Hi ! I am a Greek-American living in California and recently married my Pakistani husband. I would like your advice on whether the following is "normal" within Pakistani culture.
By way of context, I converted long before meeting my husband, and his family never opposed our marriage nor have they expressed disliking me before. My in-laws live in another state - we traveled there to visit them for eid (our first eid as newlyweds). Once we arrived, my mother in law (MIL) showed us where we would be sleeping: in a room normally used as an office by the garage. It was a very cold and it did not have a bed or air matrress - instead, my MIL stacked blankets on the floor for us to sleep on. My in laws are not poor, and they live in a 4 bedroom home - the main guest bedroom was given to my sister in law since she has 2 children, and the remainder of the rooms belong to my (single) siblings-in-law.
I suffered from pretty bad back and knee pain since the room was so cold already, and sleeping so close to the hardwood floor made it even colder. I told my MIL how about pains and she simply (sympathetically) offered to run me a warm bath. That visit left me feeling very hurt and confused. In both Greek and American culture, making a guest sleep on the floor is extremely rude. My husband thinks that the house was simply full due to eid and his mom did her best. But i can't help but wonder why she thought it was acceptable to host a new bride on her first eid on the floor - without even trying to make efforts like purchasing an air mattress, or asking one of the siblings to give up their room for the couch. I can't help but feel that my mother in law was trying to send me a message or perhaps she does not like me. She is not too traditional and very well educated if that helps provide further context.
My question is: is this normal in Pakistani culture ? Is it a rude thing to do to make a guest sleep on the floor in your home ? Any advice or perspective would be so much appreciated!