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When my wife began shopping in the US she told me that the pork was cheaper than in VN and that it was about the only thing that was less expensive. Mind that this is in Hawaii, which may have the highest pork prices in the country. Of course ... Read More

I agree with you and you need to trust, BUT VERIFY. I have seen this same story many times and when the women refuse to discuss, they are hiding something. My wife does all the grocery shopping, but she is the complete opposite, she takes pride in ... Read More

Based on my experiences, you are getting fleeced somewhere if you are not eating caviar and prime rib daily. Do you go to the grocery and/or see the receipt? I am guessing not because you are asking the question here. You are talking about $800 a ... Read More

Ciambella - "Unless they have a business in Vietnam, the majority of older expats are here for the low cost of living." I agree with you because the main reason, even the article points it out, VN is high on the list due to economics, ... Read More

Agreed, my wife and all her friends stay clear of those men and yes, they are all grouped in the same bunch and the good women will have nothing to do with them. Read More

Howie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You still with us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have reached out to you, but crickets mate!!!!!!! will send PM Read More

You might want to talk to some VN and ask them what is the custom in VN. I understand your position, but I was taught the man goes first (elevator, doors, etc) as it is shown as a form of respect, just like the west shows respect to a woman by ... Read More

I was not there so I can't opine on that. Just gave a perspective in the general sense. Yes, people can be @@@holes and I could write encyclopedias on that subject matter. Read More

You might want to talk to some VN and ask them what is the custom in VN. I understand your position, but I was taught the man goes first (elevator, doors, etc) as it is shown as a form of respect, just like the west shows respect to a woman by ... Read More

The women who told you they would like to gain weight are fishing for compliments. Most Vietnamese women between the age of 17 and 35 would never see the needle on their scale reaches 47 or 48 kg and they would freak out if that happens. Gaining ... Read More

Hi Nicole, I lived in Can Tho and would recommend a motobike, not a bicycle. You can get a used motobike cheap and if you want to travel, you will thank yourself later. Can Tho is a decent size city (largest in the Mekong area), but you will want ... Read More

I can only take some educated guess at these actions: 1. If my neighbor is making money, I can to = increased competition = less profits. In addition, I have seen where neighbors are envious and jealous and will not stand their neighbors being ... Read More

Apology accepted, but you might want to take another look at your post #24. I might add that having lived most of my life in Hawaii, where the same apparently pan-Asian customs are followed, I was prepared to accept the situation in Vietnam and ... Read More

Since you quoted me, let me say that I never assumed that my in-laws ever saw one VND of what was in the envelopes. What I said what that it was entirely at my wife's discretion. They know that I had no hand in who controlled the money, so I ... Read More

People can say this is the rule dont belive but the only rule is STFU and dont argue or learn viet and listen to what they say about you, which will be your a cheap guy and why did she marry youBe a man and stand your ground. Cheap words by ... Read More

Out of all of the responses, this is one you need to read and heed: On the wedding day, your going to get tons of envelopes with cash. I don't know your fiances family, but the less educated will tell you(foreigner) that is the families money, ... Read More

Out of all of the responses, this is one you need to read and heed: On the wedding day, your going to get tons of envelopes with cash. I don't know your fiances family, but the less educated will tell you(foreigner) that is the families money, ... Read More

Maybe this is why :) https://www.theguardian.com/education/2012/nov/19/improbable-research-thai-women-cut-off-penis But based on my research into VN marriage and infidelity, you are not going to escape the wrath if you don't change your ways. ... Read More

@Tai Zen 1. So growing up you prefered living in a drug infested, crime ghetto in the USA than in a fishing village in VN. You need help, the countryside and a fishing village in VN is heaven compared to a USA ghetto. 2. You became a criminal and ... Read More

Please move it back to the Vietnam forum. It was posted there to be informative to the many expats and Vietnamese citizens who will be affected by the order. Thanks! :cheers:@Oceanbeach - you are correct. Read More

Paying everyone is ridiculous to me.Just to be clear, not everyone is getting a check. There are qualifications and the people that actually pay most of the individual income tax are not getting a check because they don't qualify. Read More

Of course, less testing = less cases, not rocket science. Second, anybody that believes nobody has died from the Wuhan virus in VN, I have a bridge in Brooklyn for sale. :) Read More

Matthew, you have some technical questions and the answers will depend on many factors. I recommend you make an appointment at the U.S. Embassy in your area to get clarification. I can give you some general advice, but you need to understand ... Read More

