Hello. I am an American and my wife is South African. We have recently married and face the challenge of deciding where we will put down roots as a new family. In the U.S., I work as an electrician (mostly at nuclear power plants) and I have a Bachelor of Science degree in Environmental Science. I have two adult children who do not currently live with me. My wife has operated her own successful business from her home in Johannesburg for the last twelve years. She has two teenage sons who live with her and one adult son who also lives with her and is her only employee.
My wife and I have a dilemma that we are attempting to resolve regarding where we will live as a newly formed family. She has lived all of her life in South Africa and has struggled through many obstacles, working hard to create the life she now has for herself and her sons, with a comfortable home, a successful business, a maid, a gardener.....a life that she considers to be almost perfect.
I have lived all of my life (with the exception of one year in Iceland) in the United States, with an appreciation for the freedom and safety I have enjoyed during my lifetime, a freedom that my great grandfather, my father, myself, and several uncles and cousins have given portions of our lives to obtain and defend.
Though I may not enjoy' the same type of lifestyle to which my new wife and her sons are accustomed, I believe I have experienced a life with something much more valuable, a life of relative safety and freedom from fear. I would like for my new family to be able to experience the best of both worlds, but that is where the dilemma lies.
My wife doesn't want to give up her business and all that she has worked hard to achieve, and I agree that she shouldn't have to do so. Nor do I wish to abandon the hard-earned freedom and safety I have in the United States. Basically, my wife doesn't want to live in the U.S. and I don't wish to live in South Africa.
So, I'm wondering if Mauritius would be a suitable compromise for us.
I'm wondering if we would be welcomed as an educated, skilled American man and a successful, South African business woman?
Even though Mauritius is close to S.A., such a move would still be a major transition for my wife, and she would need to feel secure in that transition. I'm wondering if we would be able to purchase a home in Mauritius and operate her business from there. Would she actually have to emigrate officially and transfer all of her monetary assets from S.A., or could she maintain her South African business and personal accounts with no problem since all of her business clients would be in S.A.? Would I be able to (and welcome to) secure employment as an electrician, a science technician, or a teacher?
My wife and I are both giving people, and I believe that if we lived in Mauritius, we would contribute to the community in which we resided and give into it more than taking from it, as we would feel a greater sense of security and safety to venture out into public life and become an active and useful part of the community. I really don't see us doing that in Johannesburg due to the overwhelming sense of being a prisoner within one's own home as a result of violent crimes in S.A. I think our giving natures are suppressed within such an environment and that we feel stagnant and like we are merely existing rather than living. I'm trying to find a place where our lives can have energy and vitality and where we can share that with others who will appreciate it.
Thank you for your comments, suggestions, and ideas. And please forgive me if you feel I have been too lengthy or candid in this post. I guess I'm becoming a bit desperate. Have a great day!