Expat Just Bought House, Young Wife Possible Problem

Hi,

An 64 year old expat from Texas has bought a house down the street from me with his 28 year old wife.  Since the GCQ has started, she has not allowed him to travel to the house, where things are being readied to move in.  She also is not discussing with him the progress or what improvements are being done, leaving him in the dark.

She is handling the money, according to him.  Not clear if she is just a *** or if she is scamming him.

Any suggestions?

Yeah, get a big bowl of popcorn and enjoy the show.

Lat61 :

Yeah, get a big bowl of popcorn and enjoy the show.

That is very probably the best advice anyone will ever give. If you interfere in any way, it's be your fault in somebody's eyes - Buy the popcorn, maybe a can or several, and enjoy the show from a (social) distance.

If  he's fm Texas he should know about 'oil' beneath the land parcel...I'm sure he knows exactly what to do!
I'll enjoy my Tanduay & popcorn!

Just Saying

Not sure what is meant by "she is handling the money".

pej1111 :

Not sure what is meant by "she is handling the money".

Probably a typical Fillipina deal where he gives her the money, she determines how it is spent.

She wants to do a surprise to him  :D

I have a box of Blast o Butter and a hankern' for a good show!!

I think the final surprise will be on her when he pulls his massive portable oil rig onto the land and starts oil exploration!
Yippeee happy ending if only oil prices were higher!

:|

Maybe the old boy just don't lay pipe like he used to.

Be careful there. A brother of my friend who is a foreigner to the Philippines was married to Filipino woman. Got into a pissing contest about their property in the Visayas. Got separated. He got another Filipino woman. The man filed a lawsuit on the property. I do not know the gruesome details but I am guessing it is no longer a problem.
TV-MA

Many non- native speakers of English will be scratching their head at the metaphorical language here; hopefully the one they get trimmed at barbers rather than the one that so often causes older expat chaps to buy expensive houses they end up losing.
Men are notably stupid when it come to rumpy pumpy (we've all done daft and dangerous stuff, and have fond memories of night time encounters on market stalls in Rotherham), and that adage about age and wisdom doesn't tend to come into play when easy horizontal jogging with a steaming hot dusky maiden is on offer.
If the OP would be kind enough to set up a security camera with DVR and promise to post the video of the expat gentlemen's final visit, that would allow members to run a book on his last words/feelings/actions at that time, or maybe forever if he loses his life savings to the game (or someone on it).
I'll open with ten bucks on FO,B/loads of red faced anger/gets arrested.

Its sad to hear whats going on but do hope there is an amicable solution if any!
How about a joke now?...Here goes!
The patient's family gathered to hear what the specialists had to say.
"Things don't look good. The only chance is a brain transplant. This is an experimental procedure. It might work, but the bad news is that brains are very expensive, and you will have to pay the costs yourselves."
"Well, how much does a brain cost?" asked the relatives.
"For a male brain, $500,000. For a female brain, $200,000."
Some of the younger male relatives tried to look shocked, but the men nodded in understanding, and a few actually smirked. Then the patient's daughter asked, "Why the difference in price between male brains and female brains?"
"A standard pricing practice," said the head of the team. "Women's brains have to be marked down because they are used."

Cheers!
:D

Lat61 :

Yeah, get a big bowl of popcorn and enjoy the show.

I've seen this movie before. . . . same ending. . . . old fool going through male menopause .

Yeah, doesn’t sound like this is going to end well for the ole chap in TX.

He needs a spy, a fly on the wall. A trail camera hanging in a tree.

Munchie :

He needs a spy, a fly on the wall. A trail camera hanging in a tree.

Yup for the 1st stage....the next stage will be to get this...now fire sales going on [at]70% discount for an 8yr old used bulldozer!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zPKNo1X … ture=share

Haha, Hello ***,

which half do you want?

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Munchie :

He needs a spy, a fly on the wall. A trail camera hanging in a tree.

I bet you the trail camera will be gone/stolen by dusk.
You need another trail camera to watch the first trail camera.
:D

Jackson4 :
Munchie :

He needs a spy, a fly on the wall. A trail camera hanging in a tree.

I bet you the trail camera will be gone/stolen by dusk.
You need another trail camera to watch the first trail camera.
:D

Yup...eye on an eye in the pursuit of an eye for an eye!

:D

moonunit0103 :

Hi,

An 64 year old expat from Texas has bought a house down the street from me with his 28 year old wife.  Since the GCQ has started, she has not allowed him to travel to the house, where things are being readied to move in.  She also is not discussing with him the progress or what improvements are being done, leaving him in the dark.

