Looking for a daddy for my son.

first of all, just a reminder that this isn't a dating site.

as for your question on marriages with people of other cultures, we have many threads on the topic already:
https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=175557https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=313939https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=280496

ECS wrote:

first of all, just a reminder that this isn't a dating site.

as for your question on marriages with people of other cultures, we have many threads on the topic already:
https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=175557https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=313939https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=280496

So sorry. I am new

Just remember that whoever you might be interested in must clearly understand that you and your child are a "complete package". There is nothing "mix-and-match   or  a la carte" about the relationship. Either he accepts both of you and will love you both equally then take a pass and move on to the next guy. Any man who shows up and says, "Oh honey I love you so-o-o-o-o much, but your child, well that's another story" doesn't love you at all. Probably doesn't even love himself, so is not worth you time and trouble.

You've got to find somebody who not only accepts your child, but loves your child exactly if he was the biological father, love the child to a point where you're almost jealous. Then you know there is no distinction made in that man's mind. Every child deserves to be loved that way and being a father has absolutely NOTHING to do with blood, but EVERYTHING to do with the heart. I'm speaking from personal experience. If your man wouldn't lay down his life to protect your child, without giving it a second thought then you've got the wrong man.

The rest is just 'decoration', age, nationality, culture, religion none of that matters if the love for both of you is truly there. No matter what problems or obstacles there are to the relationship, that kind of love will overcome them all.

Good luck and God bless both you and your son.

  Cheers, 
  William James Woodward, Brazil & Canada Expert - Expat-blog Team

Hi Ms lamhoang...
Please be careful, with posting ..."Looking for a daddy for my son".
There are some bad people in this world(and they will probably be, creepy Western type people)(like it or not!)... Well, I was thinking for a better/safer place, for you to openly advertize your desperate situation... Err.. And, I hit a wall... Hmmm, there is no safe place that I can think of...
Be careful, work hard and do the best that you can. Your Son, will love you even more.. When he hears, how hard you worked for him.
Your English is quite good!! You have an education!!
Tourism, is really booming in VN.... You are 70-80% there already.
Study hard, you can get there...

Metta
Greg

I come from a long line of strong independent women. My granny had eight children with my grandpa in Vietnam. My grandpa, he died very young from a illness. She never remarried. My granny was only 36 yrs. young. All this took place in 1960. She worked hard on her land with no man in her life, only had her family and children. She really loved my grandpa. She is 92 years old now. She survived through out the war and the years afterwards. Today, most of her children have good lives.

Your son does have a father. If he isn't involved in his life, then that is his father's loss. You are his mother, he is your responsibility now. Don't get married or involved with anyone just because you want your son to have a daddy. Do it because you love the person you want to be with and he loves and accepts you and your son.   You are stronger than you think!

Wish you the best

Lan

Didn't we just have a posting that was similar to this and the moderator closed the thread as not suitable for an Expat-Forum?

Tran Hung Dao wrote:

Didn't we just have a posting that was similar to this and the moderator closed the thread as not suitable for an Expat-Forum?

Yes...here it is

I'am looking for the parents who really love to have an adopt son!
https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=312965

Armand wrote:

Hi all,

Please note that the inappropriate posts have been removed.
We close the thread for it is irrelevant to the website's purpose.
I would suggest Sara_Xuan to contact social organisations or any other qualified authorities.

Thanks
Armand
Expat.com Team