Whilst there's a level of luck in marriage, I'm taking a shot foolishness is the cause of most problems we hear about.
As a fat old slob, I could easily have fallen into the same trap of young Asian women chasing me, mostly after cash, but I didn't go that way.
I was lucky enough to meet a lovely lady who was working in an honest job and had no intention of getting a free ride to a UK passport. The conversation about where we should live was short, especially when I suggested England. All I got was "too cold", and that was the end of that.
Well over nine years into having a thumb glued to my head, and we still live a simple life with me spending a lot more on tech toys than she ever manages on clothes and whatever else.
Her family (Dad) asks for a loan every few years, a million Rupiah I know I have no chance of ever getting back, but that's really about it (Save her lazy sister who wasted the cash I spent sending her to school, but that wasn't all that much).
We send gifts to her family and help them out from time to time, but it's never a lot and isn't often.
The only serious cash we spend is on our kids, and that's something you must expect. After that, the only large layout she asked for was me buying a car, and a larger one as our family got bigger and we needed a maid again.
I wasn't much bothered about a car, but it's been handy so I can't moan.