Is the vietnamcupid dating site legit

wildwildwest wrote:

They're all bots.

This statement would imply that you have personal knowledge of all the sites.

However, your earlier Post in this thread made it pretty clear that you stick with church.

While you may have your particular prejudice against using a dating site, I highly doubt that you can speak to the technical reality of all of them

Dan911 wrote:

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Vietnamcupid is a legit site. Way more legit than badoo etc. I talked to lot of girls, met many of them. All of them genuine and looking for a serious relationship.
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Somehow, I don't think I will be signing-up based on this recommendation. Thanks anyway.

HenryJo wrote:

Dan911 wrote:

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Vietnamcupid is a legit site. Way more legit than badoo etc. I talked to lot of girls, met many of them. All of them genuine and looking for a serious relationship.
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Somehow, I don't think I will be signing-up based on this recommendation. Thanks anyway.

Somehow, I dont really give a damn whether you sign-up or not

Dan911 wrote:

HenryJo wrote:

Dan911 wrote:

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Vietnamcupid is a legit site. Way more legit than badoo etc. I talked to lot of girls, met many of them. All of them genuine and looking for a serious relationship.
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Somehow, I don't think I will be signing-up based on this recommendation. Thanks anyway.

Somehow, I dont really give a damn whether you sign-up or not

That's fine.

HenryJo wrote:

Dan911 wrote:

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Vietnamcupid is a legit site. Way more legit than badoo etc. I talked to lot of girls, met many of them. All of them genuine and looking for a serious relationship.
...

Somehow, I don't think I will be signing-up based on this recommendation. Thanks anyway.

I doubt VN cupid will be dissapointed not having you onboard.

colinoscapee wrote:

HenryJo wrote:

Dan911 wrote:

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Vietnamcupid is a legit site. Way more legit than badoo etc. I talked to lot of girls, met many of them. All of them genuine and looking for a serious relationship.
...

Somehow, I don't think I will be signing-up based on this recommendation. Thanks anyway.

I doubt VN cupid will be dissapointed not having you onboard.

I doubt they give two hoots where the subscriptions come from.

HenryJo wrote:

Dan911 wrote:

HenryJo wrote:

Somehow, I don't think I will be signing-up based on this recommendation. Thanks anyway.

Somehow, I dont really give a damn whether you sign-up or not

That's fine.

Whatever...

I don't recommend it. It's easy to be taken in and I think of myself as a good judge of character. And even now it's not that I can say she's a "bad" person, but she was after a certain thing, and that was not how she represented herself on VC.

I suspect, and I may be wrong, but I think a lot of the happy expats I read on here have relatively juicy pensions from back home. God forbid if something were to happen to the pensions (unlikely I know) how would she treat you if you got some $500 a month job? Most would probably be out of there like a bat out of hell.

Not trying to insult all Vn women or anything like that, I would say be very careful and if you have an age gap be aware of why she might be interested. I would say Vn Cupid would be a magnet for these types of women.

Vn30330 wrote:

I don't recommend it. It's easy to be taken in and I think of myself as a good judge of character. And even now it's not that I can say she's a "bad" person, but she was after a certain thing, and that was not how she represented herself on VC.

I suspect, and I may be wrong, but I think a lot of the happy expats I read on here have relatively juicy pensions from back home. God forbid if something were to happen to the pensions (unlikely I know) how would she treat you if you got some $500 a month job? Most would probably be out of there like a bat out of hell.

Not trying to insult all Vn women or anything like that, I would say be very careful and if you have an age gap be aware of why she might be interested. I would say Vn Cupid would be a magnet for these types of women.

One of the biggest problems is guys hooking up with girls way above what they could get in their home country. Seen it happen many times, I blame the guys for being so naive. I know numerous guys who have done well on there. It's a dating site,don't expect miracles.

Fat old fuglies outraged that poor young beauties want some financial compensation for putting up with them... how dare they! 

Brick23 wrote:

Fat old fuglies outraged that poor young beauties want some financial compensation for putting up with them... how dare they! 

You telling me its NOT true love.....I am in shock you certainly know how to cut an old guy to the bone

Brick23 wrote:

Fat old fuglies outraged that poor young beauties want some financial compensation for putting up with them... how dare they! 

Who are you calling "old"???

I met someone around my age and roughly around my attractiveness rating. Didn't help matters. I think that's a mistake men make in general not just in Vietnam. Oh I'll settle for this 4, 5 or 6. That may be her objective rating, but she sure as heck doesn't think of herself that way! And when you start courting her, however she thinks of herself goes up further. Probably happens with men that don't get much attention and then all of the sudden do too.