She is handling the money, according to him.  Not clear if she is just a bitch or if she is scamming him.

Any suggestions?

Is he in the Philippines or still in Texas?

A lot of joking on here because in all likelihood it's a repeat of a familiar situation to many expats. The girl gets control of the money and soon the new house, whereupon family and possible real husband move in. Of course It may not be the case but then why the lack of communication? If she were sincere, they would be in constant communication about the work progress. He needs to stop sending funds immediately.

It sounds like you are in communication with him? If so it certainly wouldn't hurt to educate him a little.

pnwcyclist :

It sounds like you are in communication with him? If so it certainly wouldn't hurt to educate him a little.

You are a braver man than I.
It strikes me one doesn't jump into a river full of raw sewage just because a friend is enjoying a swim - There's no way you're going to get out smelling of roses.

pnwcyclist :

A lot of joking on here because in all likelihood it's a repeat of a familiar situation to many expats. The girl gets control of the money and soon the new house, whereupon family and possible real husband move in. Of course It may not be the case but then why the lack of communication? If she were sincere, they would be in constant communication about the work progress. He needs to stop sending funds immediately.

It sounds like you are in communication with him? If so it certainly wouldn't hurt to educate him a little.

I would demand to see the work´s progress otherwise I would stop the funding, of course!

robal

Reconnaissance before combat. For sure.

robal

moonunit0103 :

Hi,

An 64 year old expat from Texas has bought a house down the street from me with his 28 year old wife.  Since the GCQ has started, she has not allowed him to travel to the house, where things are being readied to move in.  She also is not discussing with him the progress or what improvements are being done, leaving him in the dark.

She is handling the money, according to him.  Not clear if she is just a bitch or if she is scamming him.

Any suggestions?

Dear Moonunit0103,

It seems you know quite a bit about this expat.

(1) He is a 64 year old expat
(2) He is from Texas
(3) His wife is 28 years old
(4) She doesn't  allow him to travel to the house (How is that possible?)
(5) She doesn't communicate with him
(6) She is handling the money
(7) He is in a quandary and confused.

(A) Now it seems you know about this fellow in Texas, maybe know too much, how do you know?
(B) Are you in communication with him?
(C) Are you repeating gossip?
(D) Are you 64 from Texas?

W9XR :
moonunit0103 :

Hi,

An 64 year old expat from Texas has bought a house down the street from me with his 28 year old wife.  Since the GCQ has started, she has not allowed him to travel to the house, where things are being readied to move in.  She also is not discussing with him the progress or what improvements are being done, leaving him in the dark.

She is handling the money, according to him.  Not clear if she is just a bitch or if she is scamming him.

Any suggestions?

Dear Moonunit0103,

It seems you know quite a bit about this expat.

(1) He is a 64 year old expat
(2) He is from Texas
(3) His wife is 28 years old
(4) She doesn't  allow him to travel to the house (How is that possible?)
(5) She doesn't communicate with him
(6) She is handling the money
(7) He is in a quandary and confused.

(A) Now it seems you know about this fellow in Texas, maybe know too much, how do you know?
(B) Are you in communication with him?
(C) Are you repeating gossip?
(D) Are you 64 from Texas?

My thoughts too W9XR but wasn't game to comment and as Robal asks is he here or in the states. If he is in the states he cannot come here unless repatriating with his wife under ECQ and then a mission in itself so has to trust her, his good ladies judgement, If he is here and perhaps living up the road or another province/city as a 64Y/O is house bound like myself for the last 8 weeks and even now under GCQ I am not allowed out and I just turned 60 " the magic number here".

If we want to gossip and hypothesise more perhaps the OP can elaborate with more sordid details.

Cheers, Steve.

Let them alone, they are old enough and … they are married ! The young wife is correct, her senior husband is at risk if he leaves his actual place. He should be more patient :-) Maybe he can ask a video or pictures of the house ?

W9XR :

(D) Are you 64 from Texas?

Moonunit not 64, not from Texas, wife not 28 years old.

robal :
moonunit0103 :

Hi,

An 64 year old expat from Texas has bought a house down the street from me with his 28 year old wife.  Since the GCQ has started, she has not allowed him to travel to the house, where things are being readied to move in.  She also is not discussing with him the progress or what improvements are being done, leaving him in the dark.

She is handling the money, according to him.  Not clear if she is just a bitch or if she is scamming him.

