why is it so hard to find friends in bangkok?

r u in thailand?

Nope - But i want to visit this beautiful country soon

Hi Jazzy
It was just about how I feel lonely and I think how a friend will be helpful for me :-)
Sorry again

Hi sepide,
No need to be sorry, I just posted something to help you that's all. As i dont speak your language, i found it hard to understand what you are saying. Now i understand what you are saying as you posted in English , so i can try and help you

On these forums, sometimes people post get together's. So keep your eye out for these posts as it helps you mix with others there.

Have a good weekend
Jaz

Captnw4 wrote:

Well, your question deserves a clear and honest answer. There are many foreigners in Thailand that have very strange beliefs and want to force them on others. This has happened to me. Also, people who come here to stay are often misfits in their native country. Myself, I am careful. I have lived here five years.

Captn - you're spot on.

I've been here 17 years and have seen people come and people go.

First, I am hesitant to make friends anywhere in the world. I need to get to know a person before I become "their friend." Perhaps I can be their acquaintance, perhaps not. You never know when someone you're hanging out with is actually someone who can get you in trouble. I'm not willing to go to jail because someone I'm with is selling drugs or doing something else illegal.

Second, my own time is limited. Who do I want to spend the majority of my free time with, my current, long-time friends and my wife and kids, or someone off of a website forum?

My time is precious to me, thus, I am picky with who I spend time with. It doesn't matter if I'm in the US or UK or Thailand, I don't generally go out to meet someone to "make friends." I have a circle of friends who I've known for 15-20, even 35 years, so for me to introduce someone new into my life takes time.

Third, there are indeed foreigners in Thailand who cannot be trusted. Why do I want to subject myself to this? Also, I speak Thai well and yet only have a handful of Thai acquaintances. Why? Because many have their own circle of friends and their own families. Time is limited and a precious commodity.

Finally, while I have no problem relating to those from the US, UK, Australia, or Europe, I don't particularly understand people from the Middle East or Africa. The only Africans I've ever met in Thailand have tried to scam me and they tend to hang out in their own areas. The only people from the Middle East I've met have been in a hospital. Doesn't mean I don't like them or can't get along with them but with limited time and my family, making friends is not my highest priority. I doubt many others make it their top priority either. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, no problem.

Also, I can't tell you how many times Thai women have asked me to teach them English. First, I don't think my wife would like this as I'm not an English teacher. Second, why on earth do I want to spend my time with someone teaching them English when I have other things I want and need to do. Time is precious but time is money too. The amount I would be paid to teach English doesn't come close to the value I put on my time.

Captnw4 wrote:

Well, your question deserves a clear and honest answer. There are many foreigners in Thailand that have very strange beliefs and want to force them on others. This has happened to me. Also, people who come here to stay are often misfits in their native country. Myself, I am careful. I have lived here five years.

I have been folowing this thread for a while and feel I really need to comment since some of the replies beggar belief. I certainly go along with most of what the Captw4 says and some of what Scott wrote further down.

To be honest I find it hard to believe that folk move to a place like Bangkok or other areas of Thailand without seemingly doing their homework.

If you want friends, go out and meet people, try learning a bit of Thai, get a job, avoid the bar scene, get out and see a bit of Thailand, and don't hang out with "expats" that you meet on an anonymous forum.

There are plenty of people on here who are not what they purport to be or indeed are not located where they say they are. Half the hangers on are not even expats but either trolls or locals in disguise.

Sorry to be so blunt but it needs saying.

The helpful folk who really live here in Thailand and participate on this forum do their best to offer advice based on their experiences. You won't find them making ridiculous one line comments that offer no help and bear no relationship to the original post.

thetefldon wrote:

Captnw4 wrote:

Well, your question deserves a clear and honest answer. There are many foreigners in Thailand that have very strange beliefs and want to force them on others. This has happened to me. Also, people who come here to stay are often misfits in their native country. Myself, I am careful. I have lived here five years.

I have been folowing this thread for a while and feel I really need to comment since some of the replies beggar belief. I certainly go along with most of what the Captw4 says and some of what Scott wrote further down.

To be honest I find it hard to believe that folk move to a place like Bangkok or other areas of Thailand without seemingly doing their homework.

If you want friends, go out and meet people, try learning a bit of Thai, get a job, avoid the bar scene, get out and see a bit of Thailand, and don't hang out with "expats" that you meet on an anonymous forum.

There are plenty of people on here who are not what they purport to be or indeed are not located where they say they are. Half the hangers on are not even expats but either trolls or locals in disguise.

Sorry to be so blunt but it needs saying.

The helpful folk who really live here in Thailand and participate on this forum do their best to offer advice based on their experiences. You won't find them making ridiculous one line comments that offer no help and bear no relationship to the original post.

Honestly, I find it extremely hard to believe people have such a difficult time of meeting others they need to put a "Why is it so hard to find friends in Bangkok" distress call on a forum where no one knows who you really are or what you really do.

jeeclassic wrote:

welcome to thailand.
I think that alot thais is friendly & smile.

Depends on the smile

Hi.sorry to be blunt, but thais don't smile unless they see money.

Are you saying they are all like that?