Hello,
I an an American woman. I met a Kuwaiti man who is here in USA for school. We have spent the last 2 years together. He told me he wanted to marry me a long time ago but he was afraid of what his mother would say. About a year ago she said no simply because I am American. But that didnt stop him from continuing a relationship with me. We are the definition of soul mates. We are so good for each other. I was a Christian but I learned so much from him and from the Qu'ran that I have converted to Islam. I am now an American Muslim. Yesterday my boyfriend from Kuwait told me to be hopeful and think positively because he was going to get his older sister to understand that he loves me and for her to support him when he tells his parents that he will marry me. We planned our future. We would first get married in the USA because he has about a year of school left. We will go on winter break to Kuwait to have our wedding with his family. Then we will move the Kuwait. We were so happy talking about how great we are for each other and how our love and companionship will carry use through all troubles and of course with our faith in Allah. The next day he tells me his sister didn't disagree with him, but she told him he needs to do what is right. His mother told him no because she wants him to marry a Kuwaiti girl. Now he is telling me that no matter how he looks at it he will be disobeying his parents. I understand that a person should listen to their parents and respect their parents. But they have raised him to be a fantastic man and I think it is time he should use all he has learned to make his own decision in his own marriage. He has clearly told me that he loves me and there is nothing holding him back from our marriage except for his parents.
Am I wrong to ask him to marry me without his parents permission? Does it really make him a bad son that doesn't listen to his parents if the ONLY thing he ever did against their wish was to marry someone of a different race? He loves me. I love him. We would be raising our children in Kuwait. Maybe even in his parents home if thats what they wanted. I am so accommodating to his culture and lifestyle. His parents would not be losing him. They would just be gaining me.
What should I do? Is there any way I can help make his parents see that I am good for their son? Is there any way I can help my boyfriend make his own decision without feeling complete shame and guilt?
PLEASE help