a legal requirement as well.

Just my 2.000 đồng but Vietnam is a very traditional country especially around topics like marriage. If there is any way you can jet up to Hanoi for a weekend to meet her family before you go back to Britain, that would help to solidify an engagement better than a ring. This would avert a possible situation where your girlfriend is getting counseling from the family, who are likely already unhappy she has removed herself all the way down to Phu Quoc, and now talking about marrying a foreigner, and you not being here to defend her (your duty) or yourself!

By the way the ritual of engagement rings is not common here, but a nice western touch.