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Is revenge ever justified when wronged? Not meaning a small slight.  I am talking serial lying about everything and frauduletenly scamming an sustantial sum of money.

Perhaps you could be more specific.

If it's a honey trap you are talking about you probably only have yourself to blame.

Robber :

Is revenge ever justified when wronged?

NO if it is about a girl. Why? revenge never ends and you never come out of it. That makes rest of your life to a lost life. On the other hand if you let it go and use your time wisely to become more successful than the position you were at the time of wrongdoing, that will give you more pleasure than the revenge itself because that gives you both the revenge and a much better life and a position than what you had before the wrongdoing. When you get there you in your heart thank the wrongdoer, that's the sweet revenge.

But if you have been scammed by an organised team you have to report it. If you don't have enough evidence to prove it, you at least do what you have in your power in legally, that may prevent some other future crimes. Shit happens sometimes but don't let that make all your life to a living hell, if you do so you lose more than one time, What's better?

Is revenge ever justified? Of course it is, but not always. I agree with Fred: let's hear what the revenge is for, and what revenge you're planning.

Revenge bears a sense of recklessness.

Justice is better.

Going through proper available channels allows you to avoid getting on the wrong side of the law. This does not prevent the other person from seeking revenge for you doing so. So there is still the potential for the back and forth thing to go on.

Sometimes it is best to walk away.

Success is the best revenge, as they say. Cut the dead weight and do not allow loser people to drag you down to their level.

The Russians say, when you go for revenge, dig two graves. Actually I am not 100% sure what that means.

The Christians say, "turn the other cheek". I'm not absolutely sure what that means, either! It doesn't solve much if you get smacked on both cheeks!

hdgh29 :

The Russians say, when you go for revenge, dig two graves. Actually I am not 100% sure what that means.

It means you hurt yourself as much as you do your target. I prefer the line Shakespeare probably stole from Pierre Choderlos de Laclos - "Revenge is a dish best served cold".
If you're unsure, it means let them know something is on the cards, but do nothing until their own worry and paranoia tortures them - Then strike.

Oddly, as the adjective used in Les Liaisons dangereuses is the feminine singular form of the verb, that would suggest a female intent in the text.
Must read it and find out.

Gordon Barlow :

The Christians say, "turn the other cheek". I'm not absolutely sure what that means, either! It doesn't solve much if you get smacked on both cheeks!

I believe that bit is about showing you're better than your attacker, but I would suggest a hard kick in his trousers would be more appropriate.

Sometimes it's just to just let it go..... Hard I know, but you are the better person after.

Hang on a moment ....

Right, now you've hung on, I believe there's another possible explanation for the thread. The first assumption was a lady had ripped off the OP but, given his name is "Robber", it could be the OP trying to assess his chances of a victim coming after him.

Fred :

Hang on a moment ....

Right, now you've hung on, I believe there's another possible explanation for the thread. The first assumption was a lady had ripped off the OP but, given his name is "Robber", it could be the OP trying to assess his chances of a victim coming after him.

Going by the OP Fred

Robber :

Is revenge ever justified when wronged? Not meaning a small slight.  I am talking serial lying about everything and frauduletenly scamming an sustantial sum of money.

Yes, sometimes it's just best left alone and walk. Karma will always get the better of them.

Fred :

I prefer the line Shakespeare probably stole from Pierre Choderlos de Laclos - "Revenge is a dish best served cold".
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That would  have been Shakespeare's greatest feat, since he had been dead for over a century the year that Choderlos de Laclos was born.

abthree :
Fred :

I prefer the line Shakespeare probably stole from Pierre Choderlos de Laclos - "Revenge is a dish best served cold".
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That would  have been Shakespeare's greatest feat, since he had been dead for over a century the year that Choderlos de Laclos was born.

Ever seen Dr. Who?

Walk away, forgive and forget.

stumpy :

Walk away, forgive and forget.

And, if walk away and forget is all you can manage, two out of three ain't bad!

I think its time the OP, mr Robber, came clean and told us what this is all about. Dont worry no one will judge you. Laugh maybe but not judge.

hdgh29 :

The Russians say, when you go for revenge, dig two graves.

I like that.
Punishment for criminal acts is rightly reserved for public authorities - not private revenge.
The best you can do is assisting the police in their investigations. And then get over it and find more positive things to deal with, otherwise you will add mental misery to the loss already taken.

Robber :

Is revenge ever justified when wronged? Not meaning a small slight.  I am talking serial lying about everything and frauduletenly scamming an sustantial sum of money.

What goes around comes around. The free hand of retribution usually is done for you for free as he or she glides along the slippery path of life. What I usually do if the thought bothers me is to make a "file for future action" to be executed at the right time. This alleviate the load psychologically as you just put it aside at the backburner and insured yourself that you´re taking the appropriate measure for your well-being. I always think that everything has its own place and time and if the opportunity ever comes I´d execute it. If it never came, then it´s probably not really that important for you since you took so long to do your countermeasures. I liken that to a gun safety.

If that is from a lover just walk away and find a better one. Trust and goodness to each other is of paramount importance and absence of them is a failure of the relationship. Lot´s of opportunities around...

sometimes, its better for ourselves just to let it go
seeking for revenge wont bring anything for the person but bad feelings, hates and etc..so, if u let it go, u have a chance to find the good for yourself

Hello everyone,

Seems that we got some off-topic posts gradually drifting towards politics (which goes against the code of conduct). Anyway, let us get this thread back on track. Was robber robbed ?!

Normally we wouldn't leave these kinds of topics on the forum, where the OP is a one-time poster, so please let us keep it clean.

Thank you,
Enjoy the rest of your weekend,
Bhavna

whom the gods would destroy they first make angry

Actually  the original translation of the quote  from Euripides is ".....they first make mad", meaning insane not angry,  although it would be a bit annoying to be in that situation.

hdgh29 :

Actually  the original translation of the quote  from Euripides is ".....they first make mad", meaning insane not angry,  although it would be a bit annoying to be in that situation.

and it is actually falsely attributed to Euripides

and look around

my version is more correct

even this thread is evidence of it

Why would anybody forgive someone who has wronged him, before the offender feels remorse? If there is no remorse there is no disincentive to offend again.

If a burglar breaks into your house and steals your TV set, he could express his remorse by giving your TV back at the very least, or replace it. If he beats you up and cripples you, he must help you to overcome your injuries by becoming your servant. If he does neither of those things, he isn't remorseful. He can say he's sorry sixteen times a day, but it doesn't mean he is sorry.

Serving time in prison might pay his debt to society, but it doesn't pay his debt to his victim.

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