Carvoeiro, Vilamoura, Tavira thoughts?

Hi Courtney,
The Algarve is a safe bet for most expats, both because they have already been there at some point during their holidays, and because they have already formed ties of friendships there. The comfort of an established foreign community can be beneficial for some, especially in the first few months of settling in.

Answering to your question, it depends on what you are looking for.

Carvoeiro/ Lagoa, but mainly Vilamoura, are cosmopolitan beaches with leisure activities during the day and entertainment that goes on into the night. It has exclusive resorts with golf courses.

Tavira is an architectural gem and culturally authentic of the Eastern Algarve, close to numerous golf courses, as well as beautiful beaches – including The Ilha de Tavira, a sand island reached by ferry. Removed from the tourist bustle of the western Algarve, Tavira is affordable, peaceful, easy-going place to live.

PS. Have you ever heard about Alentejo?

https://youtu.be/9IyNsusb7Zo

As you mentioned these issues about your children, I think Alentejo would be a better option, even if it is closer to Algarve, to be able to socialize with your friends 

Thanks for your thoughts!   I don't know much about Alentejo, but will look there as well!