Hello everyone,
I met a Vietnamese girl through an online dating website. I live in the US and I am 32 years old. She is 20. We started writing to each other towards the end of January of this year. After three weeks we lost touch with each other, because she lost her phone. We started chatting again after a few months. Two months later she told me I love you. I was happy when she said that.
A week later she told me her feelings have changed. She jokingly asked me if I thought it was good or bad. I said it was probably good and she replied no, it's bad. Then she said just kidding. She told me she loves me more. She trusts me more and she doesn't feel afraid.
We have plans to meet this year in December. A week later she asked me if she had ever told me about her past and that she had sex before. I told her no. She asked me how I felt and would I still like to meet her. I said I would still like to meet. She wanted to be honest with me about her past. She doesn't want to have another relationship that breaks up, because it hurts and it takes time to get over it.
One day when we were chatting she said she had a problem. She had been talking with another guy before we started chatting again. He told her he loved her, but she told him she needed time to be able to think clearly and she would send him a message later. She had forgotten about sending him a message. He contacted her and she told him she has someone she loves and needs and apologized for not telling him sooner. She told me she did not have any feelings for him.
Our conversations now start out with her giving me one word answers like yes, no, ok. When I answer back like she does she then gets upset and says our conversation feels weird. Later on our conversations go back to normal. Sometimes it feels like I am talking with a completely different person. She felt happy about our relationship and told her sister about us over the weekend.
Her sister then told her about an email from a guy she used to chat with before, but had stopped before we originally started contacting each other. She mentioned her sister was in her old email account and read an email from a guy offering to bring her family over to the US and letting her study over here if she would marry him.
She told me she hasn't talked with him for a long time. She hasnt used that email in a long time. He also told her he would be in Vietnam this week and they should meet if she is interested in his offer.
I asked her how she felt about it and she doesn't understand how someone could make an offer when they dont really know each other. She said she wasnt even considering it. Later during our conversation she tells me he sent another email. It sounds to me like she had responded and was waiting for his reply, but I am not sure. She said he offered to pay for her ticket, passport, and visa and to let him know. I do find it odd her sister knew how to get into her old email account.
The next day we talked again she was answering with her one word answers. Later on she asked me how I would feel if we lost contact again for a few months like before. I asked her why and she said never mind you don't have to answer. She said she just wanted to know how I would feel. I told her we would find some way to keep in contact with each other if we really wanted to. She agreed with me. She told me not to think too much about it. Nothing has changed between us.
I am just a little confused by her behavior. On one hand I feel like I am being tested and on the other hand I feel like it is a head game. Shes very nice and she has never asked me for anything. Well, she did ask me to bring her chocolates when I come in December. So I feel a little confused. Sorry for writing such a long-winded post. I would appreciate any advice or opinions. Thank you.