Of course, these characterisations and generalisations are exaggerated, and times have changed for the better. But, behind the clichés there lurks at least some ring of truth about them. The social code is somewhat reversed.
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© Shutterstock.comThere is an enduring saying when it comes to Finnish people and their social skills. It was first launched by a German author and playwright, Bertolt Brecht back in 1940 when he visited Helsinki. The Finns, they keep silent not only in one language, but two. He was referring to the country's two official languages, Finnish and Swedish. Do you want further proof? Well, here's another saying, used by the Finns themselves: Speech is silver, silence is golden.
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Breaking the ice in Helsinki
Firstly, the Finns, especially the older generation, are not exactly masters of small talk. They may appear a bit reserved and shy. So, give them some time. For them, it takes a while to warm up. Patience is a virtue, and once the ice is broken, you might have a friend for life. That means genuine presence and trust. Something that might seem a bit strange and even rude to foreigners is that people are quite frank. The attitude is business-like: why waste time on sugar coatings, just say your mind.
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Personal space and privacy
One thing typical for a country of relatively few inhabitants, and to Helsinki as well, is the peoples' innate need for a physical space. Take a bus in Helsinki and observe. Passengers prefer to take a lonely seat and not sit down next to someone. The same goes with air kisses – absolute no-no. Instead, go for a firm handshake or a cautious hug if you consider someone a real acquaintance. But, no reason to be offended if your discussion partner takes a small step away.
When it comes to conversational topics, there is no set in stone things to avoid, except one - inquiries about your colleagues' wages are considered tactless and boasting about bonuses is seen as just plain stupid. Everyone is allowed to get rich or go down in the gutter – in privacy.
Otherwise, sex, politics and religion are open to debate.
The drinking culture in Helsinki
The Finns have had a well-earned reputation of being hard drinkers. That has taken a swing, at least in Helsinki. Excessive boozing has turned into sophisticated wine sipping. Getting wasted is a cause for embarrassment.
The work culture in Helsinki
On a normal day in the office, the dress code is casual, and people all the way from reception up to CEOs are usually in first name terms. But, dress up according to the occasion. People also make quite a sharp distinction between working life and family life. After work visits to the bar next door take place normally on Fridays, and that invitation for dinner at your colleague's home may never come.
One tip though, in case you wish for a speedy integration. Pick a sport, preferably ice hockey or football, soccer that is. There is always a need for a striker or a defender. No matter what your gender might be.
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