Marrying a Dominican woman

Connie Hackett Polemis wrote:

Hi
My advice to you . Be careful look for any signs that are off because  chances are there is something not right ,they are red flags .. I too thought I found a wonderful partner .But unfortunately he only played the role very well until he got here in my country . But saying that there are good people in the DR. I did find one of them after all . Just be careful think things through . Hope everything works out
for you..

I agree at the end of the day you found the right one. This is my first rodeo. Sort of. I have had experiences weeding through the estafa on the dating sites. She is the type of person I want. I think thee are some cultural differences which cause them to act a certain way and me thinking it is something else. I will have patience. She motivates me. So I am getting benefit from this even though I may get the whole enchilada.

2VPsoldier wrote:

Stilzz - plenty of good questions to verify for yourself. How do you know if they are telling you the truth? Obviously that can be hard because they maybe very good actors with other future plans in mind or what you see and feel is the real thing. I met and am now married to lady from Moca. Her sister who lives and works  Alberta Canada where I am from introduced us and after several months "speaking" I knew there was feelings there. Even when I advised she might just wish to be friends because she is 19 years younger than me, the response was we would not know what was real until we met in person. I really lucked out in finding not just the lady, but the being welcomed into the ENTIRE family. Now have three more grandkids, step daughter and son-in-law and many great inlaws. Insecurity and mistrust will kill happiness. If your gut and your heart feel good, trust your instincts. Our marriage was just a civil one to facilitate the residency process because I have elected to live here. The formal wedding in the eyes of God and with our friends and family is not until late August. People have had bad experiences. No doubt the tourist regions have more than their share  of ladies (and men) looking for a better life via hooking a foreigner. I am certainly blessed - good luck with your future.....it can all be worth it!

Thank you. I feel the same way. I have been to her house. Love the family they seem genuine and loving.  I probably have baggage when it comes to trust anyway. I dont trust anyone they always want you to trust them. She wants to live here. I should be done with this divorce soon. We will then begin the visa process. I really want to leave it upto a immigration attorney where we both can be involved. I cant imagine waiting a whole nother year. And get denied again. This I think will make me lose confidence.

thecolonel wrote:

Stilzz, you keep showing more and more, the red flags from your side, profound naivete.

Yup not sure what to do. I am happy with her. I guess I have to find out the hard way.

PARADISECAT wrote:

Greetings Stilzz. In order to give you an honest response, many will ask you the following.
1 How long have you been dating?
2 What is the age difference?
3 Where did you meet
4 Do you speak Spanish?
5 Have you been to DR before?
6 Did you ask for money or did you volunteer to send money?
7 Why not apply for a Fiancee 90 day visa instead of getting married?
8 Who does she live with?
9 Does she have any kids?
10 What does she do for a living?
The answers you provide will perhaps paint a clearer picture. The one thing you wrote in your post which caught my attention is the word rescue. That one word does concern me a bit, because if you think rescuing her will buy you a lifetime of gratitude, then you are setting yourself up for dissapointment. One last question. How long ago was your divorce? That is a very important question since after a divorce, we tend to go through a series of emotions which makes us quite vulnerable to situations which might be regrettable in the future.  Upon ansewering those questions, you will get sound advice on the blog. Keep your eyes, and ears open, but mostly your mind.

1 How long have you been dating? 1 year
2 What is the age difference? 12
3 Where did you meet dating site
4 Do you speak Spanish? un poco
5 Have you been to DR before? yes to see her
6 Did you ask for money or did you volunteer to send money? stated financial issues I offered initially after we met then she requested it.
7 Why not apply for a Fiancee 90 day visa instead of getting married? Never heard of it. It it makes life easier and allow to to pass the 1st time I would love to do that
8 Who does she live with? family
9 Does she have any kids? yes
10 What does she do for a living? restaurant

dont wanna get to specifc

PARADISECAT wrote:

Sounds like you have made up your mind already, so in that case, I wish you well and please return and keep us posted on how things turn out. To answer your original question, it sounds like you are looking for the steps required to bring your girl to the U.S. I believe there is a thread on this site regarding those steps, but I will provide you with this link to a site which specializes in that matter. Best of luck in your quest

http://dominicanstotheusa.com/forum/ind … 702df&

LOL you think. Yes she is awesome. It just amazes me that I can relate to everyones testimonials on the bad. So any feedback is welcome. I like hearing the stories.

