I for one do not allow passive aggressive control freaks to cause me to alter my behavior through their passive aggressive comments triggered by their hyper-emotional reaction to what normal people see as nothing. Some people hold grudges for years over every perceived slight no matter how minuscule and whether it actually exists or not. They allow this poison to seep out of them constantly. It only hurts the one who is doing it. And it just goes on and on with no end.
That is what therapy is for.