You are wrong, Based on the expats/others I know who are married to VN women. Again, the definition of "relatively juicy pensions" is a relative term (pun intended). 2nd, of course there are gold diggers around the world and not just VN ... Read More

My wife tells me it is very common in VN for getting employment. She worked for a European Multi National, but she still had to pay a fee (i.e., kickback/bribe) to get employment. as did all her co-workers. Read More

I would not believe all you hear. These type of people will use any excuse to extract money from others. Read More

Going through a womanizing phase may accurately describe many expats in Vietnam too. However, I would be gobstruck if someone announced that they are "living [in Vietnam] with one or two younger girls." I have never met a Vietnamese ... Read More

FYI - the failure to pay employees is not limited to teachers. Read More

Just not VN, I experienced the same in other 3td world countries. They turn on the tv, look, Americans are rich! Plus, the stories from locals who get to the west and tell them how rich they are, but never provide the real truth behind the ... Read More

Yes, I agree and it is just not people from VN, it seems to be the standard fake dream from many foreign countries, they must save face! Read More

I am not disagreeing that there were many with false profile pics, but I never was interested. The first girl i met, she actually had a BF and she told me. She worked for a bank in Saigon. We became friends and sure enough, he was out for fun, ... Read More

One of my GF's was from Saigon and even she said to me "you don't want to get serious with a Saigon girl, we are not good for marriage". At least she was honest to me. Read More

LOL for sure. My sister in law is all over ZALO with her selfies and yes, PHOTOSHOP galore. My wife and I laugh at her photos, she looks so beautiful, but FAKE. Read More

Thanks for sharing. Keep coming back...If you haven't found a partner then perhaps with respect the reason for that is closer to home than you would care to admit.Whether a person has a partner or not is a personal decision. Why the negative ... Read More

Everybody has issues in life, what's your point? Read More

1. Not everybody posts false statements on VC, generalizing is never good. I met some great women on VC who did not posts false statements. People lie everyday in person, what's your point? 2. I have never posted an older pic of myself and ... Read More

As stated to OceanBeach I will refrain from further comments.I understand your frustration as this forum can turn into a trolls kingdom. Based on the comments, I just have a few responses: 1. No matter where you are in the world, any man urinating ... Read More

typical, ignore the facts and attack the messenger. Just 1 source of many available. Just so you can do your own research, the alleged fact checker site you used is documented as not reliable i.e., Fake news. But I could careless, the issue are ... Read More

Get's more interesting day after day. Will we ever know the truth? https://nypost.com/2020/02/22/dont-buy-chinas-story-the-coronavirus-may-have-leaked-from-a-lab/ Read More

FYI - people have different definitions of what is an Expat. We can go round and round about what is an Expat and how they have destroyed and/or brought differing values that others consider damage to their homeland and the USA is no different. ... Read More

Indices - I applaud you for the effort, but I doubt I could do the same. Not that I don't want to, but it is the results that are the reasons I do not. In my opinion, it comes down to the people you are dealing with and it has nothing to do ... Read More

cut your losses and tell her you want to be friends. If you are looking for a serious relationship, she is not and neither are other girls like her. There are thousands of VN women who are looking for a serious relationship and money is not ... Read More

Unfortunately, people turn on their tv's and listen to the hype without actually looking at the data. For example, the actual number of deaths that were caused by influenza (Flu) in the USA in 2017 was 6,515, this is reported by the CDC ... Read More

No joke mate. Why do men married to VN women say "we sleep with one eye open." Plenty of factual stories online, just search. I don't know who gets it worse, the cheating man or the woman he cheated with, but she usually gets it ... Read More

No matter the experience, I believe living in another country to see other perspectives and how people live their daily lives is an invaluable experience. Don't be surprised if she tells you that she only wants to visit Vietnam, but has no ... Read More

I concur. "Any husband and any wife in any country, irrespective of culture or race, should share their expertise when it comes to money. In the same way I have turned down several proposals from various members of her family as being ... Read More

@basically, I am going to give it to you straight up from my experiences, locally and from VN in America. I have been there and done what you are doing. Here are my comments: 1. Agree with colinoscapee, asking for money is a red flag and is a ... Read More

I agree, we are all different and have different likes, interest etc. It always comes down to personal preference. For example, if I had to live in VN, my preferences are DaNang and DaLat. I would never live in Saigon or Hanoi. However, I have ... Read More

