Welcome on board 🤗
Sorry that you have been through all this and I understand your concerns.
Unfortunately I am not much of a help.
Jordan is a poor country and lot of people struggling to survive to meet ends at the end of every month. Life is tough and expensive, specially important stuff and outdoor activities. Wages did not increased and the country was heavily effected by the very strict covid measurements. More people in debt due lost of income or work.
Many are still recovering from it.
On the other hand: it's for a Muslim man haram (meaning forbidden) to ask his wife to ask money. Jordan is a traditional country and although some things are improving slowly, some things is still considered as not done. Unless both agree on some matters.
To be honest: to me this raise some red flags and it looks like you be scammed if you are not careful.
A man who is a about to get married, needs to pay the dowry (from at least 5000 Jd and up), provide a furnitured house, the party, dress and all other costs that comes within.
And....he needs to provide you in your needs and household.
How's he going to do that if he has nothing?
There's no such thing as social security, the family needs to help members so it can be an extra financial burden.
With this information I hope I made some clearness to you so you can make the right decision.