Thank you so much for the link

ChevySS wrote:

Hi, you seem to have found the same one I did. But saw the lying after being told the same excuses for not being able to talk on the phone. She claimed to b sick for 3 months which made her unable to talk for two months. That’s being a pen dijo, dumbass. Anyway her name would have the initials YT? They are good at melting your heart. They smooth talkers and will manipulate you in think you volunteer to send them money. They know exactly what they are doing. Once they have you hooked, the money starts to flow. Good luck.

Yeah we went through some trials and tribulations in the beginning. Supposedly a mis understanding. Hope she doesnt check these forums lol. But things are suppose to stay smooth sailing. Im in the smooth sailing phase lol. Its been discussed that things should not change in order to keep confidence levels up. I just worry about the visa denials. I can afford to do her monthly fees. Like I said I have some who ask for no money because they didnt need it. I can see the need here. I dont mind. Dont care about the money. I care more about the honesty.

PARADISECAT wrote:

You are most welcomed on the link. The Fiancé visa allows you to bring her to the U.S. and you have 90 days once she enters the U.S. to decide if you want to marry her or not, if you decide not to marry her, then she will return home.

       I would like to add one more thing. You mentioned that your divorce has not been completed. If you still decide to go through with the visa process, the Ametican consulate will require plenty of proof on the relationship you have had with this younglady, pictures, number of visits to see her, time spent toguether, etc. They might even want to see you both in person to detemine if the relationship is valid or not, so the fact that you have just been through a divorce, that might raise some red flags at the consulate.

       As far as her having a child, you might want to know if the father is still in the picture, because I have seen cases where the woman marries a foreigner, divorces him, and then reunites the original family at the expense of the original foreigner.

       Let make a simple suggestion to you, and it is only just a suggestion. I suggest you come up with some excuse to not send money for a few months, maybe something happened at work, or you had some sort of emergency. After doing so, observe the behaviour of this woman when you are not able to send money for a while and see how she reacts. I'm sure she was surviving before you came in the picture financially and she is cool, she will continue to exhibit the same level of interest after you stop sending money. I would also not announce any future visits, just pop up from time to time and see if she is available to spend time with you. Just some friendly testing advice in order to determine true intentions.

Wonderful suggestions.  I think time will tell regardless. We know we have time ahead to continue to know each other, Yes that should be researched why me going through a divorced and once completed why it would send a flag. I think I am going to leave this in Gods hands. I will surely report the outcome. maybe it might be one of those 1 and million of hitting the lottery. When I see things start to deteriorate may be ill do more investigation

PARADISECAT wrote:

One day Money and Honesty went for a walk up the hill, Money overpowered Honesty and only Money came back down from the Hill

did you make that up lol. That was a good one

Tomas Cabrera wrote:

Hi there!
Well, I went with my heart & hit the lottery!
Met her on Dominican Cupid about 9 years ago.
Met in person 8 years ago.
Got married 4 years ago.
Great family here!
NO real problems so far, not expecting any!
Life is good.
Tom.

That is awesome. I think she is a good girl. Always aware of the Oscarphobia. The scams on those Cupid sites are unbelievable. If my situation turns out ok I feel sorry for people who have gone through this elaborate scheme and lose the girl. Sounds like all the stories are the same. The only difference is do they get the girl or not. It's a poor country money should be expected. Single mothers money should be expected. I just worry about the denied aspect for visa that could be a deterrent in it self to make you give up. And not there fault. Seems all very diabolical. I can send money to my friend. Using love is terrible

the tinker40 wrote:

They are friends of mine. He is telling the truth.  It can Happen, though rare.

Amazing how rare these things are. Smh

planner wrote:

To answer your question - there is no guaranteed way to get her to the USA.

A year may not be long enough.
How you met may not be acceptable.
The amount of time together may not be long enough.
Your proof of an actual relationship may not be good enough.

How well do you actually know each other?

It is likely that you will be rejected the first time around.  Most get.rejected on the first application. Those are the facts based on the statistics.

Thank you so much. I'm so sorry to her that. Well I will continue to do my research
Thank you

the tinker40 wrote:

Another Lemming joining the dash to the cliffs.  The fall may not be fatal, but the pain is long lasting & the potential for creating an emotional cripple.     Please slow down, if she is real, she will understand & wait for you.  Do you intend to bring the children to the U,S. also?  If not, then she will have to abandon her kids.  What does that tell you of her personal values. Have you seen & read her Cedula?   May you triumph in your quest for honest, true love.

The woman is a good woman. The whole family stays together
She will bring her son once she settles. I will slow down. I see to get more attention when I don't speak to her. I will continue to talk to my other friends. Seems like I know for a fact that these women are sincere. I wonder if there is anything on my part that I need to prepare to have.