That's not to say huge age gaps don't matter, but making the socially correct choice thinking you'll have more in common is no guarantee. Obviously most relationships fail. But I mean its no guarantee you won't be taken in by the same schemes that the young women who are considered universally hot ply.

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

Brick23 wrote:

Fat old fuglies outraged that poor young beauties want some financial compensation for putting up with them... how dare they! 

Who are you calling "old"???

My girlfiend and I have an understanding: she is forever 24, and I keep upping the dose of the special vitamins for as long as they keep working 

Vn30330 wrote:

I met someone around my age and roughly around my attractiveness rating. Didn't help matters. I think that's a mistake men make in general not just in Vietnam. Oh I'll settle for this 4, 5 or 6. That may be her objective rating, but she sure as heck doesn't think of herself that way! And when you start courting her, however she thinks of herself goes up further. Probably happens with men that don't get much attention and then all of the sudden do too.

That's not to say huge age gaps don't matter, but making the socially correct choice thinking you'll have more in common is no guarantee. Obviously most relationships fail. But I mean its no guarantee you won't be taken in by the same schemes that the young women who are considered universally hot ply.

Is this the same woman who now wants a divorce?

Yep.

Vn30330 wrote:

I suspect, and I may be wrong, but I think a lot of the happy expats I read on here have relatively juicy pensions from back home. God forbid if something were to happen to the pensions (unlikely I know) how would she treat you if you got some $500 a month job? Most would probably be out of there like a bat out of hell.

You are wrong, Based on the expats/others I know who are married to VN women.  Again, the definition of "relatively juicy pensions" is a relative term (pun intended).

2nd, of course there are gold diggers around the world and not just VN and if the relatively juicy pensions went south, the gold diggers head for the Courts.  However, and based on my experiences in VN, most VN women would not "be out of there like a bat out of hell" if the pension went south.  The complete opposite mate.  I feel sorry for men who have not had the pleasure of being loved by a VN woman.  The dedication, commitment etc. is off the charts, and there are plenty of VN and foreign men who will tell you the same.   

What I surmise, the problem for expats/foreigners is that if you don't live in VN, it is extremely difficult to meet, what i would say is, a typical VN woman.  Why?  VN men are not stupid.  They know what they have and most of the good women are married young and have kids.  So if you miss that boat, who is left?  Think about it.

I have said it a thousand times, I know I got lucky, but I also had ground rules that I stuck to, no exceptions.  Luckily, I finally met an amazing VN woman who is not a gold digger.  There are plenty of great women in VN, you just have to be patient.  If you have a gold digger, dump her and move on, period.  Don't let your heart steer you wrong.  I know that is easier to say than do, but in your mind, you know when there are red flags, but one has to choose whether to listen to them or not.

Criticizing a dating app is absurd. It's there to make the introduction, nothing more. YOUR job at that point is to separate the wheat from the chaff. If you're upset that things didn't go right, the problem is likely staring back at you in the mirror.

vndreamer wrote:

Vn30330 wrote:

I suspect, and I may be wrong, but I think a lot of the happy expats I read on here have relatively juicy pensions from back home. God forbid if something were to happen to the pensions (unlikely I know) how would she treat you if you got some $500 a month job? Most would probably be out of there like a bat out of hell.

You are wrong, Based on the expats/others I know who are married to VN women.  Again, the definition of "relatively juicy pensions" is a relative term (pun intended).

What I surmise, the problem for expats/foreigners is that if you don't live in VN, it is extremely difficult to meet, what i would say is, a typical VN woman.  Why?  VN men are not stupid.  They know what they have and most of the good women are married young and have kids.  So if you miss that boat, who is left?  Think about it.

I have said it a thousand times, I know I got lucky, but I also had ground rules that I stuck to, no exceptions.  Luckily, I finally met an amazing VN woman who is not a gold digger.  There are plenty of great women in VN, you just have to be patient.  If you have a gold digger, dump her and move on, period.  Don't let your heart steer you wrong.  I know that is easier to say than do, but in your mind, you know when there are red flags, but one has to choose whether to listen to them or not.

Oh yea & what about all the Vietnamese men who dump their loving wife & kids with absolutely no financial support to move on to the next victim or little wife or two!!
Well I dont know the stats but from what I know, see & hear, its quite a high %

goodolboy wrote:

Oh yea & what about all the Vietnamese men who dump their loving wife & kids with absolutely no financial support to move on to the next victim or little wife or two!!
Well I dont know the stats but from what I know, see & hear, its quite a high %

Yep. Had so many conversations along the lines of

"So how much does he give you each month, to help feed his kids?"
- "Give me? What do you mean?"

