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Misyar marriage between filipina and saudi man

Salam to everyone,

Im a filipina working here in saudi arabia, i met this saudi man, single, 33 years old, we had a relationship for 2 year, he is sincere to the point that he came to our house and met my family, then this year he decided to marry me, he went to imara but declined, were thinking about misyar marriage, is this kind of marriage is a legal thing in this country between filipina and saudi man? What are the steps if so, im willing to take this kind of marriage just to be together with him, i love this man and he is so, but the normal marriage that he applied for us was declined..please help us to clarify this thing..we both agreed for whatever the consequences it may bring just for us to be legal in this country...thanks a lot brothers and sisters

Dear Gividen,
        I hope you are doing well. I can honestly say that Misyar marriage isn't attested or recognized here in Saudi Arabia. Actually, it is highly frowned upon and even forbidden. Thus, if you marry misyar, it will not be recognized at all by the government or the sharia here.
      I sincerely advise you guys to check with ministry again and get approval. If not, I hope you find a better way. Take care and I wish you the best.

+1 on what wes_k said above. Misyar marriage has not official or legal standing.

In very simple terms, misyar is a kind of adultery where a man gets verbal confirmation from a lady of physical relation --- with no legalization -- in exchange for monthly wages -- with no other responsibilities (kids etc) lying on his shoulders.

I have no addition to what the guys said above .
why don't you get married in other country ? anywhere out of saudi arabia .

Is this kind of marriage(misyar) is haram? We want our relationship to be in right way(halal) but because of the strict policy for marriage here, it seems so hard for us especially i am not saudi😢, its really frustating that we can't do something about this, that is why we want to marry in misyar...but the real sense of this marriage is about for us to handle.. if we'll marry in mt country it will be fine but as everybody said it will never be recognize here...please were really want to marry here, someone help us about this misyar marriage and what to do? Are they going to allow us because i am a filipina and he is saudi...thanks a lot

gividen :

Is this kind of marriage(misyar) is haram? We want our relationship to be in right way(halal) but because of the strict policy for marriage here, it seems so hard for us especially i am not saudi😢, its really frustating that we can't do something about this, that is why we want to marry in misyar...but the real sense of this marriage is about for us to handle.. if we'll marry in mt country it will be fine but as everybody said it will never be recognize here...please were really want to marry here, someone help us about this misyar marriage and what to do? Are they going to allow us because i am a filipina and he is saudi...thanks a lot

I understand how frustrating this is for you both but Misyar is 100% haram. You should not go that way. Your partner could appeal again to the prince of the region where you are. Maybe he will give him a letter of approval for the ministry.
     I am sorry to hear about your problem. But I will say it again, I sincerely don't advice you at all with Misyar. If you get caught together or get pregnant, it will be a disaster for both of you.

The question is : why Misyar? Is sexual relation has to be made and is that all about it?

I know a few people who were in a situation exactly like yours. What they did was to arrange a ceremony at their home, invite close relatives. The imam of a Masjid close-by was called to make the Tankeeha. 100% halal, though government doesn't recognize it; it is better than anything else.

Agree with TLL above, if its real marriage you are looking for , you could go for the above, but if you are looking for legal protection and recognition then there is no way misyar is the solution, the only solution would be to get permission to marry foreigner. Misyar on the other hand can be constituted as equivalent to prostitution.

gividen :

Is this kind of marriage(misyar) is haram? We want our relationship to be in right way(halal) but because of the strict policy for marriage here, it seems so hard for us especially i am not saudi😢, its really frustating that we can't do something about this, that is why we want to marry in misyar...but the real sense of this marriage is about for us to handle.. if we'll marry in mt country it will be fine but as everybody said it will never be recognize here...please were really want to marry here, someone help us about this misyar marriage and what to do? Are they going to allow us because i am a filipina and he is saudi...thanks a lot

Assalamo alaykom! I am Filipina married to a Saudi. Tell him to keep on trying to get the marriage permission. That's the only way to legalize the marriage of a saudi man to a non-saudi.

Misyar marriage is a legal form of marriage according to Sharia law. The issue is that it is often abused and misused. In the conventional marriage, the husband has the legal and moral responsibility to provide all the wife's needs concerning shelter, sustenance, and clothing. In a misyar marriage, the wife forgoes her right for the husband to provide her housing or any of the other conditions. In both cases, the marriage must be attested by the court, and there are a formal announcement and celebration as per the customs of the country. The importance of the legal attestation is to ensure that the wife has all her rights protected under the law, including inheritance.

The misconception that is propagated in the country is that misyar marriage is a form of secret marriage without any legal obligations. Without the formal recognition of the marriage, the relationship is considered illegitimate according to the Sharia and Saudi law. Love is blind, as they say, but sometimes passions cloud one's ability to see their circumstances in a rational way. Please be careful not to break the law and customs. Even though your loved one met your family, there is a big chance that his own family does not approve of the union, which is a huge cultural hurdle, or that they are not even aware that you are a part of his life. The reality is that marriage restrictions for Saudi men to marry non-Saudi women are stringent if he is young and it is his first marriage, the restrictions are more lenient for those that are older and are taking a second wife. I do know Saudis with foreign wives and most of them do not live in this country, and those that do, were only able to do so after a lengthy bureaucratic process, connections (wasta), and financial considerations.

