A WEBSITE FOR EXPATS, BY EXPATS

QuidProQuo wrote:

So this website is supposed to be for expats by expats, yet I see a lot of locals trolling about offering their useless service and opinions.

Only if the various team members don't see them first.
There's a zero tolerance policy in this section so all ads are deleted the moment we see them.

Opinions are not against the forum rules unless they're just bad news for whatever reason, that including misinformation.
If you see something you know to be misleading, please report it.

Fred wrote:

2 cents didn't buy much

In moment, they have at for Vietnam the lowest postings since ever but the most spam and even more silly admin copy/paste. If they carry on that way, I will again take off for some years.
Again, I not admins anyway but if they want, they can even make their own admin forum, only englsih speaking, na(t)ive admins, if this boost their stupid ego

Neil Farrington wrote:

As a new member allow me. Quite happy with it, the site seems to do the job. Nothing in life is perfect and if it means you have to skip over 'useless opinions from the locals' so be it. Not a biggy in the greater scheme of things.  Anyway, looking forward to a VN move.  Onwards.

New, is always impressive. Was with ex the same. After a while, you see more facts than dreams and again after while, separation seems one of the options

l3ully wrote:

Neil Farrington wrote:

As a new member allow me. Quite happy with it, the site seems to do the job. Nothing in life is perfect and if it means you have to skip over 'useless opinions from the locals' so be it. Not a biggy in the greater scheme of things.  Anyway, looking forward to a VN move.  Onwards.

New, is always impressive. Was with ex the same. After a while, you see more facts than dreams and again after while, separation seems one of the options

Gee, I dunno...     

   I (don't) believe in freedom of choice, but we are all free to choose...

   .. we are not free to escape the consequences...

    My 2 dong's worth (if we are allowed to compare currencies..?)

    ..but yours is bigger than mine (so bleah!!)...     

           I shall now go off in a Huff!       

Bazza139 wrote:

l3ully wrote:

Neil Farrington wrote:

As a new member allow me. Quite happy with it, the site seems to do the job. Nothing in life is perfect and if it means you have to skip over 'useless opinions from the locals' so be it. Not a biggy in the greater scheme of things.  Anyway, looking forward to a VN move.  Onwards.

New, is always impressive. Was with ex the same. After a while, you see more facts than dreams and again after while, separation seems one of the options

Gee, I dunno...     

   I (don't) believe in freedom of choice, but we are all free to choose...

   .. we are not free to escape the consequences...

    My 2 dong's worth (if we are allowed to compare currencies..?)

    ..but yours is bigger than mine (so bleah!!)...     

           I shall now go off in a Huff!       

you can compare, whatever you want, if you can. I belive in that others night do, as they pleased

l3ully wrote:

Bazza139 wrote:

l3ully wrote:

New, is always impressive. Was with ex the same. After a while, you see more facts than dreams and again after while, separation seems one of the options

Gee, I dunno...     

   I (don't) believe in freedom of choice, but we are all free to choose...

   .. we are not free to escape the consequences...

    My 2 dong's worth (if we are allowed to compare currencies..?)

    ..but yours is bigger than mine (so bleah!!)...     

           I shall now go off in a Huff!       

you can compare, whatever you want, if you can. I belive in that others night do, as they pleased

Much Better!!    I like it at night...       

  ..the site looks naughtier at second sight too...     

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

ADMIN:

I can't locate a technical support link for the site

You can use this form > Contact Us

cafengocmy wrote:

60k VND is less than 3 USD. Not too bad.

This seems totally out of the blue.  Are you sure you were not replying to someone in another thread?

THIGV wrote:

cafengocmy wrote:

60k VND is less than 3 USD. Not too bad.

This seems totally out of the blue.  Are you sure you were not replying to someone in another thread?

It was a reply to this post from 05 September 2017:

https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.p … =4#3850505

WillyBaldy wrote:

donjuan1962 wrote:

IN my case, every withdraw will cost me 5 dollars from my bank plus whenever the local bank charge me. So that's why I need to take as much out as possible

Look for foreign banks ATMs like Citigroup and HSBC, there's a few in Saigon D1 that give up to 8M. Their fees are incredibly high (60KVND+???) but still better than widthrawing many times.

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

It was a reply to this post from 05 September 2017:

Still doesn't it seem a bit odd.  It's like it came out of a time warp.

THIGV wrote:

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

It was a reply to this post from 05 September 2017:

Still doesn't it seem a bit odd.  It's like it came out of a time warp.