Certainly seems like a big percentage of Vietnamese men are total deadbeats. Possibly even stingier than some of the foreign pillocks who wash up here. I help my landlady with her vncupid activities as she's not very confident with her English, although it's pretty good IMO. She has pretty much given up any serious hope of finding a bloke of any nationality who isn't a complete tosser. She's lucky though, she's got money of her own, she can afford to be choosy.

goodolboy wrote:

vndreamer wrote:

Vn30330 wrote:

I suspect, and I may be wrong, but I think a lot of the happy expats I read on here have relatively juicy pensions from back home. God forbid if something were to happen to the pensions (unlikely I know) how would she treat you if you got some $500 a month job? Most would probably be out of there like a bat out of hell.

You are wrong, Based on the expats/others I know who are married to VN women.  Again, the definition of "relatively juicy pensions" is a relative term (pun intended).

What I surmise, the problem for expats/foreigners is that if you don't live in VN, it is extremely difficult to meet, what i would say is, a typical VN woman.  Why?  VN men are not stupid.  They know what they have and most of the good women are married young and have kids.  So if you miss that boat, who is left?  Think about it.

I have said it a thousand times, I know I got lucky, but I also had ground rules that I stuck to, no exceptions.  Luckily, I finally met an amazing VN woman who is not a gold digger.  There are plenty of great women in VN, you just have to be patient.  If you have a gold digger, dump her and move on, period.  Don't let your heart steer you wrong.  I know that is easier to say than do, but in your mind, you know when there are red flags, but one has to choose whether to listen to them or not.

Oh yea & what about all the Vietnamese men who dump their loving wife & kids with absolutely no financial support to move on to the next victim or little wife or two!!
Well I dont know the stats but from what I know, see & hear, its quite a high %

Very true.

Most of my VN female friends who have separated/divorced get nothing, and the husband's parents generally side with their little precious boy.

I have a very low opinion of VN men, too many of them are still attached to mummas nipple.

colinoscapee wrote:

goodolboy wrote:

vndreamer wrote:

You are wrong, Based on the expats/others I know who are married to VN women.  Again, the definition of "relatively juicy pensions" is a relative term (pun intended).

What I surmise, the problem for expats/foreigners is that if you don't live in VN, it is extremely difficult to meet, what i would say is, a typical VN woman.  Why?  VN men are not stupid.  They know what they have and most of the good women are married young and have kids.  So if you miss that boat, who is left?  Think about it.

I have said it a thousand times, I know I got lucky, but I also had ground rules that I stuck to, no exceptions.  Luckily, I finally met an amazing VN woman who is not a gold digger.  There are plenty of great women in VN, you just have to be patient.  If you have a gold digger, dump her and move on, period.  Don't let your heart steer you wrong.  I know that is easier to say than do, but in your mind, you know when there are red flags, but one has to choose whether to listen to them or not.

Oh yea & what about all the Vietnamese men who dump their loving wife & kids with absolutely no financial support to move on to the next victim or little wife or two!!
Well I dont know the stats but from what I know, see & hear, its quite a high %

Very true.

Most of my VN female friends who have separated/divorced get nothing, and the husband's parents generally side with their little precious boy.

I have a very low opinion of VN men, too many of them are still attached to mummas nipple.

Nipple or Saigon beer bottle!! go to a house party here, all the good little wives  huddled either round the cooker or totally in the background & all the men having the time of their lives shouting at each other, getting absolutely rat ass pissed with the occasional "hot girl" being slobbered over & groped at the men's table. What a life

Suppobill wrote:

Criticizing a dating app is absurd. It's there to make the introduction, nothing more. YOUR job at that point is to separate the wheat from the chaff. If you're upset that things didn't go right, the problem is likely staring back at you in the mirror.

I get what you are saying about the dating apps that are popular.

The reason more than ever  that they are so popular is that they make it incredibly easy to meet people from other countries.  The downside depending on your sex or view point is that many people who use them (both sexes) often abuse the meet ups they get through it.

After all it's easy to appear to be the perfect date through an app... And if you can convince someone you are a good person on the app then your halfway there. Carry on the fake or false image on the first couple of dates..

Not everyone does this... But you hear more stories of bad experiences than good.

For me the jury is out on are they bad or good.. too much evidence for the bad

Would be good to see how many positive stories come out of any app.. how many men or women met someone that turned out to be  their wife etc ??

Jlgarbutt wrote:

Suppobill wrote:

Criticizing a dating app is absurd. It's there to make the introduction, nothing more. YOUR job at that point is to separate the wheat from the chaff. If you're upset that things didn't go right, the problem is likely staring back at you in the mirror.

I get what you are saying about the dating apps that are popular.

