Hi,
Before I get started, I know that opinions are like azzholes, everyone has one. That being said, there are a few things I have learned over the past two years since I decided to visit the Philippines. Keep in mind I was looking for a girlfriend, possibly marriage, not a horizontal encounter.
1. If you are looking for a good woman who will be a good wife, make sure you stay away from the bars and sleazy areas of town. You will not meet good virtuous women there, and you might get an STD. And, Ho's don't make good housewives.
2. Unless you have a passport and an upcoming flight, stay off the dating sites. 90% of profiles on filipinocupid.com and [link moderated] are scammers. Some are ladyboys. I did not do the video chatting, just texting and swapped some photos. Keeps things friendly. Seeing a cutie on video can tug on heartstrings, so I avoided it.
3. If you are on a dating site, and after a few chats, they start lamenting about needing load, money for their dog's surgery, grandma's funeral, etc., BLOCK THEM. There are millions who are honest and will never ask for money. And, NEVER SEND MONEY TO SOMEONE YOU HAVE NEVER MET PERSONALLY.
4. For myself, I had an age range in mind and preferred an RN or a teacher. This helped me narrow down the field somewhat. Their level of English fluency is generally better, since many college classes are taught in English.
5. Having had stepkids from a previous marriage, there is very little upside, mostly things which are really annoying. So, no single moms for me. No baby daddys to worry with, either.
6. Things are traditional here, where the man is the head of the house. The expat is the prize here in the Philippines, so you need to be a leader and the Filipina will respect and admire you. Good reading is "The Rational Male", by Rollo Tomassi. Rich Cooper's YT channel is also very good.
7. Many Churches here have services in English, with familiar songs and hymns. It is a good place to look for a nice girl.
8. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. If you do some chatting, make sure you have a backup plan in case you get ghosted or don't click with the lady you are mainly interested in. And, if things don't feel right within a few weeks, MOVE ON. There are other fishes in the sea.
9. Another thing I looked for was that she was raised by both parents and they are still together. If the father is absent, the woman may have Daddy Issues......
10. If the woman is constantly glued to her smartphone, NEXT!!!!! It is really bad in the Philippines, now that all teens have these things, but it is extremely addictive for all ages, as well.
11. Take your time. It takes a year or more to get to know a person. I have made the mistake in the past of going too fast, and regretted it. Usually, I have found the surprises to not be good ones.
Feel free to comment or add to my list, which are some random thoughts. Hope someone finds this helpful.