This is pretty serious word salad. "I understand a fury in your words / But not the words."— Othello "[Life] is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing."- MacbethSorry if i disappoint you, ... Read More

Please don't include with either party, I am not one or the other. I comment based on facts, not politics, like others. I specifically recommended people do some research on the subject matter and the facts are out there. However, as you ... Read More

Paulmsn, you proved my point. No facts, just your opinion. Read More

Glenn, congratulations and wish you the best. To give you a little more insight while you are in her parents home. As someone advised, don't touch others and not your GF and in addition, do not be surprised if you can't sit next to your ... Read More

Not sure if you can get the paper visa, but I always got the paper visa, even the 1 year visa they gave me was a paper visa and the reason I got it was the fact my passport was full. I never had a problem with the paper visa. Read More

Never had a twitter account and never will while it is being run by a bunch of leftist communists who do not permit freedom of expression as wildwest mentioned in his post. I am sure if I had a tweeter account it would be deleted within 24 hours ... Read More

I give you credit, much better than I. We never gave out more than 1 million in total and it was limited to immediate family only. When we visited the extended family, we did not bring gifts, but we did bring food which is basically a few 100k. I ... Read More

have your company pay for business class or first class, the selection is much better along with the numerous alcoholic beverages. I loved my trips to VN. I drank more alcohol on those trips than one can imagine and really enjoyed the hot saki. I ... Read More

Well, you need to teach her that the food can still be cooked and taste good without sugar and without MSG. My wife had a hard time at first, but she finally realized that there was no advantage to adding these toxic chemicals to the food. Of ... Read More

If you have the money, Singapore is the place to make a permanent home. But if Singapore is not in the budget, then Malaysia (they have a retirement visa) is a great alternative and just down the road from Singapore. We have seriously looked at ... Read More

Yes, I have said it many times, I am lucky and found an amazing wife and life time soul mate, no doubt. Also, we tried to stay in VN and even looked at Singapore and Hong Kong. However, when it came down to it, the opportunity that presented ... Read More

Sorry mate, I have to agree with others in that only the selfish and greedy families expect gifts, which you should avoid and not the norm. We do not bring gifts and the only people that ask for gifts are the uneducated, selfish, greedy etc. ... Read More

Decorating is easy, pictures of Buddha, HCM and ancestors. Read More

I base my belief off of what has already happened where members of the school staff called me to the office and made extremely inappropriate comments about my political ideology, religious beliefs, and culture.Please tell us the name and location of ... Read More

DOUBLE WOW!!Can I get a triple WOW, lol.I will jump over that and go straight to the "triple dog wow". :) Read More

I agree with Ciambella, but what happens in VN is not unique to VN. I was watching a show last night and it provided a stat of the average age difference between married men and women in the USA, just under 3 years difference with the man being ... Read More

I think we should be looking at these changes through the eyes of those who will benefit the most = Communists government employees. You can complain all you want, yes, it seems idiotic to mandate the driver be the person on the blue card, so what ... Read More

I can verify that over my many years of multiple VOA payments at the Saigon airport immigration window, I have paid in USD and other times VND and the lady taking the cash never questioned which currency I paid with. One time I actually did not ... Read More

Agreed, I have see many cases in 2k range. Maybe they think you are working in VN and need to come back so they up the price? Read More

I agree with you, but as an attorney and unfortunately practicing inside the beltway and know these people better than I should, politics is pervasive in the practice of law, especially in Federal Courts. As Thigv pointed out, "subject to ... Read More

You should make an appointment at the U.S. Embassy to confirm you meet all the requirements. Read the fine print as it requires you live (physically present) in the USA for at least 5 years "PRIOR TO BIRTH" of your son. In addition, it might ... Read More

Based on your other post about your son's Vietnamese birth certificate, it appears that you recently became a naturalized U.S. citizen. Unfortunately, a lot of people have the belief that any child of a U.S. citizen is automatically a U.S. ... Read More

Not sure if you can download this guide, but here is the link and go to Vietnam. https://www.ey.com/Publication/vwLUAssets/ey-2018-19-worldwide-personal-tax-and-immigration-guide/$FILE/ey-2018-19-worldwide-personal-tax-and-immigration-guide.pdf Read More

My WingWoman says no... 😁Clearly he does not understand some of us sleep with one eye open. :sleep https://english.vietnamnet.vn/fms/society/93325/sleeping-man-s-penis-cut-off-by-his-wife.html Read More

