Intercultural relationships in Dominican Republic

@planner yes I have the bank transfer to the dealer shown in my bank account.

@planner I will. He was definitely involved with the deception

@planner I have no idea how to be careful when  I'm that country.  I'm told to not drive at night which I do....so there's that 🤣🤣🤣. I was staying in Bella Vista at an Airbnb and the owner told me to not go outside to smoke but instead smoke in the balcony.  I was drinking in a pool hall and one Dominican guy I know texted me and asked where are you and what are you doing. I told him I'm very drunk in a pool hall and he thought I was going to be slaughtered.  I do throw caution to the wind at times.

Thank you! Yes...I will be 50 next year, retired, and have been through many life lessons..Believe me my eyes are wide open! lol

- @leticiaspain

@planner may I call you mom?  🥰

@planner and drama is part of their game. It's so immature and honestly disgusting.

@planner what I've experienced, and to varying degrees, is an extreme form of selfishness that borders and outright encroaches into personalities that would be classified as narcissistic.  But as you said, many are in survival mode which could unleash the narcissist in any of us. However in this specific case, these people are not in survival mode. They have extreme desires for high end material products such as clothing, jewelry and other similar things. I've characterized the place as the wild-wild west with iPhones, fake Gucci and Range Rovers. It's a bizarre mentality having witnessed people living in utter shacks wearing brand name clothing appearing expensive while holding a new high end iPhone.  It's insanity in my mind.

@planner their social status is of primary importance.  And they develop that with their Instagram, etc but also with their clothing which is all too often revealing. The women are highly sexualized and objectified and they themselves contribute to this as it's seemingly part of their social status.  The young we women operate their deception in groups and are in competition to gain the most from their victims.  This kind of thing is rampant in the country where I've estimated that 20% if the women there are actively engaged in what can be summarized as prostitution.  And chapiadora or advertising escort service, it's prostitution.

@planner ok mom 🌸.  Keep me in line ☺️.

@planner history to include their own,  national economics,  geo-economics, investing, money management, politics, science, business to include business plans and analysis. I've tried everything even at the most basic levels.  I get nothing.

@WillieWeb haha...this was over a period of a year fella. Not over a drink.

@planner their minds work differently. I've not been able to figure it out. If it's not gratifying, it's of no interest. And what's gratifying are material things only. This is the best I can figure at this point and yes this was a long term problem and nothing to do with the beginnings of a relationship.

@planner only my chapiadora was not in survival mode. Lives in a home complete with air conditioning and a garage.  Nothing luxury but livable.

@planner lives in her aunt's house with her grandmother.  It's quite a complex story. The entire scheme was to acquire money, a car and apartment. Her aunt acquired an apartment in similar fashion although that story is a bit different. But I'm certain the scheme was to acquire those things mentioned. I the endgame there were two more attempts to get apartment in her name.   I visited because the relationship was in serious trouble. I had all the proof I needed to end it without feeling I was the guilty one.  She invites me down and in their house the aunt begins to politely press me on the apartment mixed into that is how elated she is with the relationship.  I am now using the apartment as bait more or less.  Seeing how far they would go I said I'd put her as beneficiary in  life insurance policy to guarantee her security as well as a large investment account.  That wasn't good enough and the relationship continued to go bad with the chapiadora ignoring me and all that goes along with that. I had huge impression she was hiding a new relationship and she just couldn't juggle both, only asking for money which was denied.  Then one last time she goes for apartment saying "my father said apartment can be in my name"....hahahaha.  oh did he I said and said never going to happen ever. The lid was off. They totally exposed. Aunt then saw that I was onto them and totally destroyed the girl in a phone conversation. All but calling her a prostitute.  It was indeed wild.

@planner that's a good question and the only good answer I have is I needed to prove people can be this evil and deranged.  And I'm sure I didn't find the bottom which is why I'm still alive. I'm nearly positive the bottom is that deep. It's all a bit fascinating when viewed objectively.

@planner c'mon mom 🥲.  Had nothing to do with ego. In fact just the opposite. If it was ego driven I wouldn't have stood what was almost obvious.  I couldn't be believe people would stoop so low in what was presented as a loving relationship.  How do people do this?  What's in their DNA that's so bizarrely screwed up?  And it's in their DNA.

@Siobhan222 exercise extreme caution and don't use dating sites. Is best to have trusted people present good options to you. If you're female and they ask you for money, run away. If you're male and they ask you for money in short order, run away.  If they say they love you in short order, run away and do it quickly. If they talk about sex in short order, run away.