Any suggestions?

Is he in the Philippines or still in Texas?

He is here in Ormoc.  I thought Texans rode high in the saddle, but this guy must be a mouse.  He has not left the apartment, even though the malls and stores are open with masks required.

My wife knows I wouldn't put up with the crap this guy's allows.   Guess his wife wears the pants.

mugtech :
W9XR :

(D) Are you 64 from Texas?

Moonunit not 64, not from Texas, wife not 28 years old.

No, I am from Virginia.  The reason I know so much is that he told me this stuff.  He seems like a nice guy, and he is pretty alone and isolated and needed a friend.  He has been here since December, so he is with only her family, and only a few are fluent in English.

I offered to put him up in our spare bedroom, since the hotels are closed if it got too bad for him.  It is up to him to decide what to do.

Many expats come here after failed relationships elsewhere.  The feminine imperative has made guys wimpy.  THE RATIONAL MALE is a must read for guys coming to visit, so men will know how to be heads of the house.

moonunit0103 :

THE RATIONAL MALE is a must read for guys coming to visit, so men will know how to be heads of the house.

Thanks for that post - I love a good laugh.

However. it brings an old joke to mind ...
How many men does it take to make a cup of coffee?
None, it's women's work.

I am most definitely the boss in my house, and I have my wife's permission to say so.

Fred :
moonunit0103 :

THE RATIONAL MALE is a must read for guys coming to visit, so men will know how to be heads of the house.

Thanks for that post - I love a good laugh.

However. it brings an old joke to mind ...
How many men does it take to make a cup of coffee?
None, it's women's work.

I am most definitely the boss in my house, and I have my wife's permission to say so.

Men in the US are trained to be Simps, like " Everyone Loves Raymond", but Filipinas want a John Wayne man.

moonunit0103 :

Hi

She is handling the money, according to him.

Any suggestions?

Now that I have more details from your other posts, this guy is between a rock & a hard place. At this point I don't think any suggestions will help this fellow as he probably won't listen. He is 36 years older than this woman, in a few years his mind and body will go, but she will still be cashing his SS checks forever.

No doubt he feels used and is hanging on to her with a thread of wishful thinking, hoping for the best. When the time comes and anger sets in he can turn off the money, if he has any left.

He was following his dream and  it turned into a nightmare.

I love how this thread turned from concern to entertainment/ voyeurism back to late winter/spring marriage life stages. It reminds me of the old joke about the average looking 65 year old successful businessman marrying the hot much younger trophy wife. His buddies tease him and ask him if he really told her how old he was. Hell no he replies I told her I was eighty.

Everyone, including myself, is assuming the guy is going to lose his shirt in a swap for short term  red hot sex with a much younger woman he could only dream of back in the states.
Perhaps this isn't the case and it's really true love for both of them, just interrupted by the virus.
Nerrrr. :D
I recall my first trip to Malaysia where I met a stunning Thai girl with a body that put most Hollywood actresses to shame, the face of an angel, and was excrptionally energetic in a horizontal sort of way. If you can imaging a starving pig being given its first meal for a week, she was about the same in the hotel room.
She was 20, I, 45, and love blossomed over 3 nights, so I promised her marriage, a visa, and a house, in England - My life would have been complete.
She was after my cash and was willing to do anything and everything to trap me, so I took anything and everything ..then got a flight home.

Fred :

Everyone, including myself, is assuming the guy is going to lose his shirt in a swap for short term  red hot sex with a much younger woman he could only dream of back in the states.

If he remained in the states he could have hired a dozen $100 hookers with his stimulus (no Viagra needed) check.

Btw : The "Shantui" does come in 2 colors! (red & yellow)!

:D

To be more specific, we both live in Ormoc City with our Filipina wives.  It also seems that I am the only local expat he knows, so he has reached out to me to vent, but us men are know for trying to fix things.....

Looks like maybe things will be soon lifting, so maybe things will get better for him.

The issue may just be an imperfect communication. Given their very different cultures and generation, there may just be a gap in how one expresses their message. They need each other, I am guessing the 'girl' needed the long term financial security, the old man needed a companion and fire in his.....ummmm.... life.
What's stopping him from visiting the new house if it in the same barangay? What's going to happen if the 'girl' gets mad? Make up activity (s.3.x) is fun too.
Since he is putting out all the money, I think the old man need to assert some of his rights with caution.
He should get a lease contract on the land the house is on since he cannot own the land.
He should not be the only one bending over.

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