Yes, if you are from a poor uneducated family in VN, the mindset is that, which is why they will always be in that situation. No, it is not VN culture, it is the mindset and it is no different in other countries. Yes, these VN families do the same ... Read More

Maybe you should visit other cities before going to DaNang because your going to get spoiled. :) I have been to many cities in VN and DaNang is my favorite, hands down. We rode our motobike all over the city and the outskirts, no bicycle for ... Read More

I understand and agree mate. I remember when we were not married, she told me "don't worry, in the future I will make you happy everyday". I thought, yes, sweet, but not going to happen, WRONG WAS I! Amazing how wives like ours can ... Read More

I think this area is a massive "parked money" area where oversea and local Vietnamese with too much money can invest or even launder money. I've never seen so many new, luxury units unoccupied in such a massive scale. But it's just ... Read More

@Matt-Przy - I have to say that AkaMaverick did provide good examples and to be honest, it is not easy to be specific because I have to be respectful to family, even if they are extended family members. I will try and keep it simple, but the way ... Read More

Marriage to my wife has been the closest thing to perfection that a man could dream for. Honestly, I can't think of 1 thing that she does that bothers me or is a negative. I have stated it many times, I have never met any person as loving, ... Read More

We send our sincere condolences and sorry for your loss. I sent you a PM awhile back and figured that you were busy with family matters. You are in our prayers and hope you stay with us, we missed you. Read More

Another great example, how did I miss healthcare! I know many of you hear or know the stories of getting sick and going to the hospital and if you don't have the money, they don't treat you and yes, the doctors will leave you for ... Read More

First thing you should do is confirm that she is pregnant with your child and when is the expected due date. You said you were in VN in 2018 for 3 months. We are in October 2019 so the months don't add up mate. If you got her pregnant in 2018 ... Read More

I hope people are not assuming that people from the west don't believe corruption does not exist in the West, of course we know it exist. I think the question is whether you believe one is better than the other and that can be subjective by ... Read More

I think you have a bigger problem and it is not the visa. Based on the information you provided and if I were you, I would run, run, run and far and fast. Read More

There is a lot more you need to be cautious of when it comes to food in VN, including the national favorite, cafe. There are tons of documentaries in VN that discuss these issues and if you understand Vietnamese, I suggest you do some ... Read More

Ding! Ding! Ding! We have a winner! Eventually these people will hurt it for the legitimate business people. Probably not as likely from the US, but from this thread we can see it's already starting to happen in other countries.The real ... Read More

Exactly and that is why you never give in. Do your homework and know what your getting into BEFORE you engage bargaining, for just about everything. The first time I went to VN, the hotel I stayed at offered a weekly motorbike rental and I was ... Read More

I recommend you get a good VN divorce attorney and do a lot of research yourself, but have the attorney do the actual divorce. Read More

I am now worried for you mate, seriously. That is a huge red flag. I am speechless. Yogi - I think this is where you step in for a dose of reality for our good friend here. Read More

Please do not take this the wrong way, but based on your post above, I would not do the government marriage license until you figure out and understand what you and her really need. Why the rush to get a government marriage license when you have ... Read More

Intercontinental Nha Trang has personal residences right on the beach, if that is your thing. Curious how much they go for these days. Read More

One way to avoid dead husbands is to be selfish like me, date only single women that are not widows, divorced and even if never married, no children. I know, easier said than done, but can be done. I got lucky, I know. Read More

Thanks for that reality check. As gobot has been too busy to look at his statements just for my sake :cheers: perhaps I could put the load on you. What kind of exchange rates have you experienced in recent months? I have a feeling that exchange ... Read More

If I were you, I would not get legally married. I would do the engagement and religious wedding ceremonies and be done with it. I have no use for a legal marriage and they are meaningless, except for the legal rights. Based on your posts, it ... Read More

Based on my experiences, it is the tight security that prevents the crimes and that is why they answer "always none". My inlaws lock up their home like fort knox every night, it is impossible to steal without waking everybody up. For ... Read More

In my opinion, the lying. cheating and survival of the fittest was caused by 1 thing, the enslavement of the VN people on 30/4/75. You can review history and every Communists country results in similar behaviors from the public, VN is no exception. Read More

Uhm, dont click on the tabs, is it really that difficult. Many pages these days are covered in ads and offers, it's up to you to decide. Nobody is forcing you to do it.That was not the point of my post. The point was, the content is meaningless, ... Read More