For those contemplating becoming a father here in Vietnam and having a child with a Vietnamese wife beware. You as a father have no real rights under the Vietnamese Family Law. Before all the legal beagles get their panties in an uproar allow me to explain. Yes, Family Law here says the father has the right to visa the child if the couple become divorced to separated. This is indeed true. However their is no mechanism to enforce the fathers right. So if you go to visit your child and she refuses to let you see them, you are shit out of luck. The police will do nothing and the courts will do nothing. Up until the age of 3, visiting the child is your only hope. The courts will NOT give you shared custody, before the age of 3, under any circumstance other than proving mental incapacity of the mother. This must be proven by a hospital. At the age of 3 the court can give the father partial custody. But again there is no mechanism to enforce the court order. The only hope is to wait until the child turns 9 and then they can decide who they want to live with. Heck by then they may not even know you are their father.
Sad but true. Here they think men have no abilities to care for a child. And to be honest I can see their point if your speaking of the Vnese men here. Many of whom you would have to pry away from a bar or a night out with the boys to care for a child.
And as a sidebar, if anyone is looking for an excellent English speaking VNese attorney PM me and I can put you onto the best I have come in contact with.