eodmatt wrote:She's an MBA - business development.
Not nearly as threatening. My mother in law is/was a northerner who married a VC who went North. She was an accountant with the government but still wears her blue checked VC scarf to the market. My would be father in law, now deceased, moved from the VC in the Mekong to the regular army in the north but had an office job because he was the sole male in his family line; a remarkably humane policy but certainly in line with East Asian customs. After the war, he was a game warden and actually had a gun that he brought home nightly. I understand the US had a policy called "sole surviving son" but I think your brothers had to have been killed in the same war.