possible marriage to a man from Jordan

5334POSTS

13 years ago

I follow this tread since yesterday.
In the whole time there is many said and written.
Most of the things are true. But I also agree with someone that what you may think, is based on your own experiences.
Actuelly is difficult for an outsider to tell you what you must do or not. Nobody knows you, your situation or him. And we hear only your side.

Getting involved with someone is always a little bit tricky.
In the beginning you will see always the best side of a person until you spend a long time together then you find out there are also things you don't like about the other.
When you want a relationship with a man you met by internet, you can make an appointment to meet each other. After the first date you know if you want to go on with this person.
But in your case is this difficult because he lives in a totally other country with diverent way of life.
And you talk about to marry him but how you really know him?

I think the best way what you can do is go on VACATION to Jordan: see the land, meet people and also meet your friend.

Maybe you can visit him as his guest in his house.
Then you can see how he is interacting with is family.
You see him from a hole different side in his real life environment.
This way you know him better. And if you still want to marry him than I wish you all the best and a happy en blessed life!

Sweilem Member

13POSTS

13 years ago

#42

He is only a player and I know it for sure
Why can't he go to states
He might be interested in citizenship
Why not asking his family to talk to her
He is hiding something big
He is married
Financially not capable
Why the hill you want this ?? Why
Love is not enought
And you have to face you love a none real guy
It's like you watch a movie and love the actor
Or like reading a story
Wake up before its too late

JeffAmman Member

20POSTS

13 years ago

#43

Primadonna wrote:
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I think the best way what you can do is go on VACATION to Jordan: see the land, meet people and also meet your friend.

life!

I think this is good advice. Book a flight and hotel and visit the country, its people and most importantly the man you want to marry and his family.

flowerinjannah Active member

67POSTS

13 years ago

#44

There are always two sides of a coin...so better check both sides before it gets too far too regret ...
All the best.
Rehana

Sweilem Member

13POSTS

13 years ago

#45

Again
Why wasting time and money by visiting him
How it could be !! Unless he is good at talking and his borrowed words touched your heart

GuestPoster94202 Guest

0POSTS

13 years ago

#46

That arab guy is very astute, on the other hand the advice to visit is well said. I did the same 6 months before I moved here, and fell in love with Jordan and its people, his family, and him etc. However, living here is a WHOLE other story. I really can't wait to leave now LOL, but with my husband in tow of course. The culture and me didn't work out; thankfully my marriage did. And website-wise, Shadi and I met on SalaamHearts.com. Like the EHarmony for Muslims

Primadonna Jordan Expert

5334POSTS

13 years ago

#47

Sweilem wrote:
Again
Why wasting time and money by visiting him
How it could be !! Unless he is good at talking and his borrowed words touched your heart

Well, if it did not turn out well then at least you had a wonderful vacation.

zeydK Active member

62POSTS

8 years ago

#48

Hi Amy,

I hope you'te doing well,

I know this thread was posted in 2012 so pretty much old, but I just stumbled upon it today and it really caught my attention.. I am curious to know where do you stand now, what hapenned to you? did you get married to yhe guy?

I was absolutely moved and touched by your honesty and openness and I wish you all the best.

Zeyd

Primadonna Jordan Expert

5334POSTS

8 years ago

#49

zeydK wrote:
Hi Amy,

I hope you'te doing well,

I know this thread was posted in 2012 so pretty much old, but I just stumbled upon it today and it really caught my attention.. I am curious to know where do you stand now, what hapenned to you? did you get married to yhe guy?

I was absolutely moved and touched by your honesty and openness and I wish you all the best.

Zeyd

I think everyone who participated on this thread are curious what happened.
But... unfortunately she's been inactive for more than three years so don't expect a reply from her.

zeydK Active member

62POSTS

8 years ago

#50

Thank you
I really appreciate that you took the time to reply to my message. You went out of your way just to do that. thank you again.

On a different note, I really hope she is well and doing fine.

Zeid

Primadonna Jordan Expert

5334POSTS

8 years ago

#51

No problem Zeid.
Trying to prevent that you check your mobile every few minutes if a message from her coming in

zeydK Active member

62POSTS

8 years ago

#52

hehe.. yes you really did save my life.. I owe you big time 😄

Kip98 Contributor

162POSTS

8 years ago

#53

We need to start a "Whatever happened to" edition thread on here :p

In case anyone is wondering-- I myself came to Jordan, fell in love with it, got married, moved to Jordan, couldn't stand actually living there, moved back to the states with my husband. Very similar story to someone a few posts up.

zeydK Active member

62POSTS

8 years ago

#54

hehe.. yeah I guess we do..

I can supply the artwork and we can even turn it into a comic

and good for you actually.. but you know what you can do even better, if you can narrow down what you really liked and disliked about your whole experience so other people in here who might be in a similar situation or thinking to move or get involved with Jordanians can learn something from it.

Peace, Light and happiness.

Zeid

sweetjenny1993 Member

10POSTS

8 years ago

#55

Hi there,
My name is Jenny and I read your reply. I am American and just got married to a Jordianian. Can we talk?

