Dating and finding love as an expat in China

Hello,

With cultural barriers and different dating norms, finding love as an expat abroad can be exciting and challenging at the same time.

Is it easy to meet other fellow single people in China?

How do you go about meeting people (through friends, online dating, apps, meetup groups)?

How safe is it to date in China?

How do you deal with cultural differences when dating?

What are certain dating etiquettes and rules when dating in China?

How do you deal with getting into a serious relationship if you know you might be leaving China?

Thank you for sharing your experience,

Priscilla

Is it easy to meet other fellow single people in China?
I have never had trouble meeting people in China. Once a girl showed any interest in me, and found out that I was available, it was very easy to go out. In fact, the gals would come up to me and ask me out for dinner and then we could often go elsewhere afterwards.

Most Chinese guys and girls remind me of my High School friends from way back. I am very comfortable with them, and they are very comfortable with me. We just go out and have a great time together.

I have expat friends that only date or spend time with other expats. i don't. In fact, this is something that I avoid. Why come to China if you don't want to spend time with Chinese people?

How do you go about meeting people (through friends, online dating, apps, meetup groups)?
If there is a girl I like, I ask her if she wants to eat. Then we go to a nice restaurant. If my Chinese language skills are not that good, or she cannot speak English, I have a friend help me work out the details. Then, we can easily communicate using the translation app on WeChat. Sometimes its a matter of cell-phone back and forth.

How safe is it to date in China?
Very safe.

How do you deal with cultural differences when dating?
I have not really seen really big differences in culture. Most Chinese gals are very traditional, and that is just fine with me, as I was raised in a traditional household where men and women have traditional roles. The only thing is that I have to carry the girls purse when she is in the ladies room. Sometimes I feel a little odd holding this really girly frilly purse waiting outside. Also Chinese girls expect a man. This is an alpha male. You don't hold open the door for them like a beta male. Aside from that, it's all very comfortable.

What are certain dating etiquettes and rules when dating in China?
I always pay for the meal if I ask the girl out. If the girl asks me out, she will pay, though I will try to pay instead. Be clean and well groomed. Make sure that you wash the dishes out with green tea first before using them, and follow the proper technique in holding the chopsticks. In general, most Chinese love eating seafood.

How do you deal with getting into a serious relationship if you know you might be leaving China?
Never get in a serious relationship if you know that you will not be able to maintain it. It's terrible and a difficult thing to maintain.

@VANNROX - you are such an expert with every topic. Who would bother to comment?

With cultural barriers and different dating norms, finding love as an expat abroad can be exciting and challenging at the same time.

Is it easy to meet other fellow single people in China?
yep

How do you go about meeting people (through friends, online dating, apps, meetup groups)?

How safe is it to date in China?
china is big as europe when it comes in differences and dialects. How safe is it to date in europe?No idea. But again back to the "safe" part: what do you mean by "safe"? STD?Scams? In my 18 years in china I have heard of people waking up after a hook up in a bar in a bath-tube covered by ice, with a missing spleen.... guys meeting a girl that then ask them money for her sick parents...


How do you deal with cultural differences when dating?
I didn't notice any culturale difference in china, but then again I am talking about beijing and Shanghai (as I said earlier china is big...)

What are certain dating etiquettes and rules when dating in China?
depends, usually the girl let the man pay if she is interested in him in some way, otherwise she might AA

How do you deal with getting into a serious relationship if you know you might be leaving China?
I dont

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