Help me meet my Filipino family.

There are plenty of people here who can clean, fix and run errands for a few pesos, and you are looking for housing for 2 adults and 2 children?  Good luck.

Braddock wrote:

Because I am at security risk if I meet her on Mindaneo (even Davao)

Unless wife resides in an ARMM region province, you are not at such a security risk as you many think. Even in light of the current Martial Law down south, expats still travel through out most of the region without issues; both for business and tourism. Not much has changed...more road checkpoints and greater govt security presence in certain areas. 

If your wife lives in Davao then really no major issue. You will hear that Davao City is the safest city in the Philippines, which is not really true; however, it is safer than most crime-wise and where security might be related to terrorism or KFR gangs.

My opinion, but ask others.

Thank you for your advice.

What would a one bedroom apartment in Makati cost? Within walking distance to an elementary school.