WillyBaldy wrote:There's a dating situation happening quite a few times to me and although I've always managed, it is a really annoying issue and I was wondering if anyone had suggestions.
So, you meet a Vietnamese woman for breakfast at a coffee shop. Things seem to go well, we're having a good time, then she makes a few phone calls, and few best friends show up. They get the menu, and order something. In my experience, they expect me to foot the bill. Again, I need to precise because some people jump to conclusions, it's not really about money itself but principle. This is not an okay behaviour by Vietnamese culture standard. I guess because I'm Westerner, 'normal' rules don't apply.
Anyway, this morning when I saw her two friends show up, I paid the bill right away and said I needed to leave soon. After paying the bill, we had a bit of fun but strangely they did not order anything... Does this happen to any guys here? How do you handle it? I've footed the bills many times before in such situation, it's not such a big deal, but I find it frustrating and I feel a very good woman would not do such a thing, would not see the Westerner as some walking ATM. Now, don't confuse this post with me complaining about Vietnamese people seeing me as an ATM. I've been there before, I know the game, no problem. But for this specific dating pattern, I wonder how you guys deal with it. I think it happens a lot more in the countryside or outside big cities.
PS: I remember having a few dates in the past clearly asking me if it was okay for her to bring a friend or two. This is very acceptable to me and very decent to ask, and I always said yes, if the friends were women
This story is very familiar. You should run away. Otherwise you will lose money and have many unhappy things. Because Vietnamese culture is not like that. Honest advice!