TeacherAdam :

Misyar marriage is a legal form of marriage according to Sharia law. The issue is that it is often abused and misused. In the conventional marriage, the husband has the legal and moral responsibility to provide all the wife's needs concerning shelter, sustenance, and clothing. In a misyar marriage, the wife forgoes her right for the husband to provide her housing or any of the other conditions. In both cases, the marriage must be attested by the court, and there are a formal announcement and celebration as per the customs of the country. The importance of the legal attestation is to ensure that the wife has all her rights protected under the law, including inheritance.

The misconception that is propagated in the country is that misyar marriage is a form of secret marriage without any legal obligations. Without the formal recognition of the marriage, the relationship is considered illegitimate according to the Sharia and Saudi law. Love is blind, as they say, but sometimes passions cloud one's ability to see their circumstances in a rational way. Please be careful not to break the law and customs. Even though your loved one met your family, there is a big chance that his own family does not approve of the union, which is a huge cultural hurdle, or that they are not even aware that you are a part of his life. The reality is that marriage restrictions for Saudi men to marry non-Saudi women are stringent if he is young and it is his first marriage, the restrictions are more lenient for those that are older and are taking a second wife. I do know Saudis with foreign wives and most of them do not live in this country, and those that do, were only able to do so after a lengthy bureaucratic process, connections (wasta), and financial considerations.

Same thoughts regarding misyar marriage. Another misconception of misyar marriage is that it is the same with mut'ah marriage which is entirely different thing.

I personally know a Saudi woman who is in misyar marriage and it is legal as it should get. She waived her right for the husband to provide her shelter as she has her own house.

Whether you want a misyar or conventional marriage, the mere reason that you are non-saudi means that your saudi man should apply for the permission. That's the only way for you to be legally recognized as his wife in KSA. Without the permission, you are not allowed to live together without the risk of getting caught and in the event that you get pregnant, you must go out of KSA and give birth elsewhere since you will be charged with zina because you are considered single.

Misyar is halal and no issues with it, but it is not recognized by the official government bodies. Try to get married i a different country like your country for example or let him keep trying. From what you said, you are married to him, you just want to have it registered.

Legalize your marriage according to the islamic teaching i.e get married in your country get all the necessary papers stamped in your home country.
What follows after you come here wont be termed as adultery

Chame1970 :

Legalize your marriage according to the islamic teaching i.e get married in your country get all the necessary papers stamped in your home country.
What follows after you come here wont be termed as adultery

Uhm, apparently, no. The guy is a Saudi and any Saudi who wants to marry non-Saudi must secure the marriage permission before their government will legally recognized the marriage. So technically, the marriage done by the Saudi outside is not binding to Saudi government if no marriage permission.

TheLegendLeads :

+1 on what wes_k said above. Misyar marriage has not official or legal standing.

In very simple terms, misyar is a kind of adultery where a man gets verbal confirmation from a lady of physical relation --- with no legalization -- in exchange for monthly wages -- with no other responsibilities (kids etc) lying on his shoulders.

Absolutely wrong accusation this is adultery
Misyar is a non declared , legalized marriage with full responsibility taking on mind the exception of announcing the marriage which is limited to a few numbers of people due to social , economical or governmental reason the end of the line acceptable on Islam but not recognized by the government

Chame1970 :

Legalize your marriage according to the islamic teaching i.e get married in your country get all the necessary papers stamped in your home country.

The best choice

Saudi Visitors and Labor Consulting :
Chame1970 :

Legalize your marriage according to the islamic teaching i.e get married in your country get all the necessary papers stamped in your home country.

The best choice

The best choice is for the Saudi to keep trying to get the marriage permission. They can get married in Philippines or any other country for all the Saudi government's care but without that permission, she will never be a Saudi's wife if they are in Saudi. She will never be under the Saudi's sponsorship as wife and she will never be in his family card. Having said that, in the event of her getting pregnant here in Saudi, she must get out Saudi because technically Saudi government considers her as single. Also if they are caught living together, they will still be considered violationg the law because they will not consider them married as their marriage is not registered in Saudi. Please take note that the guy is a Saudi. They have that rule in Saudi men and women to secure marriage permission before they can marry non-saudi and be able to register that marriage to their government.

I agree with you dear sister. Im on the same situation, we ve been working on it for more than 2 years already, if its ok with you may we know any way to get the approval?can we discuss in private if you dont mind. We will do everything that we can. Thank you very much sister in Islam.

Sister Zawja❤❤❤

Zariyah :

I agree with you dear sister. Im on the same situation, we ve been working on it for more than 2 years already, if its ok with you may we know any way to get the approval?can we discuss in private if you dont mind. We will do everything that we can. Thank you very much sister in Islam.

Assalamo alaykom, sister. You can always send me a private message. I believe that it is not allowed to post email address here so i cant put it up for you. I will be gladly to impart whatever info that might be useful for you.  :)

tough country ...but obey the law , get registered that's all

Good luck

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