This really has been bothering me. I have to get this off my chest...
So I went to the farmer's market yesterday. I gave the old lady 50 cents and took 5 oranges. She took the oranges out of my bag, put them back in the bin. And then put her hand on my pocket area (WTF? Damn got tooled bad) shook it so people around could hear change and said I need to pay. I said I just paid. She put her hand on my pocket shook again and said that the money is still in my pocket. She half-ass opened her pockets and showed no money (yeah right). It was all done in a shyster kind of way, and looking back and can't believe I let it happen. I still feel like a total tool. I stood around for 3 minutes but it just made things worse. I'm a foreigner with limited Spanish speaking so the crowd would never side with me.
I'm starting to grow a hatred for Ecuador and considering leaving. It's not just this one incident here but it's really anytime I go to a tienda, it's always something...whether its gringo pricing, giving me 20 pennies as change, etc. etc. I thought going to Tia would resolve things since prices are fixed until the lady gave me my $4 dollar change in the form of about 50 coins.
I'm just really pissed and upset about what happened yesterday especially. Not about the money but about the respect. It's been psychologically pounding on me for the last day. When you're gringo priced, at least you have a choice to agree to the sale. But this lady flat out robbed me and the worst part about it was I couldn't do s*** about it. Back home ( in US) I would just take the fruits and say "F*** Y**" but my fear of repercussion here for not knowing how things work and being out-numbered got the worst of me.
I probably could have prevented this by presenting a "harder" demeanor before the transaction. But when I see the old ladies, I tend to soften up and be "too nice." I'm pretty sure she picked up on this and exploited it. Never again.
I have decided to change the following:
1) Never feel the need to acknowledge the vendors at mercados or farmer's markets who keep pitching their product as I walk by out of niceness. It shows weakness.
2) Once sale is initiated (e.g. asking the price) then don't wait for their approval to take the product. Do what feels natural. That usually means taking the product and putting in my bag and handing the money. If the vendor turns away, don't wait for them to be looking in order to take the product. That just shows weakness and communicates that I feel that I am not enough to be trusted.
3) Use my head, be myself, and do what feels natural even if gringo articles online say to smile excessively, say como esta to everyone, etc. etc. (albeit slight exaggeration)
When I'm home ( in EC) and stick to one small local mercado that's mostly legit I'm happy and everything feels great. The second I decide to explore other tiendas or in yesterday's case farmer's market is usually when foreign mistreatment happens and I get pissed off about living here. It's one of those love-relate relationships.