it's not that easy (but not that hard too...) for being a parent

i guess you already a cool mum, but as a child grow she will start asking about her father, not unless his still around.

Emman Lopez wrote:

i guess you already a cool mum, but as a child grow she will start asking about her father, not unless his still around.

i'm still looking for a father for her..

someone out there, if you are willing to be,,,raise your hands please!!

aabie ryan wrote:

Emman Lopez wrote:

i guess you already a cool mum, but as a child grow she will start asking about her father, not unless his still around.

i'm still looking for a father for her..

someone out there, if you are willing to be,,,raise your hands please!!

Well you should be prepare when she start asking, hahaha i can't be a father cause Im also looking for one hahaha.......

Emman Lopez wrote:

Well you should be prepare when she start asking, hahaha i can't be a father cause Im also looking for one hahaha.......

you are also looking for a man??

wow..Emmaaaaaan!!

hahaha I am also looking for a father,

Anyone Who wants to be a father for Emman Lopez PM me please...

Hi Aabie,

Lots of love to you and Phaedra. I have 4, now adult, sons and daughters back in Canada and I was the primary caregiver for all of them. I was Mr. Mom long before the movie ever came out. As you know now I'm a dad again and Matheus is five. Believe me it's not easy being a parent at any time, but I've found out that my past experiences have made it so much easier and more importantly ENJOYABLE at my age (63).

You have to be a friend yes, but that only goes so far. Kids need limits and they will learn to respect you for those limits. (They show a kid you really care)

Learn to negotiate with your child. Nothing is harder to hear than the word NO or an order to do something. Empower you kids, or at least leave them thinking you've empowered them to make their own choices by skillfull negotiation.

For example you want your kid to clean up his/her own room, pick up the toys, make their bed, etc. And your kid wants to watch something on TV (or do anything else). If it is something you actually will allow them to do anyway, you put it like this....

"Well, what do you want to do first clean up your bedroom or watch TV?"

The child will always pick what they want to do first. Once they've done it then it's time for them to do what you want. They often complain, but when you say.... "wait a minute, wasn't it you who decided that you'd watch TV then clean up your room after?" they generally will do it without further complaint. They think it was their idea. Or you can point out that 'a deal is a deal' and that you lived up to your end by letting them watch TV now it was their turn to do the same.

Keep your kids active, find activities to join in with them. Matheus loves to cook with me, so we make breakfast every morning. Aabie, it was so funny the other morning I had a very early class in town so left early. When Keyla asked Matheus what he wanted for breakfast he blurted out... "You know how to make breakfast?" He loves to help her with the housework too. So he gets the best of both of us, he's with us all the time and participates eagerly in what we do.

One thing I've always loved to do was read stories to my children. Take your child to the library and pick a book that interests your kid. Most libraries have a children's area where it's kind of open plan and you can sit around on the floor of stuffed furniture. I used to sit in the middle of the floor cross legged with my kids and begin reading to them out loud. Like magic other kids would always come and sit down with us to hear the story. It always attracted a crowd. My kids felt important and proud that their dad was such a hit. The library staff whispered a silent "Thanks Lord" when they saw me arrive because they knew that at least while I was there, things would be super calm with kids glued to the story and not running everywhere.

Lots of love to you and Phaedra. Try out my tips, you will find they work well.

Hugs & Kisses
Your Net-dad        (hey does that mean I'm a net-grandpa too Aabie? LOL)

wjwoodward wrote:

Hi Aabie,

Lots of love to you and Phaedra. Try out my tips, you will find they work well.

Hugs & Kisses
Your Net-dad        (hey does that mean I'm a net-grandpa too Aabie? LOL)

well,dad..you are amazing! just like usual :hugs:

i have tried few of your advises..
1.since Phaedra is only 19mos, what we called 'cook together' was making choco-spread sandwich..and ended up with choco-spread covered baby

2.i haven't took her to the library yet, but i try to save money to buy her new books every month and always try to have time to read all that books for her..

3. our recent 'adventure' was last weekend..we visited the zoo, and she was so happy and blabbering about all the animals she saw..

and i will do all the rest..wait till the time is come..

and once again..
you deserve an unlimited love and hugs and kisses from both of us..

ps : you are automatically become a GrandDad also...

hugs,kisses and lots of love
-b-

Honey,

The idea of cooking together isn't really to make anything edible. Kids always make more mess than anything else...... it's just to have fun, be together and slowly teach the concepts of making something in the kitchen. Even though he's only five Matheus already knows how to make lots of things, pancakes, bread, pizza, donuts....... he loves cutting them out. Obviously he's not allowed really close to the stove yet, but the preparation his has already got down to a science.

Hugs & Kisses 

I understand,dad....

Thanks you one more time...

I love you more and more

Good luck with your search, Aabie; hang in there. I have blogged about the situation of my son's two daughters, with some added thoughts on "inherited" children in general.
(http://barlowscayman.blogspot.com/2011/ … tinct.html

The older one was a year old when he came into her life. I met her a year or so later when the little family was living in a treehouse beside lake Atitlan in Guatemala; her mother was pregnant with her sister at the time. Sadly, the adults parted a few years later, but the two girls (now 12 and 9) are still very much in my son's life, and in his parents' (i.e. their grandparents') lives too. He lives in Norway - despite the cold - purely because they are there with their mother. And we have to visit Norway because they are all there - and, well, that's our life now.

So. Loving fathers and grandparents don't have to be related by blood. And no, my son is not available to be your little girl's father - sorry! But there are millions of other good men out there. Here's a thought: why not recruit Phaedra to help you find a father? You could make a fun game of it.

Dear Gordon Barlow..
i do on my mind about "family is not always a matter of blood, but someone who wants you to be part of their life and love you for that"

and i don't mind if your son can't be a father of my daughter because i do believe he is too good to be true for me..

and, recruiting a father is not a game, i don't wanna toss a coin to choose a man to be with us for the rest of our life, to share all joys and tears...
in fact, i'm arranging a 12 test to pass just like Heracles did

ummm..thanks for sharing..it's enlighten me..

regards,
-b-

if there are 7 billion people on earth already would anyone still want to have kids?

Hericles wrote:

if there are 7 billion people on earth already would anyone still want to have kids?

i want to make it 7 billions + 1 ......

Hericles wrote:

if there are 7 billion people on earth already would anyone still want to have kids?

since you like questioning why don't you post a new one. It seems there's a lot of things bothering inside of your mind than giving suggestions, opinion or remarks. Ignore answering questioned with another question believe me its for your own good.

Wow,Emman...you got your B*tchtude!


-b-