Definitely!

I wish it were a requirement to learn to use the quote function... 

TubbsFugee wrote:

Need. Vietnamese to english translator. Will
Buy dinner/ pay/ hr. Trying to decipher what my gf and her friends say about me . Vietnamese observations thread maybe better. Her and friends talk about me in front of me. My Vietnamese only 7 months learning so I don't understand alot . But I hear my name, laughter. Ha I hear giàu có   etc

You need to do one of a few things:

Get a lot better at Vietnanese,

or forget about it.  You are being way to paranoid.   Are you going to sit down to dinner or drinks with a simultaneous translator and headphones like some kind of UN official?  How do you know they are not saying nice things?  If you are sure that they are not then just get out of the relationship.

Either that or get used to it.  My wife speaks Vietnamese with her friends and I just don't pay attention.  Its mostly female gossip that I want no part of anyway.  If they need my advice they ask in English.

TubbsFugee wrote:

Need. Vietnamese to english translator. Will
Buy dinner/ pay/ hr. Trying to decipher what my gf and her friends say about me .

How do you propose to do that, taping the conversation then sending it to a interpreter?

TubbsFugee wrote:

Her and friends talk about me in front of me.

Would you rather they talk about you behind your back?

TubbsFugee wrote:

But I hear my name, laughter. Ha I hear giàu có   etc

It doesn't mean a thing when people mention your name and laugh.  They mention my name and laugh at my faux-pas (in their minds) often and I'm not a foreigner (well, not much of a foreigner anyway). 

It also doesn't mean they're planning to scam you out of your money when the word giàu có is brought up.  VIetnamese are nosy, that's a big part of their characteristics.  Talking about someone's financial status is their way of getting to know that person. 

Most Westerners and Westernized-Vietnamese do not care to be under interrogation about our finance, so we cope with it, ignore it, or deflect from it.  You may want to do the same.

THIGV wrote:

You need to do one of a few things:

Get a lot better at Vietnanese,

or forget about it.

Ditto.  A little knowledge can be a dangerous thing (as the reaction on hearing the word giàu có being mentioned).

In my 23 years of marriage (so far), my husband has sat through hundreds of get-togethers in the States during which he understood not a single word, and those get-togethers often lasted half a day at a time.  He never asked me what everyone was talking about even when his name was mentioned in the conversation. 

Since we moved here, after a lot of pressure from my relatives, he started to learn the language and now can understand the gist of the conversation.  Still, the great majority of the time, he sits with us for the companionship, not to be worried that we're talking about him.

Without trust, it's nearly impossible for any relationship to last.

Ciambella wrote:

VIetnamese are nosy, that's a big part of their characteristics.  Talking about someone's financial status is their way of getting to know that person.  Most Westerners and Westernized-Vietnamese do not care to be under interrogation about our finance, so we cope with it, ignore it, or deflect from it.  You may want to do the same.

I used to teach my adult intermediate students the American idiom of "What do you do?" that is often asked of new acquaintances, Of course it has nothing to do with what they are doing in the present as the grammar and tense would indicate, but an inquiry into their job, income, and social status.  I told them to avoid the direct question that would be acceptable for Vietnamese and to replace it with the idiom.  I think they were appreciative for this tip, not only as an improvement in their English fluency but also as a way to relate to foreigners, at least for Americans.

I am uncertain if the British use this "What do you do?" idiom as they are apparently much less open about salaries than Americans.    https://www.theguardian.com/money/2018/ … its-cringe  On the opposite side of the spectrum the Swedes can look up anyone's salary by asking the government:  https://www.businessinsider.com/sweden- … ble-2017-4

Pauline Carol Elphck wrote:

Do you have expat meeting which we could attend to find out more about retiring in Da Nang?
Regards Pauline

No.

Try creating a thread under "Danang" and ask the question there.

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

Even the Province name is not available.

Maybe it's time for forum updates in the entire country?

While I think most readers here will concur on consolidating the Saigon and HCMC forums, I am not so sure that more sub-forum locations are needed.  You are aware that Vietnam has 58 provinces and 5 independent municipalities.  How crowded would that be.    Hopefully the admins will listen to input as the name of this thread implies and if there is a growing interest in a particular region or province they could add a sub-forum.

macintyre wrote:

hi there.

in Messages, why can i not see any Reply option???

When you click on the PM to read, the blank box right above that is for replying.