Jenny

Mohammad Na Active member

36POSTS

8 years ago

#56

Hi Jenny,

Of curse, We can talk.

sweetjenny1993 Member

10POSTS

8 years ago

#57

Hi Mohammad,
I just happened to find this site. Well 9 months ago I got married to a Jordanian after knowing him a few weeks. He was very simple hearted and very sweet. At first I blocked him because there was an age difference but I decided to unblock him after he wrote me and asked me why I blocked him. I had a hard time with trust and I already was divorced with a 10 year old and knew he really never wanted a child. He tried to come to the USA on a tourist visa and was denied. So I tested him and told him if he would buy my ticket to Jordan I would come to meet him. It was instant for me once I saw him smile in person. He told me he was shocked at my looks in real life compared to pictures and skype because I look alot younger. I met his entire family and I instantly fell inlove with all of them. He would not touch me until we were married(this is very different compared to american men) . Here is the thing I keep going back and forth because our age difference is huge and normally I like older men because they are more mature and stable but I fell head over heels for this man. I guess there are times that I have doubt because of our age difference and I feel like this is a dream. I told him I dont care where we live as long as we are together in fact I love Jordan and would love to live there but he has told me how hard it is to get a job and the life there. I guess it really bothers me because to me where there is love and will there is a way to make things work. You are Jordanian? Have you lived in Jordan? Is it really hard to find work there?

Mohammad Na Active member

36POSTS

8 years ago

#58

I will be frank and sincere with you, I hope you will not get mad from my frankness. This person is looking for travel to America and getting a US passport. Many young people here in Jordan are looking for that. I hope you will be warned about it.
Regards,
Mohammad

sweetjenny1993 Member

10POSTS

8 years ago

#59

You really think that?

sweetjenny1993 Member

10POSTS

8 years ago

#60

Why would he introduce his family to me then?

Mohammad Na Active member

36POSTS

8 years ago

#61

Yes I do. Be careful ....

sweetjenny1993 Member

10POSTS

8 years ago

#62

I have already married him.

Mohammad Na Active member

36POSTS

8 years ago

#63

Are you here in Jordan ?

sweetjenny1993 Member

10POSTS

8 years ago

#64

no i am in usa but he lives in jordan. I always thought if they are serious they wouldnt introduce to you to the family.

Mohammad Na Active member

36POSTS

8 years ago

#65

That is not matter, it's less than normal to introduce you to his family.

Mohammad Na Active member

36POSTS

8 years ago

#66

He does not care about your feelings or love. He is playing with your emotions. All his want to get the US passport. Believe me this is the truth.

sweetjenny1993 Member

10POSTS

8 years ago

#67

I have been to your country 3 times and love the culture. I read your biography and actually my husband got his degree in tourism and hotel management from the local University there. I have taken your words to heart because I am a honest and sincere person. I know people just want a green card but I guess you can say I didnt think he would be like that. I dont look very young but I dont look my age at all. My spirit is pretty young but I am very youthful in my beliefs about love. I always feel that I was looking for a fairy tale of love. I feel very scared to trust at times there are really some crazy erratic people out there. I actually love the cuture in Jordan and begged him that I want to live there but he always told me the jobs its hard to make it there. The words you told me have really really shaken my heart because everyone I meet I tend to always give love and devotion but I guess I am very naive at times.I just ended my 13 marriage 2 years ago to an Iranian. Everywhere I turn it seems like I cant find what I want. People are not honest its so sad how much more beautiful this world would be if there was honesty.

Mohammad Na Active member

36POSTS

8 years ago

#68

The worst type of crying wasn't the kind everyone could see - the wailing on street corners, the tearing at clothes. No, the worst kind happened when your soul wept and no matter what you did, there was no way to comfort it. A section withered and became a scar on the part of your soul that survived. For people like me and Echo, our souls contained more scar tissue than life.

sweetjenny1993 Member

10POSTS

8 years ago

#69

My God very powerful words. When your soul has been so deeply saddened or battered it sure is hard to open it back up. This life is very hard and honestly unbearable at times. Honesty is truly a hard trait to find now a days.

Mohammad Na Active member

36POSTS

8 years ago

#70

Unfortunately, honesty is truly a hard trait to find now a days.

Mohammad Na Active member

36POSTS

8 years ago

#71

It is very hard to letting go your love for someone else just because he/she loves to any other person. It is common. ... Hardest Part of Life is to find someone who loves to back ... In your difficult time, try to spend time with your true friends who listen you and give you positive energy and confidence to never giving up on love.

Primadonna Jordan Expert

5334POSTS

8 years ago

#72

sweetjenny1993 wrote:
... actually my husband got his degree in tourism and hotel management from the local University there. I actually love the cuture in Jordan and begged him that I want to live there but he always told me the jobs its hard to make it there.

It is true that in some fields it's hard to make it, specially for jobs where you don't need a degree, these kind of jobs are low payed and you need to feed a whole family. Life is expensive in Jordan.
As your husband works in the tourism sector and having a degree, I wonder what he does for a living. Despite what he said the tourism industry is thankfully booming again after a few years of decreasing tourists coming to Jordan.

After reading your comments I get the same feeling what Mo already had spoken out. You are his one way ticket to get out.
But then again: don't know you nor your husband but I hear alarm bells ringing.