How to get a young lady in VN?

Not all women want to meet a foreigner.

Giving the game away..?

"I try to approach at the shopping malls, shops;"

"Trying to" signals intention.   Your motive is (too?) obvious.

By being present; via assistance, working alongside or in a mutual participation removes the 'threat' of the 'maleness' messy stuff.

Works for me...            (applies to all cultures BTW)       

Try a dating site or join a social club like English teaching.

Maybe you should mix it up a bit with your appearance. If you're below average looking then that may explain why you're not getting any hit. Women here are pretty superficial especially the younger crowd thanks to those dotard sugar daddies.

Mate. There is no short cut to "get" a lady,  just be genuine and polite.  Of course it is another story if you just wanna have fun.

I have never had trouble meeting women here. Just be friendly, don't be sleazy and get some understanding of how things work here.

One of two things is likely true:

Since it sounds like you are trolling public places for "young ladies", you probably come across as a troll to them.

Or, you are an internet troll...

Answered before, although this is admittedly the beta male route.
Pretty much Bazza's idea.

1. Start new hobby that is social. Photography in your neighborhood. Early morning walks to the same park every day. Help teens or young adults practice English, etc.  (meet in park or coffee shops...)

2. Become a regular at 4 coffee shops and 4 restaurants/quan ans. For example, every other day go to the same place for breakfast at the same time. Alternate 2 places for breakfast. Same for 2 dinner places and 4 morning/afternoon/evening coffee shops. Gives you lots of opportunities to make acquaintances/friends with staff and customers. Smile and talk. If one place is unsociable, replace with another.

3. Improve your Vietnamese. You don't need to be fluent. Take a class or get tutors. Must be face to face to learn, forget internet classes. Do the homework.

One more: Be friendly to everyone, especially older Vietnamese. If you get in good with them, they will introduce you to daughters, neighbors, etc. Matchmaking is actually world's oldest profession. The one's who don't get matched consider the 2nd oldest profession.

Well, I think first of all try to be friendly, not to make you look suspicious. Then move to the second step called 'break the ice', say 'hi' and try to figure out something interesting to talk to your target and ask her for coffee, lunch ect or if you 2 could meet again. If she agrees, let it be 

"If she agrees, let it be  "

    ..and if she doesn't, find an Aquarium...

    Plenty of Fish there !     

I would like to add a few more things to Bazza's and Gobot's lists. 

- Shop at your neighbourhood wet market in the morning.  You certainly won't be able to know you way around the goods or the prices, so buy one small thing every day.  I would suggest xôi (sticky rice), a popular Vietnamese breakfast.  The price would be 10K a serving, a very, very small daily expense to turn yourself into part of the neighbourhood.  Many women stop by the market on their way to work, so making yourself a familiar face in their daily activities is a good thing.

- Venture out of expats' cocoons.  I assume you live where expats live so that's more than enough comforts already, you don't need to hang out where expats hang out.  The point of living in another country is to learn and adapt to the local culture, not to stay firmly in a comfort zone with other foreigners.  (Someone somewhere on this site stated that he's a "seasoned expat", then posted a question on where to live and hang out so he'll always have English speaking people around with whom he can share common interests. Very strange.)  Don't frequent expats' cafes or restaurants.  Ignore TripAdvisor, Lonely Planet, and ALL travel websites' recommendations.   All you find at those places are foreigners.  Use Foody to find places in your area.  You won't be able to understand the reviews, so make an educated guess with the notes and symbols, ask a Vietnamese to translate, or use Google translation.  Personally, I would skip Google translation.

- Go where the locals go, shop where the locals shop, eat where the locals eat.  Find a bánh mì (sandwich) cart, a nước mía (sugarcane juice) cart, or a chè (sweet dessert) place where locals stop in every day and be a part of it too.  Stand in line waiting for a plastic cup of sugarcane juice straight from the grinder or sitting on a low stool eating a small bowl of sweet desserts in the evening while being surrounded by ONLY LOCALS is the best ways to say hello, to ask questions, and to make friends.  Even a shy woman would feel less awkward saying hello back when she's in a middle of a friendly crowd.

Buy nước mía after 5:00 when locals stop by the cart on their way home, bánh mì and chè in the evening after dinnertime.  Those food/drink are loved by almost every Vietnamese.