The reason more than ever  that they are so popular is that they make it incredibly easy to meet people from other countries.  The downside depending on your sex or view point is that many people who use them (both sexes) often abuse the meet ups they get through it.

After all it's easy to appear to be the perfect date through an app... And if you can convince someone you are a good person on the app then your halfway there. Carry on the fake or false image on the first couple of dates..

Not everyone does this... But you hear more stories of bad experiences than good.

For me the jury is out on are they bad or good.. too much evidence for the bad

Would be good to see how many positive stories come out of any app.. how many men or women met someone that turned out to be  their wife etc ??

Photoshop has a lot to answer for & hey, just like here on this Forum, you can be anyone, be anything, be any age, have any job experience  etc etc you want.......who's checking   its when you eventually meet up that the truth comes out.

Every day for the last 2 years jokingly me & my GF say......thank you Zalo

Jlgarbutt wrote:

Would be good to see how many positive stories come out of any app.. how many men or women met someone that turned out to be  their wife etc ??

One of my nieces in the States met and dated a very good man through match[dot]com.  They've been married for 17 years.  He was by her side for years of battle against her ex-husband for the custody of her daughter.  He then adopted the daughter, raised her well, and spoiled her rotten.  The girl is now attending New York Law School, tuition and all expenses paid by the parents.

You met on zalo ???🤔 I thought it was just a direct contact thing

Jlgarbutt wrote:

You met on zalo ???🤔 I thought it was just a direct contact thing

Oh no, people near by function, just select age group, gender & Bobs yer Uncle, like magic all these ladies appear or boys, what ever rocks yer boat. Ladies for me & met many for coffee before my GF. But beware, like many things in Vietnam, what you see is not always what you get!!

Jlgarbutt wrote:

You met on zalo ???🤔 I thought it was just a direct contact thing

Two things:

1. Using Zalo (or Viber) is often the first step people take when they meet on Vietnam Cupid.

In fact, I've discovered that most Vietnamese women do not want to talk very long through Vietnam Cupid.

So now, once I say "nice to meet you" and they say "nice to meet you too", I say, "What's your Zalo number?"

I've only had one woman out of numerous contacts hesitate to give me her Zalo number in the very next message.

I personally really like to use Zalo that way, because I don't need to give them my phone number unless they specifically asked for it.

It's really easy to block someone in the app, so if communication goes south, you just turn the other person off.

2. Zalo has a feature called "nearby".

You plug into gender and the age range of people you'd like to meet.

Now people who fit your preferences can see you when they open up the nearby function.

From there, you can request friendship with someone, or they can request friendship with you.

In fairness, this is also a feature a lot of massuses and prostitutes use to market themselves.

So you have to use that feature cautiously, unless you're actually looking to make those contacts

Ahhh dont think "nearby" is a feature anymore

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

Jlgarbutt wrote:

You met on zalo ???🤔 I thought it was just a direct contact thing

Two things:

1. Using Zalo (or Viber) is often the first step people take when they meet on Vietnam Cupid.

In fact, I've discovered that most Vietnamese women do not want to talk very long through Vietnam Cupid.

So now, once I say "nice to meet you" and they say "nice to meet you too", I say, "What's your Zalo number?"

I've only had one woman out of numerous contacts hesitate to give me her Zalo number in the very next message.

I personally really like to use Zalo that way, because I don't need to give them my phone number unless they specifically asked for it.

It's really easy to block someone in the app, so if communication goes south, you just turn the other person off.

2. Zalo has a feature called "nearby".

You plug into gender and the age range of people you'd like to meet.

Now people who fit your preferences can see you when they open up the nearby function.

From there, you can request friendship with someone, or they can request friendship with you.

In fairness, this is also a feature a lot of massuses and prostitutes use to market themselves.

So you have to use that feature cautiously, unless you're actually looking to make those contacts

I had a young lady contact me on Zalo the other day.

She said she would come and do my housework and anything else I wanted.

I thought about it, then realised my wife wouldn't be overly happy about it.

Jlgarbutt wrote:

Ahhh dont think "nearby" is a feature anymore

My Zalo still has it.

colinoscapee wrote:

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

Jlgarbutt wrote:

You met on zalo ???🤔 I thought it was just a direct contact thing

Two things:

1. Using Zalo (or Viber) is often the first step people take when they meet on Vietnam Cupid.

In fact, I've discovered that most Vietnamese women do not want to talk very long through Vietnam Cupid.

So now, once I say "nice to meet you" and they say "nice to meet you too", I say, "What's your Zalo number?"

I've only had one woman out of numerous contacts hesitate to give me her Zalo number in the very next message.

