Hello, I am a Swiss-German guy who grew up in Italy.
May I ask where or whom I can refer to for serious advice on two important issues:
- integrating in London's society
and, at the same time,
- being in love with someone living 1000 miles away
I live in London since 1 year and one issue that is causing some conflict is how most British people, at least those I have met in my age group (early 20s), treat and talk about relationships.
I don't want to spark any debate about morals - but just need to say that this huge difference in ideas about topics such as love, marriage, etc. are quite nagging when going out and socializing, making new friends, etc. which I certainly enjoy a lot.
Often, I would be encouraged to hit on women or to comment on how hot or "fit" other women are, and then listen to one-night-stand adventures...
Being in love with someone who lives 1000s of miles away, such conversations are somewhat difficult to handle.
I am certain this attitude is not confined to London/British society, but here it seems to be the norm - I just think I would really be more comfortable being around people who happily support and foster those who love someone who lives far away (i.e. "long distance" relationships), whom I can tell how much I miss her and discuss on what I can buy her on my next visit...
But I feel quite isolated, in fact no other person I know here has a significant other who lives abroad. Many have given up or broken up in order to start a "new life" here...
I have hundreds of questions that I cannot summarize on a forum, but the general idea is that I fear being unable to fully integrate here in a way that would also be healthy for my "long distance" love.
Any ideas appreciated.
Thank you!