Agree. For the life of me, I can never get my head around all the expats who live, eat and drink with other expats on a daily basis. I live near an expat area and I have been to one bar and one restaurant in 6 months of living here. Most of these expats never leave their comfort zones, which is a pity.

Fear of the Unknown is a real danger for both gender.

Whilst a genuine, confident and sincere smile is (sometimes) difficult, it is ALWAYS well received & reciprocal: reinforcing the 'good person' persona you wish to achieve.

(Bill) Shakespeare covered it with " protesting too strongly "   (trying too hard) 
so practice until you become bored.   Non-threatening people like locals, elderly, cashiers, children, and test yourself with (especially) Government service personnel
until you can convince the person in the mirror. 

No one else will know you're bluffing...

Again, it is choice, not chance that will decide your destiny.

Just do it.

I like how this morphed into a 'how to make friends' thread.
Copy it quick tho, prob get deleted.

And to the OP, those young girls might be eye candy and boost your ego, but an older one won't be taking 75 min on makeup in the morning. And spending every afternoon in the mall posing odd faces into her Apple selfie device.

gobot wrote:

I like how this morphed into a 'how to make friends' thread.

That's one of a few best ways to "get" a woman: Be her friend first.

Ciambella wrote:

gobot wrote:

I like how this morphed into a 'how to make friends' thread.

That's one of a few best ways to "get" a woman: Be her friend first.

I've found the best way is never to try.
What happens, happens and, if it doesn't, it doesn't.

Feckless Fred;   Wooly and wily ways...

"I've found the best way is never to try.
What happens, happens and, if it doesn't, it doesn't."

Not everyone has the skills needed to pull the wool over innocent eyes...   

How about a sign round your neck saying ‘I'm Available'

Seriously, we are coming over shortly for our usual 6 month stay and we are bringing our 26 year old son with us for his first trip abroad and particularly to VN...
As he won't want to spend all his time with his boring old parents especially at night, we sent his picture to several ladies that we have met over the years, his dance card is now full, probably overbooked!
Oh to be young again....

They are everywhere hello

michaellieptourists wrote:

How about a sign round your neck saying ‘I'm Available'

Seriously? 

michaellieptourists wrote:

Seriously, we are coming over shortly for our usual 6 month stay and we are bringing our 26 year old son with us for his first trip abroad and particularly to VN...
As he won't want to spend all his time with his boring old parents especially at night, we sent his picture to several ladies that we have met over the years, his dance card is now full, probably overbooked!
Oh to be young again....

Clearly you are ready for him to move out of the house. Good parenting, creating every opportunity. And you'll still have occasion to see him the other half of the year.

We were thinking about a one way ticket 🤔

I see "BKK" in your username. If this indicates that you've spent time in Thailand, you'll quickly find that meeting and dating women in Vietnam bears little to no resemblance to the fun-loving Thais.

In general, Vietnam is a good place for getting married, but not really for  "getting a young lady".

I like yr Advice! I am Vietnamese so i think it right! 😊😊😊

Tinder

To OP, I've been here only 5 months, and am living (monogamously) with my girlfriend. My experience is that if you can't get any here, you couldn't get any in the proverbial barrel full of them. Time to change tactics, sir.
Fred's advice is the bee's knees.

I reckon the OP is a troll haha. I've had women ask to be my girlfriend... in front of my girlfriend. Either that or he is walking round a mall trying to pick up women that don't speak english but even then

     Don't feed the Troll.........but I do like some of the comments...........

TigerPlease said "I've had women ask to be my girlfriend... in front of my girlfriend."

Yup. Same (same) here.

I don't believe the OP to be a real thought question but more rather a satirical poke in the eye to those that come to Vietnam thinking it is like Thailand.

I just got back from Vietnam after 18 days there and found generally to smile and be respectful gets you a long way. Also not very many people outside the hotel/restaurant business speak very much English. Being a foreigner in Vietnam is not Carte Blanche to a Vietnamese woman's heart.

45 looking for a 25 year old is kind of pushing it. Good luck if you are serious about that. I'm sure it's possible but probably not meaningful.

Texan71 wrote:

45 looking for a 25 year old is kind of pushing it. Good luck if you are serious about that. I'm sure it's possible but probably not meaningful.

Meaning is generally via gender

Men find meaning in sex

Women find meaning in security

The rest is written in human history     

Ya sure they weren't ladyboys?

History is that women have always been man's downfall because he looks for meaning in sex....Proven historically like that

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