I personally really like to use Zalo that way, because I don't need to give them my phone number unless they specifically asked for it.

It's really easy to block someone in the app, so if communication goes south, you just turn the other person off.

2. Zalo has a feature called "nearby".

You plug into gender and the age range of people you'd like to meet.

Now people who fit your preferences can see you when they open up the nearby function.

From there, you can request friendship with someone, or they can request friendship with you.

In fairness, this is also a feature a lot of massuses and prostitutes use to market themselves.

So you have to use that feature cautiously, unless you're actually looking to make those contacts

I had a young lady contact me on Zalo the other day.

She said she would come and do my housework and anything else I wanted.

I thought about it, then realised my wife wouldn't be overly happy about it.

Wonder if it's the same one who contacted me? She told me she wanted to come and work for me without pay as long as she had a place to live.

Could be a sign of the economic times

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

colinoscapee wrote:

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

Two things:

1. Using Zalo (or Viber) is often the first step people take when they meet on Vietnam Cupid.

In fact, I've discovered that most Vietnamese women do not want to talk very long through Vietnam Cupid.

So now, once I say "nice to meet you" and they say "nice to meet you too", I say, "What's your Zalo number?"

I've only had one woman out of numerous contacts hesitate to give me her Zalo number in the very next message.

I personally really like to use Zalo that way, because I don't need to give them my phone number unless they specifically asked for it.

It's really easy to block someone in the app, so if communication goes south, you just turn the other person off.

2. Zalo has a feature called "nearby".

You plug into gender and the age range of people you'd like to meet.

Now people who fit your preferences can see you when they open up the nearby function.

From there, you can request friendship with someone, or they can request friendship with you.

In fairness, this is also a feature a lot of massuses and prostitutes use to market themselves.

So you have to use that feature cautiously, unless you're actually looking to make those contacts

I had a young lady contact me on Zalo the other day.

She said she would come and do my housework and anything else I wanted.

I thought about it, then realised my wife wouldn't be overly happy about it.

Wonder if it's the same one who contacted me? She told me she wanted to come and work for me without pay as long as she had a place to live.

Could be a sign of the economic times

I have had the same thing happen numerous times. Id say its more to do with her and her friends robbing you.

I'm surprised that so many people posting here use dating sites.  Doesn't anyone just go out and meet people anymore?

paulmsn wrote:

I'm surprised that so many people posting here use dating sites.  Doesn't anyone just go out and meet people anymore?

So true & so easy to meet people for sure especially available ladies & sometimes not theoretically free & available, but some people dont have the confidence to do that remember.

goodolboy wrote:

paulmsn wrote:

I'm surprised that so many people posting here use dating sites.  Doesn't anyone just go out and meet people anymore?

So true & so easy to meet people for sure especially available ladies & sometimes not theoretically free & available, but some people dont have the confidence to do that remember.

Never having used a dating site I can only see from the outside but I would have thought that going out and meeting people is more likely to produce a genuine result. Dating sites appear to be little more than a mix of people incapable of finding a partner themselves or are only interested in sex on a cheaper scale than paying an escort.

Indices wrote:

Dating sites appear to be little more than a mix of people incapable of finding a partner themselves or are only interested in sex on a cheaper scale than paying an escort.

Hogwash. Admittedly, vncupid is the only one I've ever used, but after acclimatising to the sheer brutality of my rejection rate, it was great fun and I met some great women. Also some crazies, but such is life.

Certainly saves time and money, you can get most of the preliminary waffle out of the way before meeting.

And anyway, I charge the same for sex regardless of where I meet or met them. 

Brick23 wrote:

Indices wrote:

Dating sites appear to be little more than a mix of people incapable of finding a partner themselves or are only interested in sex on a cheaper scale than paying an escort.

Hogwash. Admittedly, vncupid is the only one I've ever used, but after acclimatising to the sheer brutality of my rejection rate, it was great fun and I met some great women. Also some crazies, but such is life.

Certainly saves time and money, you can get most of the preliminary waffle out of the way before meeting.

And anyway, I charge the same for sex regardless of where I meet or met them. 

Hope you got a good deal, two for one maybe 

Brick23 wrote:

Indices wrote:

Dating sites appear to be little more than a mix of people incapable of finding a partner themselves or are only interested in sex on a cheaper scale than paying an escort.

Hogwash. Admittedly, vncupid is the only one I've ever used, but after acclimatising to the sheer brutality of my rejection rate, it was great fun and I met some great women. Also some crazies, but such is life.

Certainly saves time and money, you can get most of the preliminary waffle out of the way before meeting.

And anyway, I charge the same for sex regardless of where I meet or met them.