Hi,
I hope somebody here can offer me some advice...
My problem involves an on-going legal issue, so I can't post full details involving anything that could identify me or prejudice the case, but I'll try to be as complete, (and concise), as possible.
I am married to a Brasilian woman, I speak Portuguese fluently, hold a family reunion visa, RNE and CPF registrations. We do not have children.
I originally met my wife on-line, whilst she was in Brasil, and I was in my own country. It was not via a dating website, it was a simple email contact, originally as penpals as she said that she wanted to study English.
However, after three months, we were involved in an intense 'namoro virtual' and I visited Brasil for 35 days to meet her. The relationship was a success, we were intimate as a couple, and we got engaged. I returned to my country for one month to organise myself for a longer stay in Brasil. We organised the necessary documents so that we could marry when I returned.
When I returned to Brasil, having started the process of eventually emigrating, she told me the truth, that she was already in a relationship of ten years, and that I should forget our plans and return to my country.
Obviously, I didn't want to do that, so I spent three weeks on my own in a hotel in Brasil, and eventually convinced her to end her existing relationship and continue with our plans.
Unfortunately, her behaviour changed, and although we married four months later, I was full of doubts, and did it based on the promises she made me that it was all just stress causing the difficulties in our relationship.
Fast forward six months of us both staying in my country, with a lot of stress, and no romance in our new marriage, and we returned to Brasil with a large amount of money borrowed from my father to build a house and some apartments to rent, which was to be our main income.
The constructor took our money and left us with just foundations, a few walls, and mounting hotel bills. I completed the first small apartment with more borrowed money, so that we could leave the hotel. However, our relationship deteriorated as she demanded more and more money to continue construction even further, even though we had agreed to wait until we could sue the constructor.
Then her behaviour changed even more, and she started humiliating and threatening me, at first with verbal threats, then she started to impede me eating and sleeping, even going as far as to turn off the water main to stop me washing soap off of my hands. She has hit me with a remote control, stolen from my wallet, threatened to put a knife in me, and screamed for the neighbours' help in the evening, when I was nowhere near her.
When none of this worked to force me out, (which is obviously what she wanted), she invited her mother around, who refused to leave, and stood criticising me in my own home.
I eventually left the house, fearing for my own personal safety, and returned to my country, where I am now.
My wife is refusing to co-operate in an amicable divorce, and is using all of the laws designed to protect women to keep me away from the house and take as much as she can for herself. Already, some items have disappeared to her mother's house. She is claiming that I married her just to obtain a visa. The documents for the purchase of the land were prepared by a friend of hers, and contain errors, over valuing the property. Worst of all, she has started a criminal process against me, accusing me of being violent and threatening to kill her, (which is obviously not true). I am currently banned from getting close to her, or contacting her, (which I have no desire to do anyway).
I have a Brasilian solicitor on my case, but I want other people's opinions and input on the case. He has told me that I can only expect to get 50% of the value of the assets. (Our marriage regime is partial separation of goods), even though I can prove that my wife has lied to me from the beginning, has never worked or contributed to our lifestyle, has threatened me, and forced me to leave Brasil out of fear.
I have a lot of clear evidence in the form of video recordings, audio recordings, email exchanges, etc of all of my claims.
I would like to know if there is anything I can do, in addition to the divorce and indemnification action started along side of it.
Specifically, I would like to make a criminal accusation against her for the violence and threats I have suffered, and also the fact that she has shown signs of being mentally disturbed, (I have video evidence). My solicitor seems reluctant to do anything beyond the divorce case, and my immediate protection, but I want to do more. Only a small amount of the evidence I have has so far been presented to the judge.
I always believed that even in the partial separation of goods regime, that if it can be clearly demonstrated that one side paid the full value for something, that the 50/50 split was not obligatory? But my solicitor says that this is not true. He also says that even though the money was borrowed from my father, that she cannot be held responsible for 50% of this debt. Why not?
Can anybody give me some advice? I am no stranger to life in Brasil, but this experience is leaving me confused and worried.
I am suffering in many ways. Even my health is suffering as I have suddenly moved from a tropical climate, to a very cold winter, all due to her lies and threats.
I have a mountain of evidence to sort though, and I don't know what is useful and what is not. My solicitor seems fairly uninterested, because the evidence he already has is, 'enough'. But that seems like the wrong attitude to me.
Apologies for not including more personal information or detail, but this is ongoing and current legal action. I have to be careful what I disclose. I hope you understand.
Thanks in advance.